Is bartending a bad job for married people to have?

Question

Last night I casually mentioned to hubby that I "should go to bartending school". I like making drinks ( not drinking them, but making them). He got all tensed up looking and mumbled something about "late nights". He was then pouty and quiet the rest of the night. Is he being insecure ( thinking I will be up to no good), or is it reasonable to asssume that bartending is a bad job for a married person?

Answer 1

It's reasonable to assume that bartending is bad for your marriage given your husband's reaction.

But your husband's reaction does not apply to all married couples.

Answer 2

As a graduate of bartending school, I wouldn't say it is a total waste of time and money. I would say it gives you the basics on drink pouring and recipes. Honestly though, I learned a lot more working in the business and trying different things. I didn't learn anything in bartending school that I couldn't have learned by buying a book on bartending and practicing at home. Bottom line, if you don't have the money to burn, then don't. You are not gonna get out of bartending school and get a bar gig making tons of money. The only exception is if you are a reasonably attractive female you can make good money working at a go-go/topless bar. But it sounds like that would be an issue with your husband. If I can make a suggestion if you really want to bartend here are some options: -get a job at a private restaurant or club as a barback or server and work your way up. managers are more interested in seeing that you are willing to bust your a** than how many drink recipes you know. -get a catering gig. hotels and catering halls need bartenders for weddings and other functions. its usually guaranteed money plus tips and the hours aren't that late usually. -stay away from neighborhood "dive bars". especially if your husband has an issue with you getting hit on. also the hours s**k. If you are still stuck on going to bartending school, then do your research. As with anything else, there are those who are honest and those who just want to take your money. Find out if they have job placement and check out the places they say hire their graduates. Get recommendations from others and don't give anyone any money without checking out their facility, course offerings, etc. Good luck!

Answer 3

1. You don't have to go to bartending school to learn how to mix drinks. You can find every drink and how to make it on the internet. 2. Of course he won't like the late nights. Men don't like to be alone. This could prompt him to mingle w/ ladies online while you are out late, which is cheating! 3. You know men will flirt w/ you. He probably thinks you would enjoy that more than being home w/ him at night. 4. If you want to mix drinks, buy yourself a bar for your house, some alcohol, and have friends over every weekend. Be sure that your friends chip in for alcohol too! This way, you can mix your drinks and your husband can be w/ you each weekend! =) Good Luck... yes, bartending is a bad job for married people =(... so do your mixing of drinks at home w/ friends and family =)

Answer 4

No way! As long as you and your partner have complete trust in one another, there is nothing wrong with being married and being a bartender. You wouldn't even have to work at an actual bar, you could work at Chili's or a place like it that has a bar, maybe then your husband wouldn't be so iffy about it.

I'm engaged, and my mom actually brought up the idea of being a bartender ... my fiance didnt have a problem with the idea at all .. he just said I better give him free drinks hehe.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Bartending is a bad job for married people. There are to many influences in to many areas for a married person. Plus it can be dangerous.

Answer 6

i am a bartender in a relationship and its tough (as well as have kids). There are always gonna be issues with your man on the men that are in the bar, and he is a man so he understands how pigish men are especially when they are drunk. i work from 6pm till 3am, and the strain it can put on a relationship is tough to handle. You have to have so much trust but even then it isnt enough because he is always gonna worry about the other people out there and how they are treating you. then you have to find out if you think its something you can handle. Being a bartender is more than just slinging drinks, you have a responsiblity to your customers in a number of ways, and you have to put up with there bull sh*t. It takes a lot of patience but if you are good at it and can handle it, its one of the funnest jobs out there. I love my job despite all the crap.

Answer 7

It's probably better for married women. It's not like you'll be getting drunk on the job, and the boss can trust that you won't step over the line with a customer.

Most likely, he's either worried about all the drunk, young guys trying to flirt with you, or that he's not good enough at "bringing home the bacon." And yes, it does require late nights (which also means walking to your car late at night), but I assume that you already know that (you could work during the day, but that doesn't pay enough, since most of your pay will be tips.)

Try talking it over with him - find out what his problem is. If he's worried about you, then maybe you need discuss trust issues.

Good luck!

Answer 8

No job is a bad job for a married person, I think everyone these days should have a job.

Answer 9

I think it would be difficult. I know people who have bartended and you spend the entire night being hit on by drunk guys who want to take you home.

That can be stressing if you are the husband or wife at home at 3 am not knowing where they are.

Answer 10

Can you understand why, whether it be insecurities, or his reasonable doubts? Why would you think a bartending job is good or bad?