why do you thinks its morally wrong to have sex with many different people...if you enjoy it why not do it?

Question

why do we make sex so important.....because of how we were raised? why would something that feels good be a sin.

Answer 1

Your question is good and has a balance to it.
We have taken it to extreme but in past ages you have to understand that sexual contact made babies. Social structure meant someone had to raise the children and form a society of responsible beings. Today what makes the difference is we can have sex and not get the women pregnant. This changes the whole social aspect of the situation. Now down to the moral aspect.
Is sex tied to morality and what is morality.
People have sexual encounters for so many different reasons that you can not equate them all the same. We should see that sexual deviation is when it is done as an animal act. Pleasure only no thought of the other person. If you choose this you are degrading yourself and others. I personally like to think that there should be an emotional spiritual connection in order that the sexual act becomes something very special.
I was a virgin and so was my wife when we married. After 20 years it was not working and I did have several other women.
They were all friends that I knew and women who needed an emotional response not just sex. I have a hard time regretting any of those moments. However I have a new wife. Spanish. Very seriously jealous and she is wonderful. I have no intension of deviating from her.
Search, find, keep....

Answer 2

These people think that sex is wrong, but then so is the very message. You never see people living in a marriage so happily together. They're always not completely happy. Marriage is a bond that is not real, like in the sense that it is sanctioned by some organization like the government. However, we all know that the government can't stop us from having sex outside of marriage, although it is of course not looked upon very kindly.

Sex is arbitrarily, as we now live in the world of in vitro fertilization, a reproduction process. That very ovation is the violation of the institution of marriage. Marriage is the cover used by organizations to control the members of their populations. Clearly, this is a hoodwink of our rationalities as humans, and organisms with brains and capacities to be independent of any organizational controls.

How does having sex with different people be wrong? It is not only right, it is evolutionarily sound. An example would be a female to mate with two different males, one having a gene which is immune to a certain disease. When the disease strikes, the offspring with the gene survives while the other does not. This highlights the importance of having multiple sex partners not for just having fun, but also for reproducing.

One of the most common truism is that with great sex always goes hand in hand with great socialization. So, I do not think at all that it is morally wrong to have sex, even with multiple partners, and in the same day. Although, it may be wise to do checks for STD before doing so.

And enjoy. For sex is the mother of all art. And all men.

Answer 3

One of the things you have to think about is that there are usually two people involved in a sexual encounter. Does the other person feel the same way? Or are they looking for more from the occasion? So many people use sex to bolster their self esteem, but it doesn't work, so they get more and more desperate trying to make it work. I went through a promiscuous period in college and looking back on it later realized that each encounter made me sadder, no matter how much pleasure I got at the time.


And I think it's particularly difficult for women to do this, since I believe a pheromone is released in the male ejaculate that makes her want to bond with him in a more permanent fashion. This is an evolutionally valuable thing since the real purpose of sex biologically is to reproduce the sexes. For the same reason, a male will want to mate with multiple females, since this is the easiest way to pass on his genes.

Although sex is pleasurable, it has lingering effects, some that you won't realize till later. It is much more pleasurable when there is emotional involvement, too.

Answer 4

If ... and this is a very big 'IF' ... you can enjoy having multiple sex partners and find enough other people who enjoy variety from multiple sex partners and you enter into it as a form of 'sport f**king' (as it's been called) ... and if those partners enter into such relations expecting only what they'll be getting then, within this framework, I don't think it is immoral. But here again it would only be within this framework.

There has been for years 'swingers' who thrive within this framework and they don't seem to have damaged lives. In fact, if you didn't know about their private lives you wouldn't be able to tell them from anyone else in public.

There was a time in the 1980s, during the height of women's lib, where women would pick up guys at bars and multiple sex partners was easy to have. I went through that for a few months (probably as a reaction to my getting divorced - I was married for ten years and never cheated on her, by the way) and it was pretty cool for awhile. I was never a 'swinger' but I did have sex with a number of women I met during this brief time.

But what I found out quickly enough was that I missed and wanted and actually needed the emotional attachment that you can not get from one-night stands. In other words, sex meant much more to me when I actually cared about and looked forward to seeing and being with the same woman day after day.

With 'swingers' the one rule everyone has to go by to survive that lifestyle is that emotional attachments are not only discouraged but forbidden. You break the rule and you're out of the loop.

I guess what I'm saying is that I valued a relationship more than multiple sex partners.

Sex in itself is not, nor has it ever been, a sin. Find what works for you, what fulfills your life, and live with your choice.

Answer 5

Just because something feels good does not make it right, drugs make you feel real good. As for morally wrong, I can't say who should or should not have sex, although I believe it was taught this way because once two people have sex, it is rare that these two individuals can be emotionally detached from one another. Once sex is introduced in any type of relationship, whether casual or serious, it changes attitudes. This is not to say "you fall in love" with anyone you have a sexual encounter with, although it changes the dynamics of a relationship, whether strangers or not.

Answer 6

For many, sex is not the true target of moral indignation, its the feelings of betrayal caused by one's willingness to stray outside of a committed relationship. Sex is just one of many acts that can be committed as a sign of betrayal.

But if you want to get right down to brass tacks, lets review this little scene from Silence of the Lambs for a good insight on what the true nature of immoral behavior is:

Hannibal Lecter: No. That is incidental. What is the first and principal thing he does? What needs does he serve by killing?

Clarice Starling: Anger, um, social acceptance, and, huh, sexual frustrations, sir...

Hannibal Lecter: No! He covets. That is his nature. And how do we begin to covet, Clarice? Do we seek out things to covet? Make an effort to answer now.

Clarice Starling: No. We just...

Hannibal Lecter: No. We begin by coveting what we see every day. Don't you feel eyes moving over your body, Clarice? And don't your eyes seek out the things you want?

Answer 7

Society defines what's "moral" & what isn't... -and it's a definition of "shifting sands...". Our Culture has NEVER been comfortable dealing with sexual issues...-so it tries to "control it" as MUCH as possible, to keep it under wraps. Of course, that has NEVER worked very well- so we still have the SAME sexual problems & hangups- we've ever had... So what to DO about it? - If it's something YOU feel needs addressing; then GO FOR IT !!! -But REMEMBER; if Society doesn't like YOUR "take" on the subject- then you can be SURE it's going to give you a HARD time... :)

Answer 8

I imagine a large part of the taboo of multiple sex partners has to do with religious tenets. In Christianity, women are especially expected to be chaste until marriage, and then be totally loyal - not to say men aren't supposed to be loyal. It's very similar in Islam, and other major religions. For me, there's a practical reason for minimal sex partners: disease. If you can count on one hand the number of people you've had sex with, you're less likely to unknowingly have a disease.

Answer 9

if you aren't spreading fatal stds then you have specific circumstances . to handle a promiscuous life style can be done without violate moral codes for some people but it requires a good deal of knowledge . and spreading stds is definitely immoral or amoral if the person is actually that ignorant.

Answer 10

I was raised religously, but college changed all that. I was lucky enough to meet the man I will marry in November. Even though opportunities presented themselves, I'm grateful that I was in love.