in about three months i will get married .
i am starting to get second thoughts .
not for the right gye but for marriage itself.and now?
2007-10-02 06:13:51 · 16 answers · asked by trust me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get some slippers - - you have cold feet
2007-10-02 06:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kaja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make this choice, except you. It's completely normal to get 'cold feet.' Think not of what the marriage will mean, but what it will "do." You accepted his proposal and obviously you knew what you were doing then, but with wedding plans and the stress of getting married in the first place, it's easy to get a cloudy mind and let your subconscious run wild. Stop and rethink, Why do you love him? Think about your prospective life together. Stress will melt into dreams of your future together and help warm up those cold feet. Your feelings are completely normal. Have a wonderful life together and congratulations.
2007-10-02 13:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completley normal. Just makes sure your not regretting the guy, that is something you cant fix. As for being afraid of marriage itself, its just a word. Ususally when a couple decides to get married they have been together for a while and are actually mostly in a marriage setting before they reach the alter, just without the word. You'll be fine.
2007-10-02 13:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by teazzer18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your fiancée and a pre-marriage councilor or a clergy member. If you are having second thoughts then you need to work them out now. They may be jitters, or something more, so it is important for you to work them out.
The longer you wait the harder it will be on you and your fiancée.
If you choose not to go threw with it later, you may hurt alot of people. After all who wanted to be left at the alter.
If you choose to go threw with it and end up unhappy, then you may end up in a bad marriage, making everyone unhappy.
Good luck
2007-10-02 13:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is somewhat normal and your soon to be spouse may be going through similar issues; take the time to discuss it with them. The key to a great marriage is open communication and now is the time to see if your fiance' can handle that. If he or she can't, then consider postponing marriage until you both can maturely talk about thing, otherwise things will go unsaid and fester.
2007-10-02 13:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your just getting pre-marital jitters, cold feet. If your not worried about the guy but your worried about the marriage. Just remember all it is is solidfying your commitment. If your relationship has held on this long to make it down the aisle you should be fine walking down that aisle with the man you love. Talk to someone whos really close to you, who knows you well and understands you and might be able to break it down if they know all the little details that might be of concearn.
2007-10-02 13:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by Queen of the Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold feet is a normal reaction about this time before marriage. One thing that may help is pre- marital counseling. There still is time if one or both of you feel that this is not the bset time in your lives to marry.
2007-10-02 13:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just getting cold feet. It is better to think it through now then regret it later. Be sure of the big step you're about to take. Think also about your future spouse how they will feel.
Good Luck on your choice. Better now then later.
2007-10-02 13:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well now would be the time to discuss this with your partner. If you have questions and/or doubts, discuss it! MAybe the 2 of you can work something out.
2007-10-02 13:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we all know what you are going through--just think about why you fell in love with him in the first place and when you started dating, that always makes me smile and realize I know I made the right choice!
2007-10-02 13:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in doubt, get on out, marry in haste, regret at leisure.
2007-10-02 13:18:29 · answer #11 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋