During the course of my love life I've noticed that I am often very very attracted to either bisexual or gay men and I mean intensely attracted to them/ in love with them. This happens before I find out their orientation..I seem to have a subconscious radar for these type of ment. I am a 100% heterosexual woman, I can look at another woman and realise she is attractive but there is no way I want something physical with her, I'm attracted to men only. As you can imagine, this phenomenon is often very puzzling and frustrating! Especially when I'm crazy about a man who just can't return the sexual feelings!!
Does anyone have an explanation for this phenomenon? Thanks.
2007-10-02 01:05:49 · 6 answers · asked by must see 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dunno but if you find out can you explain it to me.
Only I'm not sexually attracted to gay men. I'm married to a heterosexual man, who I adore, but I do find some of my gay male friends physically attractive in the same way as I find some women physically attractive but like you I can't imagine myself wanting something physical with females or (in my case) with my gay men.
It's not that they're safer because straight men who hit on me get a polite but firm no and I can handle myself when it comes to men who want what I won't give them. I have straight male friends too.
It isn't that they're more sensitive and caring although that is nice, but I don't really do sensitive and caring as I'm not the nurturing type.
I have been told I am a quintessential f*g hag because I have so many gay male friends.
But I would describe the feeling I have for some of my Gay male friends as love, as in 'I love them to little bits and wouldn't want to be without them', just not 'in love'.
I think it's because they have a male sense of humour and so do I.
So I guess for me it's great coz there is no reason I should be without my gay men in my life. They want nothing sexual from me and nor do I from them, so my husband doesn't get jealous, and they can be friends with me and their boyfriends don't get jealous. Win - Win. We can flirt outrageously, because no-one anywhere ever gets jealous, because nothing can ever happen. It's great.
2007-10-02 06:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Louise H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that guys who are bisexual or gay have a better attitude and you are attracted to them because they are nicer
i as a bisexual female have a lesbian/queer radar
i mean i can look at someone and tell if they are gay or not but you say yournot gay so maybe it just their attitude
2007-10-02 01:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by PUTTIN' TANG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's because you attract to their gay side. Some research shows that generally minority like gays are more sensitve and understanding. Because They know what it feels like. That's what you atrract to.
Or you just know that you can't have them that's what make them hot.
2007-10-02 01:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by RG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a subconscious "*** hag".
Maybe you instinctively sense some empathy there.
2007-10-02 01:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are attracted because they intrigue you - but you also know they won't hit on you so you feel safe
2007-10-02 01:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are the best companions
2007-10-02 01:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dale-Jaime M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋