Plz Help!!!?

Question

Hi, I actully was TTC since early this year. Had a check up and doctor claimed that my ovulation is not regular and so was on medication and conceived in June. Then had a miscarriage in week 8 and did a D&C. And of course we didnt have sex for sometime then. About 2 weeks. But what I noticed is my husband lost interest in intercourse. I used to try to get him into the mood but sometimes he says he is too tired.

Secondly I did my d&c 19th July and had my period on 13th August, was spotting on the 3rd of Sept and again spotting on the 13th followed by period. I did tell my husband that my ovulation period would be somewhere around the 26 - 29th Sept but he didnt show any interest in trying.

Need help
1) Not sure why my hubby's character had changed
2) Is it normal to have these kinda menstrual cycle after a d&c

I'm really confused as my doctor is also not around and I dont wanna consult a new doctor and start all over again.

Thank You in advance.

Answer 1

Maybe the miscarriage was harder on your husband than it seems? He might be afraid to start trying again because of the risk of miscarriage? See if you can get him to open up about it. The other thing is that when ttc, sex does become a chore. Each partner has to want it as much as the other or one of you will lose interest.

Periods can be off a little when you have a d/c. Give it a few months to settle and it should get back on track. Of course, if it doesn't, you should tell your doc.

Answer 2

You can always call his office and speak with his nurse. The nurse should have the ability to help you. I know I am a nurse in a clinic and am able to help patients without necessarily consulting the doctor about their questions, and if I do need to consult him-I can always call and then get back to the patient after talking with him.

It is normal to have wacky periods after a trauma like that. A miscarriage alone can change your period, and a D&C will usually somehow affect your period. But if you are concerned, call his office and speak with his staff.

As for your husband, the miscarriage might have hit him harder emotionally than he is letting on. He may be losing interest in sex due to the fact that he is scared to go through that ordeal again. It is also a very emotionally and physically exhausting thing for a man to go through. Give him a little bit of time....and besides, after a miscarriage and D&C, it is always wise to wait at least one ovulation cycle-if not two, before trying to get pregnant again.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Answering to your hubby's character...another mans opinion...

I'm speculating That The wonderful...mysterious....ever seeking...ever beautiful...we''ll die for...drive hundreds of miles for....spend money we don't have for....part of the female anatomy has become a source of stress

And he's probably shell-shocked.

No Man ever loses interest in intercourse...ever....never ever.

But it appears you are "penciling him in" for intercourse on the 29th...it appears the relationship is progressing past spontaneity...and into appointment making...this is a hard adjustment.

Also, he might not like watching suffer through all this

Answer 4

What you are experiencing is indeed normal after a d&c, not to worry.
As for your husband, could be he is mourning your loss of his child....don't push the issue, just be understanding and loving, if his mood doesn't change after six months or so then suggest counselling, for both of you.

Answer 5

please dont worry to much,my husband is the same,he works away all the time and when he is at home he isnt interested in me,some men are just weird,and yes this kinda things happen a lot,its just your hormones playing up,but when you can see a doctor you must,as they might be able to help you,GOOD LOOK