It's been a while since he left me all alone... Just the thought of it makes me break down and cry, especially when I reminisce about our memories together.
I know I shouldn't dwell on the past, move on, distract myself, and concentrate on my studies since I'm too young, etc. ...
But I JUST CAN'T. It's as difficult as having to gain the trust of a friend after hurting her feelings, just because you were blinded by the fact that you're breaking her heart and turning into a heartless b*tch. (but that's another story)
I'm already flunking my subjects (even the ones that I'm usually good at) just because when I try to concentrate, suddenly I'm attacked by the ghost of my past, then I start to lose focus. I can't even find serenity in my life anymore.
I know my mom has her own problems and I don't want to add to it, but I need her so bad since she's the closest one I've got whom I know has been through things like these.
2007-10-02 01:55:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm so sorry. Noting hurts as bad as the loss of love. I understand how it can take over all of your thoughts. However, the only way to get through it is to feel the pain.
In order to get your school work done, try to find something you enjoy doing to distract you, maybe try to get a study partner.
Definitely talk to someone, a friend, therapist, anyone you trust. Pain is easier if you have someone to help you through it. And know that it does get better.
Good Luck
2007-10-02 02:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Busybake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many people ask me how can I heal. I've been hurt. ... It's so easy to say, ?This guy ripped me off and I hate him and men are jerks?. But the truth is that if you got hurt, you co-operated in it. You allowed it. You ignored the warning signs. You didn't listen to the little voice that say that's not right. You gave up who you were to get something back. You may not have been conscious that you did it but you did it. Some part of you betrayed yourself.
So the healing that really needs to happen is between that part of you that sold you out and your heart. When you can truly take your power back by seeing how you got yourself in that situation, seeing how to stayed in it, seeing how you kept yourself in denial because it was more comfortable, seeing how you didn't listen to that inner voice, those warnings, then there's no need to learn to trust anyone else. You trust yourself. You make a commitment to yourself. I will never betray you again. I will never settle for less than I deserve.
Because you are on your own side. You are your own warrior, you are your own protector. So that's an understanding I really try to share with people. Because walking around with those emotional walls that say love hurts me is a real misunderstanding. Love never hurts you. It's not loving yourself that hurts you.
2007-10-02 08:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, it's been so long since I was in love that I can barely remember feeling like this.
Honestly, they're not worth it hunny. Don't trash your studies because of this. I almost trashed my studies over a man and I'm so embarrassed by it now.
You really are gonna have to grit your teeth and concentrate on things of importance.
It's just your brain chemicals that are doing this to you. You're just having a crash after the highs. Things will straighten out for you if you give them the chance.
2007-10-02 02:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom- that's what she's there for. She'll probably tell you to grow up and deal with it.
HE IS JUST A MAN.
There will be more- though you may always be in love with him. For some people- it will never go away (trust me, I know) But learn to understand- he is obviously not what you thought he was, and you may be more in love with what you imagined him to be, than what he really is.
Learn to think of the him you are in love with as someone who doesn't really exist. You were fooled- and it happens all the time. Good luck- and truthfully- time heals all wounds.
2007-10-02 02:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by tariktchach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom always told us nobody dies from a broken heart, but god it feels like you are,i know someone has already told you time will heal all pain and right now you think theres no way, try to get out and have fun, and be around people,stay busy, Don't just set around by yourself this just makes things worse. i promise on down the rode theres someone for you that will make you feel good again, and i know you don't think so but it will happen. good luck.
2007-10-09 04:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need serious help? Then what are you doing HERE!? I highly recommend discussing this with a school counselor, or maybe your doctor. They'll be able to help you better than a bunch of internet morons. You deserve to feel better, so do it right away. Good luck!
2007-10-02 02:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get over someone is to get under someone!!!
2007-10-07 12:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by leslie b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋