my friend shes really nice and kind but she keeps on saying sorry when she hasnt even done anything .... even when she gets hit she hit him back and then said sorry ? ???
is she doing this for attention ?
2007-10-02 04:44:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Are her parents particularly hard on her or judgmental? Does she lack confidence in other areas too, does she find it easy to make friends and socialise or is she shy? Does she always put herself down or find it hard to accept praise?
If the answer to any of those is yes I'm guessing she's doing it because she has very little self-confidence and so always feels that she's somehow in the wrong or that her opinion isn't worth a great deal.
If you think that's true then it's up to you and her other friends to boost her confidence and make her feel better about herself.
2007-10-02 04:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by †®€Åç∫€ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is a "people-pleaser", someone who thinks their main reason for living is to make everyone else around her happy, even to the exclusion of herself. You might be able to help her by reinforcing anything she does that shows positive progress, or movement forward on her part. She will eventually learn that what she thinks and what she feels are as important as what others think and feel. Lots of people need help in building their self-esteem. I think if more people would say nice things about others (I'm not saying to make things up, but when something positive comes up, then mention it) instead of trying to emulate the so-called comedians these days, or the tv shows & movies that try to out-do each other on how rude or mean or insulting they can be. That doesn't do anyone any good, and can really destroy a person.
2007-10-02 05:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by lilacsandviolets1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is very insecure and maybe in the past she has lost friends and is trying to make sure that she doesnt do the same thing again.
Talk to her and explain to her that she doesnt have to keep saying she is sorry and work on it with her and be a friend and confirm to her that you are not going any where no matter what
2007-10-02 04:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubtful she's doing it for attention. Likely she's grown up in a household where she gets blamed and punished for all sorts of things, whether she is at fault or not, so she habitually apologizes.
2007-10-02 04:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has poor self esteem and is afraid people won't like her. If you want to help her, find things she does well and point them out to her. If someone hits her, say "let's go somewhere else, we don't need him."
2007-10-02 04:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know someone like that - if she accidentally bumps into me or something, she apologizes for 10 minutes.
Maybe she's worried that you don't really like her and she's trying to stop you from not liking her?
2007-10-02 04:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is deeply insecure.
2007-10-02 04:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do it when I'm nervous or unsettled. Thats just me, ask her? it may just be a habit
2007-10-02 04:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has something to be sorry for.... or maybe its just a habbit.
2007-10-02 04:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Carol 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her why she's so apologetic and you'll soon find out!
2007-10-02 04:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by TwinyC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋