Which i consider to be my own,and love very much.Here is my problem, She is sharing the room with the baby wants nothing to do with the baby in her room, i set up her side with new paint new bed mirrors lights,a white net that cover her bed, if u see what i did in her side of the room u might say something like woow! she loved it,i did this cause i wanted to and love her, and also i dint want her to be jelous of the new babies crib and all the other cute things that we all love to get newborns.My daughter has been saying things like its my room, i have no space why did u guys put the crib up now and we figured she will get over it and move on,but just last night my wife told her not to use the babies laundry bin to put her dirty clothes,she has 1 already that we bought her,she yelled well its my room,My wife quicky replied no Its Your room and the Babies room,ok look, my concern as a first time dad is because of her jelousy will my baby be in danger? its clear she does not wantbabythr
2007-10-01 18:21:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
To some degree all kids are goin to be jealous of there new sibling that has seem to stole all the intrrest of her parents. You just gotta remember to spend time with her too. Go take her on a lunch date or whatever after the baby is born. When the baby is born take her to pick out a "special gift" for her to give the baby so she doesnt feel left out. I don't think she'll hurt the baby shes probably only doing this cause she know's she gets a rise out of you. You wont be letting your baby sleep much in that room for the first few months as you might think. Hang in there daddy it's going to be a bumpy fun ride!! Congrates!!
2007-10-01 18:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulation for the coming baby
I have no idea will she hurt the baby or not ... maybe she doesn't intend to hurt the baby, but she may do something that she think is not hurting the baby , but it is ... despite her jealousy ....
Beside, babies will cry a lot and wakes up few times in night times, won't that disturbing your daughter sleep? Won't it be better if baby sleep somewhere else or with you ?
To avoid your daughter grow jealousy, ask her to take part in few decision about the baby, like which clothes are look nicer, the pink one or the yellow one .... and when the baby comes, even though how busy you will be, take her out for one and one parent and child day
2007-10-02 02:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by lucky_1179 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold old is she?? defiantly jealous but I doubt you need to worry to much. once the baby is there she will want to play & spend time with the baby. You should keep the baby in the room with you & wife for first couple of monthes just because of it waking at night & this will also give your daughter some time to adjust to the baby. I am sure the two will get along up until the baby learns to talk, Good luck then. Only if your daughter has shown violence at any time would I worry. make sure to continue to show her attention when the baby is born & include her in helping with the baby. Good Luck!!
2007-10-02 01:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jeri E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old the daughter is but depending on her age I would try my best to make the baby being born all about her to make her feel special. Make the daughter feel involved and that the baby is a gift to her. I know that will be hard but it just might work. Maybe as she gets praised for being such a big wonderful sister she'll enjoy all the new positive attention and want to show-off how great she is. Good luck!
2007-10-02 01:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh goodness no ur baby wont be in any danger its sibling rivalry lol.....i have 5 children and at one point only had a 2 bedroom apartment....so there was a lot of sharring now that all the kids but the younger 2 have there own room i find them still spending the majority of there time together in a hudle in one of there bedrooms......why dont you take your step daughter to the store...or have ur wife... n pick out some thing special from her to the baby like the blanket the babys coming home in....tell your wife what ever she has chosen to take to the hospital just randomly ask your step daughter to take a look and see if its in style or if she thinks its the perfect out fit...include her in every thing...also u might want to go to a furnature store n buy a room devider i know places like ikea n u can always check ebay for things like this or buy a wall unit shelves this will seperat the to sides giving her some indipendance...and maybe down size on the space the baby really needs.......i have 5 kids n after many years n lots of expierience ive learned to accomodate for the amount of ppl in 1 room lol.....dont preach at her n when the baby comes home is it really going to b sleeping in her room or is it going to sleep in your room bassinet, having a baby changes everything with every one....if you can remodle or add on maybe you might like to think about that to for your home.......
2007-10-02 02:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all, the world needs more concerned dads like you!
You didn't mention how old your stepdaughter was?
My niece was 4 when her baby sister was born, and it didn't start well. She actually punched her in the eye when she was only 3 weeks old. That was the only time, though (she got her rear popped pretty good for that one). Now she loves being the big sister and helping mommy with the baby. I guess it depends on the age and spitefulness of the older child...
2007-10-02 01:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by ilovejolie86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old is the girl?? I have 4 sons all one year apart and they usually do well with their brother's...All siblings have there days where they just want to be the Only one...Just make sure you give the oldest the same attention the baby is getting and she will also need days with just mom or just dad
2007-10-02 02:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by jlkauffeld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! she may act out in a negative way out of jealousy...
2007-10-02 01:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by mommieaqueen 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋