People now a days, just are really jealous. It is very hard for people to just let go and be happy when another persons accomplish something. Do u guys agree? WHat is ur opinion on this ?
2007-10-01 19:35:57 · 19 answers · asked by Brilliant Queen (BQ)_forever !!! 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes, this happens a lot. But sometimes, we should not just only blame them for their behavior, it demands us to be more thoughtful. For example, I can not expect someone to be happy with me because I graduated while he failed the exams... he might claim he is happy to make me so, but deep inside, i know he is not.
Some people do really annoy you with their jealousy, you feel like it is not about their own success, but about your own failure! they simply do not want the others to succeed. It is like when someone has painted his house with an ugly color, and so that it does not look bad, he has to paint all the neighborhood houses in the same color!
Some, can not feel happy with you when you are successful because as they said, it reminds them with their own failures or frustrations.
finally, some can not feel happy with you when you are successful because they don't stand to be treated arrogantly ( in case the winds of arrogance has blown you good after a victory)
whatever the situation is, one should try to avoid those people because they are not going be good friends. on the other hand, some people gets around only when one is successful.. it is false friendship too, and is not true... it is another face for jealousy... so some people leave you when you are successful, others leave you when you are down... both are not truethful and both are jealous
2007-10-01 20:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Psychological Moment 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the unhappy people are those w/unhappy thoughts [lack of gratitude] ppl just don't appreciate and give too much thought to what they actually HAVE. this society sucks in the way that it tries to brainwash ppl into thinking they 'need' something in particuliar when in fact the ONLY things ppl NEED is air, food, water, a roof over their heads, LOVE, a good attitude and a little spiritual develop within their own individual belief system never hurt anyone either!
As for anyone being jealous, the fact is ppl have no real reason to be jealous of one another. Because we all really aren't as nearly as 'separate' as sometimes we may feel. We are ONE. Everyone's a part of each other. And we're all in the same boat on this planet in certain ways when you acknowledge the deeper meaning of life so to speak. And no one has anything 'over' anybody else when looking at the whole picture here. I know what you mean, and dealing w/another's jealous behavior isn't easy. It's also important to be down to earth and even give ppl compliments on their own individual qualities,as each and everyone of us most certainly has tons of them.
Amen
p.s. ALWAYS strive to do your best no matter what!!!
[personally I always feel I deserve it, that's why I achieve.]
anyway remember jealousy is merely a form of admiration actually.
2007-10-01 19:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by deirdrefaith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
People are so much into themselves, they have no time or care about a fellow human being..
But when that person accomplishes something, something that they worked hard to achieve, all of a sudden, people will have something negative and derogatory to say..Like I bet he had help, or who cares what he did, I could have done better..
People can be nasty and jealous..But it's really sad, it's a big world out there, big enough for all of us to have a chance to accomplish something to be proud of, and get possitive acknowledge and respect for what we did!
Take care all, and have a great day!
2007-10-07 21:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r absolutely right ,but definition of jealous depends upon the achievements of a person and on the conditions of achievement like whether success is in a compitition or some thing.
but my opinion is that the people may not jealous of other's success but actually they feel depression or they consider themselves as a loser on not achieving the same thing or sucess which someone else got so as a result they usually feel jealous of other's sucess.
2007-10-01 20:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by furious m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sister, it is true that it is not easy for a lot of people to identify with other's happiness. May be i am one of them. But i think that is much safer that trying to pull down successfull people or hatching conspiracies behind the backs of your own sucessfull friends. People who pass jealous comments about sucessful people lack character and it shows that they don't believe in their own capabilities and talents. Certain people are introverts by nature so they may not express their happiness at your success but that does not mean that they are your sworn enemies. I think you should be forgiving and lenient towards people with low self-esteem because they are already in a problem and your accusing them of being jealous will only add to their problems.
2007-10-02 16:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by SHAHAZAD SHAIKH 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sucess is a monopoly buisness, so small time people cannot challenge it, so they curse it.
this introverted hate between losers and winners which people dont express is called a "social relationship"
which never talks about a son being bought up so he may take other peoples achievements for granted.
u may retribute, by growing mature, but then the crime would be "i was too weak not to compete",
2007-10-02 19:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by cannystonehenry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Just due to lack of knowledge*
♥Read this♥
The Corn Story
There was a farmer who grew superior quality and award-winning CORN.
Each year he entered his CORN in the state fair where it won honour and
prizes.
Once a newspaper reporter interviewed him and learnt something
interesting about how he grew it. The reporter discovered that the farmer
shared his seed corn with his neighbours'.
"How can you afford to share your best seed corn with your neighbours
when they are entering corn in competition with yours each year?" the
reporter asked.
"Why sir, "said the farmer, "didn't you know? The wind picks up pollen
from the ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my
neighbours grow inferior, sub-standard and poor quality corn,
cross-pollination will steadily degrade the quality of my corn. If I am to grow good
corn, I must help my neighbours grow good corn."
The farmer gave a superb insight into the connectedness of life. His
corn cannot improve unless his neighbour's corn also improves. So it is
in the other dimensions! Those who choose to be at harmony must help
their neighbours and colleagues to be at peace. Those who choose to live
well must help others to live well.
Success does not happen in isolation. It is very often a participative
and collective process.
If you have an apple and I have an apple and we exchange apples, then
you and I will still each have one apple. But if you have an idea and I
have an idea and we exchange these ideas, then each of us will have two
ideas .
2007-10-01 22:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely Beauty. It's petty. Personally I can't fault anyone for working hard and doing well for it or for winning the lottery either for that matter. It's not like any of them stole MY fortune or wronged me to get to where they are. I'm very happy for them actually because it's not always just about hard work- luck comes into play to.
I sure would like to get mine though!
2007-10-01 19:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. i'm not accomplish and have issues. people don't care, they see an attractive person and they want to hate you. not always but at least 50% time. it's the same with success they see success they want to hate you. it's natural human behavior, and read the social theory of envy (not sure), it tells you in detail. it actually can be positive and helps with people's survival.
2007-10-03 19:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Envy
Sinopsis
What it is: Envy is the desire for others' traits, status, abilities, or situation.
Why you do it: Because other people are so much luckier, smarter, more attractive, and better than you.
Your punishment in Hell will be: You'll be put in freezing water.
Associated symbols & suchlike: Envy is linked with the dog and the color green.
2007-10-01 21:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋