ive been with my partner now for 2 years he has 2 children and in the last week we have got a house together...his mother has never liked me hes a real mummys boy which really annoys me as soon as we fall out he goes runnin to mumsy also his mum always goes to his exs house and she always goes to his mums and now we have our house i found it a real shock realising that i have his kids to look after on a weekend...i keep denying it but i really dont want it im 20 and my partners 28 i want him not his baggage aswell...by the way he nevar saw his kids until a year into our relationship as his ex would not let him see them....i hate it when he has to go to her house to pick them up and i dont know what they are saying to each other and i get jelouse when the kids are round him all the time and i cant get near him...i no i probebly sound a jealous paraniod b**ch but im finding it really hard to bond with his kids get on with his mother and starting to ask..is he worth it?
2007-10-02 02:41:05 · 6 answers · asked by barrytho 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well firstly I will say get over that jealousy real quick.. He HAS to have a friendly relationship with her if he wants to see his kids.
Secondly I will say, you need to rethink your relationship with him. Those children are not his BAGGAGE! They are a part of the PACKAGE that makes him who his is. The children are a blessing not a curse. If you are not ready for children then you should leave NOW before they are too attached to you.
2007-10-02 02:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are buying a house together then you've thought about this a little late. You should go with him when he picks up the kids and takes them home. His mother doesn't like you because he is a mommy's boy. They don't like any woman their son is with. She probably didn't like his ex until she became his ex. You are just going to have to let the kids have dad time when they are there. You'll have to get your time when they are at mom's house. If you don't want all his baggage let him have it hisself. That means you just let it be. Find something else to do when he has the kids. Also if they just started coming around you have to give them time to adjust. Calm down. Let him run to his mommy at least he's not running to the ex.
2007-10-02 09:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by shellshell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm the package (the man in question) comes complete with two kids whom you do not get along with. You do not get along with his mommy, and she apparently does not like you. You do not like him going over to X's to pick up the kids. you are 20, (not really good step mom material yet) you do not like it when the kids are with their dad, ....this does not sound like a good recipe for a good strong lasting relationship.
I would think about finding a new address with out the man in question. You are not ready for this type of arrangement, that is clear. For the children's sake get out of the picture. It is not too late, right now it is just a house you have to split, please do not bring another child (yours) into the picture..
2007-10-02 09:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by wahoo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your only 20 for gods sake you need to have fun, spend a little bit of time with his children and then go out with your mates shopping or for lunch, if they sleep over go out every other weekend with your mates and leave him to watch them, don't worry about his ex cos that's exactly what she is his ex, there's nothing you can do about his mother going to his ex's house and that's probs just been kept on friendly terms so she can see her grand children..stick at it for a while and see if things settle down and see how you feel before doing any thing drastic good luck
2007-10-02 09:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's taking off and leaving you to babysit, then don't stay with him. If he's there in the house, try planning an event that everyone will like.
2007-10-02 09:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has the problems.
2007-10-02 09:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋