I have a 3 month old who has always fought to go to sleep. She wants her passi to sleep but of course won't hang onto it. She has that tongue thrust reflex and pushes it out. While she is napping during the day, and I can keep an eye on her, I fold up a burp cloth and wedge it next to her so she can spit the passi out. But at night, I don't do that, because I can't see her and I don't want her to cover her face with it. She moves around so much as she is trying to fall asleep that she pulls the passi out and I have to stand there next to her crib holding the passi until she falls asleep - sometimes and hour or more and at 2 in the morning it is exhausting. Sometimes I rock her to sleep, but she usually wakes up as I put her back in her crib and I am back to square one. Has anyone gone through this and might have any tips/suggestion/advice. Please help - I need sleep!!!!
2007-10-02 02:18:15 · 6 answers · asked by Stacey M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just so it is clear: I do feed her in the middle of the night when she wakes up.
2007-10-02 06:24:16 · update #1
I feel your pain. My son will literally thrash if there is something he finds interesting going on and it is nap or bedtime. I can tell he's overtired, but he won't have it! The good news is that during growth spurts, you will get a little relief from it. Every time my guy goes through one, he nods off a little more peaceably when it is time.
He is also a paci guy, and, he loses his too. We've found that a couple of things in his crib help. The first is his Rainforest soother. The second is his Womb Sounds bear. Even when the paci becomes dislodged and he awakens, they mesmerize him to calm him, and he eventually nods back off.
More good news - he is grabbing and putting his own paci back in. (He is 5 months). So worst case, it won't be too long before she is able to do that.
She is just around the corner to self-soothing capabilities, which will be a welcome relief for you!
2007-10-02 02:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just have no compassion for others but try and sit here and give advice..
Anyway now that that's out of the way i can give you some advice. My son needed his passi to go to sleep to and it does get annoying after a while, however, it's all mental if they go to sleep with it and wake up they want it. What you can do is b4 she goes to sleep with her last bottle if you haven't already done this put some cereal in it make her milk thicker where she is full and will sleep all night trust me it works like a charm. When she gets up in the middle of the night it's to eat it's not for the pacifier. My son started sleeping from 10 pm to 8 am at 1 month old b/c he ate more b4 bed so he slept more through the night. Also, try and get that passi out of her routine cus it's nightmare as they get older to get them to not want it anymore. My son was almost 3 yrs. old when he finally gave it up and even then he started thumb sucking, it's just that they feel comfort when they have it in their mouths. Good luck!
2007-10-02 04:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stacey, If you can get into the habit of putting her into the crib while awake without her pacifier, you will do yourself a huge favor! Teach her to fall asleep on her own without any props. At night, offer her dinner, a bath, a book, and then put her into her bed. Make this an every night routine. Forget about the pacifier. This will take about 2 weeks...but you won't be stuck for 1-2 hrs rocking her or holding the pacifier. Yes, it stinks when they cry for 20-45 minutes but each day will get better and then you will have peace. Great book for moms...it's called Babywise by Gary Ezzo.
2007-10-02 03:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's getting to the stage where you've got to let her learn to pacify herself. You're going to have to let her cry. It is nerve wracking (and better for your neighbors if it doesn't happen at 3 in the morning) but if you continue to nurture the baby to sleep, she'll never learn to do it for herself. I had the exact same problem with my daughter and when she was about 5 months old, I had to do this. I had even made things worse because she had been sleeping in the bed with me. NEVER let a baby sleep with you. That is the worst habit to break. They have to learn to sleep alone and to pacify themselves so they can go to sleep. It might take a few tries, but your little girl will soon get the hang of it.
Before bedtime, make sure she is fed, burped well and changed. If you have to feed her in the middle of the night, make it a small feeding with as little noise and light as possible.
Good luck! :)
2007-10-02 02:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are waaay overthinking this.
Three-month old babies will most likely not be able to sleep throughout the night anyway. She will need at least one "middle-of-the-night" feeding. If she's waking up and crying in the night and you're trying to get away with just cramming a pacifier in her mouth, then you are never going to solve your problem.
The pacifier falling ot doesn't cause her to wake up. Rather, when she wakes up, and her pacifier is gone, she notices.
Feed her. then if she doesn't slip back into sleep, offer her the binkie.
2007-10-02 02:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would stop giving her the sucky during the day for naps cause now she needs it at night. Try something else! Like holding her for naps during the day or just let her cry herself to sleep but no longer than 15 mins. Myself i have to let my daughter cry herself to sleep now she is teething ( i think)
2007-10-02 02:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by momma2beagain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋