and have been trying to get my feet wet again and nothing the gay community has to offer seems very interesting. I'm done with gay bars...have no interest in the L word.....would like to meet some friends but honestly doing anything "lesbian" just feels silly. Anyone else ever felt like this?
2007-10-02 00:09:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
relationship lasted 6 years....not my first.
Did I make any mention of god in this question?
2007-10-02 00:42:55 · update #1
I am straight but I believe it is that way for everyone from every sexual orientation and you just need to find some new hobbies and it will happen. friends are everywhere.
2007-10-02 00:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess maybe youve matured alot since you started the relationship.
I am straight and 35 and it could be an age thing because stuff I used to do a few years ago doesnt seem that interesting to me anymore and I wish I had a new exciting thing to do do.
Do you live in a area with lots of lesbians in it? then you wouldnt have to do somethings specifically lesbian to meet someone.
Ps I think anyone who preaches their bigot opinion on gay people to a question like this sucks.
2007-10-02 07:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by mixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because your interests aren't the same as they were before. Relationships change people. Try doing things independently to find yourself before you enter another relationship. In case you are trying to hint at the fact that you might be into men again, give it a shot if you really feel that you are ready for that. But speaking from experience I know that it is harder to go back into your closet after you come out of it..lol. The straight community can be quite unaccepting, as well as the gay community.
2007-10-02 14:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Toria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want your hobbies to have a point to them, but also really could use some new friends to help you get reacquainted with the "gay community." You may be able to compromise by getting involved in stuff that's not "lesbian" per se, but happens to involve a lot of lesbians, such as:
a sports team
a political campaign
a volunteer project
And, I really hate to bring up God again, but a couple of friends of mine in similar situations have succeeded in "finding community" at Unitarian/MCC/other supportive churches.
Good luck!
2007-10-02 08:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
38 thats still really young, go out and enjoy your self meet new people and make friends...... go to collage..... or do what i did and if your looking for friendship or romance or just fun try a dating ad in your local paper, you meet lots of people who are after the same as you and you might be as lucky as me and meet the love of your life. I'm straight but a lot of my friends are gay and a few have tried this and found happiness.
Don't take it to heart what those silly people above said, you are who you are and thats the way god made you.....BE HAPPY x x
2007-10-02 07:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by sandie s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
38 is still young. Sounds like you're just in the "dead zone". It's not uncommon for gay or straight. If you're secure in your orientation and that is not the issue, don't force lesbian activities upon yourself because you think that's what you have to do.
I went thru this and just needed "me" time, took that time, and felt my true self emerge energized.
Do yourself a favour and take a rest.....take an "asexual" moment to yourself
2007-10-02 10:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was the relationship a long term relationship? Was that your only lesbian relationship? Is it important to you to be identified as a lesbian?
2007-10-02 07:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are burnt out on being a lesbian
i know it sounds weird but maybe you just aren't into the fun anymore
are you attracted to any guys
maybe you are bi
2007-10-02 08:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by PUTTIN' TANG 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My belief is that same sex relationships are not normal. I think you have found this to be true. Keep up the good work and I hope you find A good man who will Love you for who you are
2007-10-02 07:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 9⤋
Please read your Bible. You will never get into the kingdom of God being a lesbian.
2007-10-02 07:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by Chris G 1 · 0⤊ 7⤋