teenagers and abusive relationships?

Question

My first and only abusive relationship happened as a teenager. I started teaching my daughter at a young age to not put up with any one pushing her around, especially someone who is suppose to love her and to not push others around. If I have a son I will teach him the same thing.

Ran across this on MSN thought it might make an intresting discussion for more intresting than Spears and her loss custody.

Teenage girls who stick close with their circle of friends are less likely to take abuse from the boys they date, a new study suggests

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20994171/

What do you think?

Answer 1

I think there tip-toeing around the real reasons that having a group of close-knit friends works. And why their survey/experiment/goodwill piece, is compassianless. The truth is people who stay within stable friends groups are going to understand BETTER what it means to be in a geniune relationship, on top of the fact that good friends won't let you sell yourself short. But this is all a consequence of the fact love isn't enough, even having friends isn't enough. That type of spill is going to get people caught up in group-dynamics that propetiate this tendency of people to reach more for love, then friendship. When you can't have ONE without the other. Did you know that your abusive ex-boyfriend DID LOVE YOU!!! Your not even looking at it right, telling yourself, he was SUPPOSE to love me, OF COURSE HE FIN LOVE YOU!!!! Don't make a simple situation complicated, because the point wasn't the love, just like the "friend" fix. Its about HOW you love, make sure you tell the son that to, and the daughter that it isn't about the love, they'll find plenty of love! But finding someone to do it right, or knowing HOW to do it right, now thats the trick. Which is why that friends idea COULD work, ONLY if the groups of friends is willing to understand love (there emotions really), this world, and each other. Which TYPICALLY good people will do, but in our culture we have a shortage. So I'm kind of bitter at the way they depicted that piece, they could of done better to explain HOW friends help, and also WHY not having close friends (espacilly not one) would make you EXTREMELY likly to get into an abusive relationship. But they should of also explained better how INTIMACY plays in a relationship, and a friendship so people could of better be able to understand how there basically the same, accept for what your purpose is...... which most people loss sight of and allow themselves to get beat for the sake of love alone...... no offense.... love isn't enough, its how you use it.....