I am 24 yrs old and i have been with my man who is 28 for 2 1/2 years. We love each other very much and will spend the rest of our lives together.We talk about having chi, we are not married yet but rngaged to be just trying to save $$ for a wedding, and we both think we shold be married first
2007-10-02 04:15:19 · 21 answers · asked by joanna g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you hit 35, theres more of achance of heath problems that come along with pregnancy, and a bigger chance of birth defects for the child.
2007-10-02 04:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Honey Blood Coma♥ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Saving money is good but I'll be honest and say that I think people often spend far too much on weddings. Use the money for a down payment on house or something tangible. Good for you for waiting to have kids until after you are married. In my opinion mid 30s is the cut off because you do not want to be in your mid 50s and still have kids in the house plus for us younger types, it is easier to still play ball and stuff with the kids.
I had my son when I was 23 and he is now 10- we do just fine. I couldn't imagine if I was 43 now instead of 33 though A LOT of people around here with kids my sons age are a lot older than I am and a few are somehow younger.
2007-10-02 11:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only too late when mother nature takes its toll and says its to late and u wont hit that till ur in your 40's .. now with that said, women over the age of 35 are considered to be at a higher risk during pregnancy but they do it all the time with out any complications.. i had children very young my youngest child i had at 26 my oldest children i had at 19 and 20 .. and although i love my children and wouldnt change it.. the cons of having children young is that the children tend to struggle with u financially and u have issues trying to stabalize a "home, finances" etc..
The Pros of having them young is that they leave the house while ur still young
The pros of having them in your 30's , is that ur usually fiancially more stable to handle the costs of children and a household..
2007-10-02 11:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before a women turns 30 is considered healthy and save for both the mother and the child. You should at least have your first before 30. After 30 the risks of complications increase every year. You are only 24, so you can wait a few years to have child. For your man it won't matter how old he is, as long as he is fertile. So yeah you do have some time to save money for your wedding and for your first child. good luck.
2007-10-02 11:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just my personal opion here. my mom was 44 and my dad was 45. my sis was 18 and my brother was 16. they all hated the idea of another kid except my dad. my dad pretty much raised me. my parents are dead. i'm 40 now. my brother never talks to me. and my sis is on and off with me. i hardley knew them growing up. i see many people have kids and are still saving to be married and the kids or now 10 or so. its hard to save once you start having kids. i'm 40 and my kid is almost 15. it will be nice to be alone for real when she does move out. and i would expect to be a grandma by her age of 24 or so. yea, 24 is young but it takes about 20 years to raise a kid. and then there are grandkids. i dont think 24 is too young to start having kids. i think anything over 35 is too old to start. if i was in your shoes i would go for the cheep wedding and get the paper signed making it legal. but for the 25th wedding aniversery baby watch out redue the wedding or have one big big trip around the world. and 60 years old is just way too old to have kids.
2007-10-02 11:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ida 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is most important to make sure the environment in which you plan to bring a child into the world is stable first. You have plenty of time. It's probably best to plan to have a first child before you are 35 and best to plan to have all your children before you are 40, so you can work backwards from there - how many children do you hope to have? How far apart do you want them, etc. Overall - first make their home...then make them. Good luck to you and your boyfriend.
2007-10-02 11:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Paula S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree you should wait until your married. When to have kids its a decision you both have to decide your both only in your twenties you have plenty of time to create a family enjoy your twosome for a while. You make it sound like if your in your 50's, believe me you will miss these times after having children.
2007-10-02 13:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal cut off was 25 but overall I don't really think women over 35 should have kids. The older you are the more lax you are with discipline. That's why there are so many spoiled brats.
2007-10-02 11:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still so young, you have plenty of time! You're never too old to have children as long as your biologically able, but you need to keep in mind that every year over 35 you go, it exponentially increases the risk of Down's Syndrome. I guess some people don't want their kids to be the one with the "old" parents, but as long as your 30 or so, it won't be that bad.
2007-10-02 11:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
marriage then children, not for the best solution, simply for ur future children's sake, there is a lot of what ifs , marriage means secure home, where children should stay at , not at weak home.
think about it, u can marry and wedding can be made later when u have money.
2007-10-02 11:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by michael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋