My little girl will be 3 months on Friday, she sleeps so good in the bed with us, but I don't. I wake up all the time to make sure she is okay, and I sleep to uncomfortably making sure she is okay. My husband thinks that we are spoiling her by letting her sleep with us, and wants her in her crib at night. I can't handle the 'crying it out' I think she is too young, and it breaks my heart! My mother watches her during the day and says that she naps in the pack n play, but won't at home. What do I do? Help!
2007-10-02 02:50:59 · 10 answers · asked by Nicole M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I sleep with my dd as well, and for us it works. But it doesn't work for everyone. If you and your hubby are not happy with your arrangement, you guys need to figure out another one.
Look into getting an Amby Baby Hammock. http://www.ambybaby.com/ . We bought ours for a third of the price on eBay. It's great for babies with reflux, colic, or just plain fussy babies =D
Don't worry, you are not spoiling her by attending to her needs. She cries b/c she needs her mommy. Good job for not letting her "cry it out".
2007-10-02 03:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Green Is Sexxxy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to transition her to a crib from cosleeping, do it slowly and make sure you let her have your scent (sleep with her crib sheet next to your skin and then put it in the crib). Try reading the No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantly. It works for us. I enjoy cosleeping with a small baby, and am working my daughter (who will 9 months on Friday) into her crib. She started to wake up twice and I got her settled back in without picking her up and NO crying at all. I slept bad because I am not used to her being in her room (we had to wait until we got new windows because hers wouldn't open), but I know from experience that soon enough I will be sleeping as good as baby! As long as you do it lovingly, it should go well.
2007-10-02 04:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tina B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is her crib in your room or in the nursery? If its in her room then you could put the pack n play next to your bed at night so she is still close to you. Or you could let her fall asleep with you and then move her to her crib. I don't know if she would be too big or not, but they make bassinets that are made to go right up next to the bed, it would be a good way to transition her. It is really not safe to let her sleep in your bed, i know you don't want to let her cry out at night but after a week or so she would adjust. You could also try rocking her to sleep in her room or where ever the crib is, then putting her in it. Or does she have a swing that she will fall asleep in? My niece always napped in her swing and bouncer seat. Good Luck.
2007-10-02 03:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, Mom, I'm on your husband's side in this case.
He is correct--you are spoiling her and this is NOT a good thing. How are you and hubby ever going to have privacy for the things that married people need privacy for if you keep on letting your baby sleep with you?
My father was in the Army when my brother was born and my mother made the same mistake you are making--letting him sleep in the same bed with her. He was about two when Daddy came home and put a stop to it.
At this point there is only one way to break her of the habit and that's to put her in her crib and let her cry it out. Mama said it took four nights before my brother didn't cry when he was put to bed. It broke her heart to listen to my brother cry, but she knew it had to be done. Better 4 nights NOW than 4 weeks later! She'll get over it and it won't hurt her psyche a bit.
This isn't the worst story I've ever heard about parents letting their kids sleep with them. That one was a woman who slept IN THE CRIB with her baby!
Good luck.
2007-10-02 03:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have actually elbowed my daughter in the middle of the night when she was young.
Try a crib at the end of your bed. Your daughter will grow out of it and will want to sleep in her own room.
But you need to stop checking up on her if you need the sleep. She will wake you up when she needs something.
2007-10-02 03:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Fred Head 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'cry it out method' stinks but it is effective. And, the sooner you do it, the better off you will be. Try to get your little one on a routine. Dinner, bath, book, and bed...put her in her crib and walk out. Go load the dish waster, take a shower, and walk the dog. Hopefully in this amount of time, she will go to sleep. Each night will get better, she will cry less and less. At 3mths, she may not sleep through the night, you still may have to feed her once or possibly twice. Again, a schedule is wonderful. Babywise by Gary Ezzo is a great book if you like to read.
2007-10-02 03:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are a lot of techniques that I know of, most of them aren't recommended for babies younger than 4 months. Still, the most common problem we see in peds is that babies are held or cuddled until they fall asleep. So once your feel your baby is ready to go to her crib, it will be very important for you to put her in her crib while she is slightly awake ( you may even have to do the unthinkable and slightly rouse her if she is sleeping when it's time for her to get in bed). This teaches your baby to comfort herself. She will be drowsy but not yet asleep so it's unlikely that she will cry for long, if at all. This will help you a great deal in getting her to sleep in her crib. I know of a few parents who let the baby sleep in her car seat for a few nights while she gets used to you not being right next to her. She will still feel cozy and held, but you will get your sleep! I hope these things help! Don't feel bad about this. Moms need their rest if they are going to take care of their families! Getting a good nights rest is the best thing you can do for your family!
Good luck to you!
missy
2007-10-02 03:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by Pedsgurl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
:) She won't sleep at home like she does for your mother because she's used to the closeness with you...if you're not sleeping at all, then it's really not working you...
Try getting her rock solid to sleep first, then lying her down her crib. She'll probably fight it for the first while - it'll likely be a bit of a rocky transition, but you'll get there. :)
Good luck!
2007-10-02 03:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh. Your daughter should NOT be sleeping with you IN YOUR BED. It's a major health risk to her!!!! When I had my daughter, and when I have my son, we plan on him sleeping in our room with us, in HIS own bed. Maybe you can put the pack n play next to your bed, than she will know you are there and you'll be calmer and be able to sleep without worrying that you rolled over on top of her during the night. You can also then transition as she gets bigger to her own room.
2007-10-02 02:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by xxautumnwalkerxx 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try putting her in her car seat and rocking her to sleep, leave her there to sleep if you need to, this is how my son learned to sleep alone and now at 4 months he doesn't want to sleep with us.
2007-10-02 02:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋