what is killing me the most is that he has started visiting his wife wihtout letting me know, more like he is sneeking behind my back. more interesting is that he missed our appointment and gave an excuse that he was attending a wedding ceremony and yet he was at his wife´s place and never told me but i found out on my own. what do i do!
2007-10-02 04:07:24 · 40 answers · asked by life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well firstly it would do some good if you would remind yourself that if he can do this (this scenario abt separating with his wife and all that) to someone, then he's capable of doing it again. im not saying its a bad idea or anything of that sort, but maybe some lines have to be straightened out before a relationship can truly start.
lying in a relationship never helps anything but makes matters worse, and if he feels he has to lie in order to do something, than maybe you have to start thinking about what's best in this relationship. i dont know the scenario exactly.. but what you can do is think about what's been going on so far. the fact is that if he had to lie to you, there either is a good reason (maybe he thought you'd be upset), or there's something wrong.
figure it out, think it through, before you think about committing or continuing in this relationship. if in the end you feel that its a small problem that can be worked out, then go ahead and i wish you all the best. but take careful consideration...
2007-10-02 04:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by AutumnFlames 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
You already know what you should do so your question should be, "How do I stay away from him?" I did exactly what you are doing right now and I am living proof it is all going to blow up in your face if you don't get out now. My boyfriend's estranged wife and daughter moved back to her country and all I heard was it is over and there is no way we are getting back together. 4 years later all I have to show for it is a broken heart and a credit card statement showing how I helped him. I can tell you right now that the guy is blowing smoke up your a@@ and his wife's a@@ so if you want to keep what dignity you have left and you do not want to be a bitter woman who in a year from now keeps rehashing over and over to her friends how you were duped, I would suggest you end it right now and NEVER ever date another man who is just separated. I could go on and on over all the stupid excuses I heard but all that does is get me pissed all over again and I want to get PAST THAT!
So does this help you with your decision as to what to do?
2007-10-02 13:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll probably end up going back to his wife.Never date a separated man.Or woman unless they have been that way for years and well over each other.A child will also play on their relationship.If he lies to you about seeing his wife,you can rest assure he has got something else to hide like having sex with her.Talk to him about it.Tell him you know.And after this don't go out with married men separated or not.Good Luck,better to find out now than later
2007-10-02 04:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by sandy v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-24 01:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
particularly of the money he could ask "what do the toddlers want" then bypass get it for them. that's the reality of relationship somebody with toddlers. understand that he's not unavoidably rescuing her yet helping the toddlers. so a ways as what number greater situations this could happen - lots. he's agreed to shelter the toddlers and it is going to likely be until the final one is out of school. until then you certainly are #2 in his existence. the toddlers will constantly come first. that's between the numerous the clarification why i'm very reluctant to this factor every physique with toddlers. You needless to say have not gotten to the degree the place the toddlers are actively attempting to sabotage your relationship with him. it could worsen. ...
2016-12-17 15:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visiting his wife without letting you know? You do realize that you are the one that isnt legally married to him right??? I do not understand why so many women continue to get involved with still married men. Wait until he is legally divorced, nothing good can come from hooking up with someone that is merely seperated.
Find yourself a man that isnt married and that will be faithful.
2007-10-02 04:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he and his wife are entertaining the idea of getting back together. Only thing you can do is confront him about it and put it to a head to see what he's doing. He may just be working things out for the divorce and child support arrangements for visitation or custody. Not much else you can do if they are still legally married.
2007-10-02 04:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
To be in a situation like that, I think you both have to be 110 percent honest with each other. If the guy is not being honest with you now, then I would seriously consider letting him go.
Love and trust go together in my opinion and if there is no trust there now.....
2007-10-02 04:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling, u have to be realistic, he is not going to leave his wife!
he sneaked around with u, now he is doing the same with his wife. these type of men, wont give up their family for nothing in the world.
u need to let him go back. honey, have the guts to look for someone that dosent have any commitments (wife or girlfriend). u have a better chance of having a real relationship and not one that u have to share with someone else.
good luck honey!
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2007-10-02 04:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you really shouldn't date someone who is separated. He is still married. The purpose of a separation is to see if things can be mended before officially getting divorced. So, you dating a man who is still married is getting in the way of his family. You can't be jealous that he is visiting his wife. She is his wife and that's where he belongs.
2007-10-02 04:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by emily1980 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋