Hey ladies suppose if you are a little outta shape and your guy wants to tell you that, what is the best way in which you would like him to tell you?
2007-10-02 01:06:44 · 11 answers · asked by Lord Of Lust 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
She probably knows or might even mention it in a self-deprecating way. I suggest you suggest more exercise you can do together. Appear more keen on walks together and stuff. It does depend on the girl though. Some might like to be told. It also depends on the reason she's put on weight. If it's something like birth control pills, so you can come inside her, then tough luck.
2007-10-02 01:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just try steering her gently into healthier eating and exercise by suggesting hikes and walking, joining a gym, walking a dog (yours or a friends). Sometimes if you make good choices they are willing to follow without either or you getting embarrassed or in trouble, lol
But if you have noticed she is getting a little tubby no doubt she has too (clothes not fitting like they use to) but depending on how this girl in question takes criticism (usually weight thing not well, lol) will depend on how you proceed. Direct approach is a mine field and you don't have a map, but may make it through unscathed. Hint Hint was could start the "does my bum look big in this" all the time and make her insecure. Or she could take your advice well and shape up.
Hard one not knowing the girl myself.
My partner is always frank, open and honest, sometimes I don't like it but I love him so I get ova it pretty quickly.
2007-10-02 01:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While your intentions may be the best, it is not advisable to mention anything at all. Trust me, women know when they've gained weight. She's probably feeling insecure about it and you mentioning it will only make it worse. She needs to know that you love her unconditionally and even if you are worried about her health (hopefully you're not so shallow as to only love her based on her weight and looks) it's best not to say anything. If you feel strongly about this, maybe have an evening walk with her or something active but not so obviously exercise. Make it something where you can spend time together, but focus on her and not her weight.
2007-10-02 01:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rockit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think you shouldn't say a thing. if you loved her to Begin with why would it matter. but if you want too like the others suggest get out and take walks together or get active by joining some dance classes or something fun you both will enjoy. make fun out of things. DO NT ever tell a girl she is gaining weight that is just mean.
2007-10-02 01:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by nvywife72 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Probably she doesn't even realize it that she's gaining weight, forget about what these people are saying in here that she " might know that she's gaining weight" some women, when they know they have a man in their lives they no longer care about their physical apperance, because they know they have someone they love, but the thing is that when you have someone that loves you and you love you got to know how to keep it that way, and not just give up.. As a girl, i honestly would like to know the truth and why not from the person i care the most...Good Luck!
2007-10-02 04:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by Akullore 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what of a person she is, Is she the type if you said somethink she'd Wana kill you or wana cry?
I think maybe you suggest maybe going the gym & say lets go together for somethink to do or say you feel like your puttin weight on lets start eatting heathly, Dont make it all about her, thats shes put the weight on coz you probably upset her.
If my boyfriend told me i was out of shape & a bit of a blob id be devastaed so you should tred carefully
2007-10-02 01:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best advice, don't ever, ever mention it. She knows, trust me! If you can't help it, suggest taking walks together or start some other active hobby. Make it sound like something you want to do for fun as a couple. But never direct it at her, there's nothing more guaranteed to land you on the couch.
2007-10-02 01:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Start complaining about YOUR health/weight.
Suggest you both go out and start working out and taking walks together, since people work out better when they have someone with them.
Start getting healthier foods. One day while shopping, take a look at the nutrition panel and go "WOW, 300 for cholesterol? Lets put this BACK and get this snack that has 3 cholesterol!"
etc etc.
My boyfriend (now fiance) mentioned about his weight looking at past photos, and I stated that I myself have packed on a few. We then suggested to each other to start working out.
2007-10-02 07:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah I definately would not tell her... that will get you in a lot of trouble. haha But maybe suggest you both do some sort of physical activity together, like go on a hike? And maybe she'll realize when she's having more trouble then usual that she needs to shape up a little.
2007-10-02 01:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by roryrawr 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she knows already trust me. she will probably hate you if you tell her. suggest some walks in the park or a bike ride any exercise should do.go to the gym toghether. help her with this and shell like you for it.
excuse u but wats wrong with a fat woman?hmmmm? very curious about that.
2007-10-02 01:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Elena D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋