He is also married. we had no physical affair ( we dont intend to have) but we both like each other. I think about him alot!
2007-10-02 01:50:54 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apart from the moral part think of the harm that it will cause you. if you move ahead with this other guy, you'll find it very difficult to reverse your steps. If not anyone else, just be kind to yourself.
2007-10-02 02:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by bebe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have to say no...there is a huge difference between friendly flirting and taking it to different levels, but i really feel if you are having to ask if it is ok then you should not be flirting. I mean, smile at each other, talk to each other,be friends...but I would not take it to the flirting level. i personally am a huge flirt and that is why i am answering this. I might be wrong but I get the feeling from you asking that you may feel guilty for flirting since you are both happily married?? Once guilt steps in,even for harmless,friendly flirting,then it needs to stop. it does not mean you are a bad person. I have just found from my own experiences that once you really start wondering if it is still ok to flirt that it really isn't. like I said, you are not a bad person for wondering.Hope my advice helps.
2007-10-02 02:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by hazelgrneyes1976 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you that naive? How do you think affairs start? You're not only flirting with another man, you're flirting with disaster. You're trying to see how close you can get to the fire without getting burned. If you were my wife, I'd know that it would only be a matter of time before you cheated on me. I'd be ready to leave you when that happened... perhaps even sooner...
2007-10-02 02:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing is playing a dangerous game. You should stop while you can because the flirting will lead to something else sooner or later.
Here's a suggestion: Go to your husband and ask him:
Honey, is it okay if I flirt with another man?
Now what do you think his answer will be... And if he were to come to you and say he wants to flirt with another woman... how would you feel...
Get real. You don't flirt with someone when you're married to someone else. Like I said, it's a dangerous game. Now unless you don't love your husband, then you should keep far away from this other man.
2007-10-02 01:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
sure i think its ok to flirt, its nice to get urself a nice healthy appitite for sex. and whats the worst thing that can happen, u'll both have an affair that might just spice ur life up. sometimes u meet someone thats very special to u but u met them too late in life because u already started one with someone else. that shouldn't hold u two back, explore ur options here and see what u'd both like to do. good luck to u both and enjoy
2007-10-02 02:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat others as you wish to be treated. This is the question you can ask yourself: If my husband had the same feelings for another woman as I do this man, would it be okay? If my husband flirted with another woman as I do with this man, would I mind?
These are the questions you should be asking yourself. If you would be upset....well there is your answer. If not, I think you should rethink your marriage, because you are clearly married to a man you don't love.
2007-10-02 02:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gretta 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you are wishing for a divorce in the near future. This is one of those times when you need to turn to your husband and not someone else. You know you are feeling an attraction to this man, so run far-far away from him. It is temptation rearing its' head. Most people 'don't intend' to have an affair either. Go hug and kiss that hubby of yours.
2007-10-02 01:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No it is not okay at all. It lessens your commitment to your husband. It would be extremely disrepectful to both your husband and the man's wife. When you chose to get married it meant that you were ready to put this kind of behavior behind you. Concentrate on being a good wife and a decent person.
2007-10-02 02:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you respect your and his marriage and your partners then no you won`t flirt. Ask your self
Is it OK for your husband to flirt with other women ?
If NO then you got your answer
Or have the guts and decency to tell & leave your partners and seek divorce and then you 2 can have each other
Flirting is fore play to a physical affair
2007-10-02 02:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yousay you dont intend to but the intent is already there if you both are feeling a lil' crushy on each other. Maybe you shouldnt see him for a while because although you feel like you havent done anything wrong because you havent kissed or had sex would you like your husband to have a female friend that you knew he was crushing on and she liked him too. You never know what could happen inthe heat of the moment.
2007-10-02 01:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky Lovers 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You are married, you should not be flirting. Yes, it feels good to have someone else interested in you. If you continue flirting it could lead further & you don't want to get caught and have all of your credibility ruined. You may both agree that it won't become physical but that is not a reality if you keep flirting. Flirting is a precurser to further things. Stop before it is too late.
2007-10-02 01:55:25 · answer #11 · answered by Gypsydayne 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋