i live in connecticut, my ex stole about$ 7000 from me over a period of time untill i figured it out...I know he stole it,and he has admitted it. i basically told him that if he doesnt start paying me back that i will call the cops, and have him arrested...he's telling me there is nothing that they can do, and that he will just deny it...what he did is theft! how can he not be arrested? can someone please explain this to me.... also if you have any suggestions on what i should do, i would really appreciate it. thanks in advance.
2007-10-02 05:45:56 · 6 answers · asked by Steph C 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Do you have any proof? If not you probably won't be able to get anything back.
2007-10-02 05:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from now on.. anytime you claim this try doing so by email, therefor if you do call the cops you can have some type of proof you have contacted him about the issue and he acknowledges what he did, Now if he denys it.. and u have no proof it will be hard.. he can just say it was a gift from you, or it was money that belonged to both of you or himself for that fact. How was the money taken from you? cash? from the bank? do you have a co-joint acct? if not did u give him access to you atm? .. all those questions will be asked if you call the cops.. so make sure you have the answers.. and that you can have proof.. if not sorry .. it will be a lesson to learn.
2007-10-02 12:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by GIGI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You need to contact the police and make a full report.
2) You also need to contact an attorney who deals with family law. If you and your ex were still married (I'm presuming by ex you mean ex-husband or wife), then the police and/or district attorney may determine that its a family law matter, and decline to do anything about it. That's where a family law attorney comes in.
3) Take all the information you have (copies that is) to the law enforcement authorities, and let them handle it. If he stole the money after you were divorced, then its a criminal matter and you should not attempt to indulge in extortion.
For a referral to a family law attorney, contact your local or state bar association.
2007-10-02 12:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Phil R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Criminal charges won't guarantee you get the money back.
If you want the money back, sue him.
As an added benefit, in a criminal trial, you have to convince the judge/jury "beyond a reasonable doubt" that he did it. If you sue him, you just have to prove that it is "more probable than not" that he took it. In other words, you have to have slam-dunk proof 100% that he did it, but in a lawsuit, just 51% is a winner.
I suspect that while what you have may not be 100%, it may well be 51% since it did convince you.
2007-10-02 12:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by open4one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that would depend on if he's an ex-husband or ex-boyfriend. If he's an ex-husband technically the money belonged to both of you. If he's only an ex-boyfriend then I would call the cops if you think you can prove it. Because he WILL deny it.
2007-10-02 12:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie Queen of All ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it up wiht the police, you would need evidence beyond a reasonable doubt.
Instead, take him to small claims court.
Remember that in civil court, you don't have to prove it beyond a reasonable doubt, you only need a preponderance of evidence. So if the evidence favors you by 51%, you win.
You may not get it all back, but you will get most of it if you win.
2007-10-02 12:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Darth Vader 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋