Okay I know this is wrong but I've formed this relationship with a married woman. I'm married too. She says she loves her husband. I love my wife. But her and I have this incredible chemistry. We have not slept together, we have'nt kissed. We're saying we're "special friends". Whatever that means right. We've both expressed that our feelings go far beyond the freinds level. We're trying to do the right thing. How do you deal with this? Has this ever happened to you? Does it just go away over time. Part of me wishes it would, part of me fears it will.
2007-10-02 04:17:09 · 10 answers · asked by Lucas M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't have a case of love sickness. You have that gross disease you get right before you cheat/leave your spouse. Hope you get feeling better soon.
2007-10-02 04:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by no kidding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For whatever reason you both have allowed yourselves to be in this vulnerable position. You can't or won't control your emotions and basically see each other as a fantasy (special friends). Like you said, you both know this is wrong but your heads are so clouded and your emotions are all jacked up that neither one of you are doing the right thing. If you don't stop there will be serious consequences. More than likely you two will afflict major hurt on your family's and yourselves. Gaining the trust of your spouse back will take years, if they still even want you. After it's all said and done you be wondering how you could of been so foolish.
If you know this is wrong (which you do), and it controls your behavior (which it has) then you need stop without looking back. Seek professional help if necessary. Wish you the best.
2007-10-02 12:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your wife and her and her husband were so in love what are you doing looking and feeling for another... Maybe the two of you would be better off together... Don't cheat... Just be honest with your wife and she should be honest with her husband...
If the both of you are willing to do that then I say follow your heart. If there are reservations on either end, stop seeing your "special friend" before all 4 of you are hurt & marriages are broken...
2007-10-02 11:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will lead into a affair. if you really "LOVE" your wife, you will cut it off today, never call her or see her again. YOu also need to come clean with your wife. You need to be very careful from now on and keep your distance from other women. You will have a higher % of having a affair with another woman. You need to have this "incredible chemistry" with your wife.
2007-10-02 11:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur having an emotional affair.
its great that u havent acted out on it! that means u still have time to do the right thing. talk to this X- woman of urs, let her know that its over, honey, u know u have to do it before ur wife figures out whats going on. concentrate on ur marriage,
looks this other woman has to work on hers too, its wrong to confide personal (love) feelings on someone that is not ur spouse. thats why u married her, right?
u having fear of loosing this woman, is not the point. ur afraid of loosing this feeling, why not try to get it back from ur wife? u once had it , what happened?
think about this................ ur just looking for something that u once had with ur wife.
luck to ya!
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2007-10-02 11:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in dangerous territory.
You would both be smart to agree to not see each other except when other people (such as your spouses) are around.
You have both made commitments to other people you needs to put your energy into honoring and working on that commitment. Care for her enough to be the mature person and break it off and walk away.
2007-10-02 11:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by keezy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to be with your wife....try stop seeing the other girl and talking to her. if you can't do that then the both of you are very inseparable
2007-10-02 11:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by dat_lil_angel08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing her and remember your wedding vows. No good can come from this...
2007-10-02 11:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop seeing her before anything gets worse
2007-10-02 11:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by summerfairy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IDIOT ALERT!!!
IDIOT ALERT!!
IDIOT ALERT!!!!
NOTHING good will come of this, mark my words.
2007-10-02 11:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋