So, I'm 15 and I have known this boy since I was young [which I don't remember]. He played with my brother, and his older brother was friends with my cousin. He is 17. Well, I started "dating" him when I was 11. He is the nicest guy you would ever know when he is not partying, or hanging out with his friends. His mom died when he was like 11 or 12. He has had a hard life, and I get sick of his immature ways, and I hate how he tries to fit in.
Eight months ago he got put in a drug rehabilitation center. Whenever he went to the D.H. I would always write him and support him [which I probably shouldn't have]. This time, I only wrote him three times, and I have not spoken to him in a month in a half. He used to try to call every day.
I guess he got tired of being hung up on, so he stopped calling like a week ago. I feel guilty for treating him this way, but he needs to change and on his own!! How can I stop feeling so guilty?? Am I wrong for doing this?? Thanks
2007-10-01 18:32:33 · 5 answers · asked by I dunno! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
let the pro's handle his drug addictions, you have done a great deal for him i applaud you for hanging in there as long as you have,some people just dont want to change its time to let him come to you other than phone calls. i agree with the person who said to move on you deserve better.
2007-10-05 17:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, I think you are doing really good for yourself, usually you would be asking us what to do and we would give u th eadvice on the things you have already made it a point to do. Good for you, you so deserve better!!! you are extremely young, and there are going to be so many men come in and out of your life, dont try to use his childhood as an excuse for the way he acts today, yeah ppl have unfortunate circumstances but they cant drag them along with them wherever they go inlife. If he wants to be a better person, help him. But dont go out of your way for him only to be let down, especially if he acts like a different person in front of others. YOU deserve more than that. YOU are worth so much more, you are priceless, and so young believe me, one day you'll find a guy who will appreciate your attentiveness towards him, and the way you tend to their needs but it should definetly be a 2 way street, give a little to get a little, dont bend all the way backwards for this guy. AS for keeping busy, find some hobbies,like taking pictures,reading,drawing/painting,music, art,shopping,do local events for a church or donating your time. stuff like that, become involved in school activities, or tutor a younger student in a subject that you are really good at.
Good luck and keep your head up.
It will get easier.
2007-10-02 09:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by I DONT CARE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it's really hard for a person to change ...He may not be able to do it himself..He may need some support from friends.. The only thing is if he is trying to get you to do these things then no don't hang out with him but if he just wants to lean on you for support then that shows he is trying to change....
2007-10-02 01:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by jlkauffeld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wrote to him and tried to support him and let him call you and not tell him to stop calling? if you want him to get over drugs himself fine.. but you should have told him to stop calling and that he needs to deal with it himself.
2007-10-02 01:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by ladyamethyst83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER give up on him ur all hes got so keep tryin 2 help him
2007-10-02 02:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by raven m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋