ok,so ive been dating my GF for 11 months now...and i'll say it like it is, i dont like going from girl to girl. If im dating someone then i can see myself with them in the future. We'll her parents dont know about us yet, but they will not approve when they find out because of cultural differences (my folks dont care). When we talk on the phone she gets paranoid that someone may be listening and says stuff like "we cant get caught or im going to have to break up with u." I hate that, I want her to say something like "i cant get caught or else im going to have to go through hell, but we'll always be together." She says she cant assure me that, she says its hard for her and tells me to plan for both the best and the worst. Its seems to me that this relationship is like a ticking bomb, when her folks find out.BAM..its over, and i hate that nor do i want to be apart of a relationship like that. Should i be more understandable? or is what im thinkin right?.just wanna be with her forever
2007-10-01 18:17:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sweetie move on. you dont need this kind of drama in your life. her parents dont like you, and they would not approve of you. so that right there says it all. you deserve to love someone who doesnt want to hide you because of you color or that someone in the family will disagree. you are who you are and no one can change that. leave her butt right there with her parents and you find you someone who will love you and will not be afraid to tell the world including her parents. move on sweetie. GodBless
2007-10-01 18:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? You have the same rights whether you are 7 or 17... none. After 18, a person has to be willing to take risks to have things their own way, OR they have to be willing to live with the house rules.
If she is from some ultra-conservative background and you are her one act of rebellion, I wouldn't bet on it lasting very long. I would suggest asking her for an introduction to her parents. Perhaps bring them a gift of some sort to show you are a stand-up guy with good intent.
2007-10-01 18:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is using her family as a way to back out but she will keep stringing you along as long as you let it. Family is a huge part of a relationship and while I think you could have a good relationship w/o the support of her family it doesn't sound like she is ready to make that commitment. Sorry it isn't what you want to hear. Looks like the ball is in her court.
2007-10-01 18:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ric D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the together forever idea is a big step for her you never know what the future holds. if she really cares for you she should tell her parents about you and deal with the consequences, if it were me i would tell my parents i'm going to date him no matter what you think. thats what she should do if she really cares. but again together forever is a big step, maybe she is more afraid of that concept rather than afraid of her parents. you should tell her how you feel and ask her what she is really afraid of. i hope it works out for you because it sounds like you really care for her, it would be sad for a cultural difference to step in the way.
2007-10-01 18:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh this is a hard one to answer but I'll try my best... find out if her parents wasn't an issue will she be with u or not and if it is yes give the parents the respect of getting their blessing but not the power to run ur lives
good Luck
2007-10-01 18:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by RICK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she can't give you what you need, then end the relationship.
2007-10-01 18:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by Calista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋