my husband is in the military and we have a 1 year old little boy... we know we want to have another child and we want them close together in age but what is too close? whats a good age for the 1st child to be when you have a second child ?
2007-10-01 19:26:34 · 12 answers · asked by i_luv_my_army_man 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
start now sister!!! It may not take two weeks it may take a year or so. but in all honesty... I think that 21 months is getting to be a stretch of the term close together so....go BABY DANCE!! ; )
2007-10-01 19:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son was only 9 months old when I got pregnant with my daughter. While I was shocked (and kinda angry with their dad when it happened lol) they are GREAT together. There has not been a time that they can remember the other not being there and they are so close now. They are only 1 grade apart in school, they typically play together very well, they sit together to watch movies, they do their homework together, they are very close. I then waited until my son was 4 and my daughter was almost 3 before I had my next son and right now he is kind of the "odd man out." He's so much younger then them that he doesn't get to do all the things that they get to do and he gets totally bummed out every morning when I take them to school and he doesn't get to go. Now my youngest will be 4 and my oldest will be 8 when my next baby comes along and I am worried about how they will all interact. I am sure nothing will compare to the 2 oldest who are 1 week short of exactly 18 months apart. If I had the choice I would have had them all much closer together. Sure, it is frustrating to have 2 in diapers at the same time, but they also don't go through the jealousy phase of having a new baby in the house. I would say if you and your husband are both in agreement start today! That's my opinion anyway ;-) Good luck!
2007-10-02 02:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by chewynougat4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOR YOU I WOULD SUGGEST WAITING UNTIL YOUR BODY IS BACK IN SHAPE AND THE MUSCLES ARE STRONG IN YOUR STOMACH AGAIN. BUT THE AGE BETWEEN THEM IS REALLY UP TO YOU. I KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE KIDS WITH BIG GAPS AND OTHERS WHO HAVE THEM CLOSE. KIDS ARE GOING TO FIGHT AND ARGUE AND RUFF HOUSE WITH ANY GAP. JUST KNOW YOURSELVES AND WHAT YOU WANT. MY KIDS ARE TWO YEARS APART AND THEY LOVE EACH OTHER. THEY HAVE THERE DAY WHEN THEY SEEM LIKE THEY DON'T THOU. AND THE OLDER THEY ARE THE MORE THEY CAN HELP OUT. I PERSONALLY WOULD SUGGEST TO WAIT UNTIL YOU CAN HAVE THE BOTTLE FOR JUST THE BABY AND THE OTHER CHILD WON'T WANT IT. AND TO START TRAINING YOUR SON TO POTTY TRAIN BEFORE YOU GET BIG AND IT BECOMES DIFFICULT IF THERE ARE ANY COMPLICATIONS BECAUSE SOME KIDS NEED MORE TIME AND GUIDANCE THEN OTHERS. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU WANT THEM NOW THOU SO IT'S YOUR CHOICE YOUR LIFE YOU DECIDE IF REALISTICALLY THIS IS A GOOD TIME OR YOU SHOULD WAIT A LITTLE LONGER.
2007-10-02 02:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by CUTIEQ84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just had my 1st and plan on trying for the 2nd about the time of his 1st birthday. I want to give my body a year to recover but i dont want a huge gap between them either. If you have any concerns health wise then maybe you should consult your doctor before trying.
Good Luck
2007-10-02 02:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone will tell you different, but it really comes down to what works best for you. My hubby is in the military too, and our first two are 13 months apart. It's nice because when we move, they at least can keep eachother entertained until they meet other kids in the neighborhood.
2007-10-02 02:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by BoomerFamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but i believe the best time is when the older child is in preschool or kindergarden that way theres no jealousy issues. my mum has a 3year old and a one year old and the older one wants attention and love that i feel he isnt getting right now coz the baby gets all the attention and the older one gets in trouble coz it needs love and attention too and acts out for it. just my opinion but its your choice when you are ready, just dont forget your first child needs love and attention too.
2007-10-02 03:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by jaineelyse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kiddos are about 3 1/2 years apart.. Perfect FOR me!!! As long as you are healed completely and no longer breastfeeding, it is up to you two!! Ask this question... am I ready to to stop babying my "baby" for a sibling or should we enjoy him a little longer? Good luck to you!! Oh yeah! The baby in the pic is adorable!!!
2007-10-02 02:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by TattooGirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have heard the best interval for mother between giving birth to a child is 2 years and worst 6 years and more. as for children, probably 2-3 years is the best :)
2007-10-02 02:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by leluuu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think between 2-3 years is best, but as someone said above... start now, as you may get pregnant immediately but it may take you a year... it took us almost 2 years to get pregnant with my 2nd, and all becasue of stress. my kids have 4 years difference, I would have prefered less. so go for it... good luck.
2007-10-02 02:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Tiara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start now, whenever I have my first my second would be getting make a month afterwards
2007-10-02 09:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋