Wouldn’t it make sense that guys who grew up with a sister would be much less nervous around girls than guys who had no sisters? Because it would just be a normal thing for them to interact with girls and they would view girls more like regular people instead of mysterious creatures? Yet this doesn’t seem to be the case. Why not?
(Also I could ask the same thing about girls with brothers)
2007-10-01 18:38:47 · 14 answers · asked by egn18s 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I find that having sisters allowed for more normal "friendship" relationships with girls more than it helped with developing romantic relationships. Once in a relationship, I think sisters gave me a bit more insight on the "living with woman" aspect of things. That said, having sister didn't prepare me to approach women in a romantic/sexual setting.
2007-10-01 19:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may as well ask:
Why are people often nervous around the parents of the person they are dating? Most of us had parents of our own, right?
Or:
If a man has a Mother, why should he be nervous around women?
If a woman has a Father, why should she be nervous around men?
The premise you stated may make sense on the surface, but, as you've noticed, fails any amount of scrutiny.
People are far closer (usually) to their family members than to others; personalities and opinions are known. It's those many unknowns in others that bring about what people interpret as nervousness or excitement (depending on ones mindset).
"Stage fright" is similar. Numerous studies have shown that the endorphins (and their systemic levels) released by highly successful stage performers were identical to people who had incapacitating "stage fright." The only difference is that the successful performers interpreted the rush of endorphins as excitement, rather than fear.
Now, just apply that knowledge to your relationships and life... even business... and enjoy those intense feelings and sensations while you can... when you get to know a person better, that intensity may begin to fade... hopefully, you're mature enough to realize that feelings are a great motivator, but there needs to be far more depth behind your decisions and relationships than mere emotion. And, in regards to romance, the commitment of actual Love will last a lifetime, whereas emotions will come and go... and come and go... hopefully leaving behind some wonderful and beautiful memories.
2007-10-01 20:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Alexander M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The end result would, in part depend upon the input of the Sister. But as We are all unique the individuallity of the person is, to a very large extent determined by Out social and cultural outlook. The way a Sister's friends react to Us is often a forgotten contributing factor.
2007-10-01 18:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about the other way around like it was with me? I grew up without any brothers. I believe the only real effect would have been if I had had sons instead of daughters, I don't really know much about boys.
2007-10-01 18:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by RoVale 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl n I'm shy til u get to know me. I'll sit in class quiet n not talk to anyone n wen ppl talk to me I get nervous...... But if ik u n were friends I'm a lot more outgoing .... I just get nervous around newer people n I get scared..... Guys always calls me cute n adorable cuz I'm shy, short, got a nice body, im sweetheart til u piss me off, stuff like that......
2016-04-06 23:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to work in our family. My daughter is a radical feminist and her brothers seemed to have a lot of girl friends. They've made permanent friendships with women and later brought home smashing wives. So far they have good marriages.
2007-10-01 19:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes for an interesting theory and seems to make sense. On what basis do you say that this is not the case?
2007-10-02 01:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's true and also that such boys treat their wives with more consideration and understanding.It doesn't mean that boys who grew up minus sisters are anyway lesser but the qualitative difference is always there.
2007-10-02 02:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same as guns. I didnt notice my pal who has an older brother to be any more nervous around girls.
2007-10-02 01:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. Even worse is when a boy loses his mother at a young age in addition to that.
2007-10-02 00:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋