2007-10-01 16:51:48 · 6 answers · asked by the_honorable_spm 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
the way to keep love alive after the first glow has dimmed is to care deeply, to listen ,to give all you have and have the same come back...love is a verb not a noun work at it with all your heart
2007-10-01 17:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH,...I had a relationship like that where we were "in" love for 10 years. Or so I thought. Romance helps you stay "in love." We, I think, smothered each other and he finally needed more women and I needed a family to extend our love. It didn't work.
Playfulness helps love stay alive without becoming boring and not just "co-existing." I am with a man now in which we play in very different ways. I am physical in the area of play and he is more challenging mentally with little inuendos. We have been together for 11 years. It is never boring and never just co-existing. I love this man more than anyone ever, but he is so intense I sometimes need to get away to laugh like a child while building sandcastles in the sand and letting the hair blow through my hair. It is something he hasn't learned to be yet. Yet he likes to be with me when I am this way. So, yes, the differences are our mystery and therefore our love.
2007-10-01 17:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was happily married for 30 yrs. to my high school sweetheart (sadly, he passed away a few yrs. ago) we were like newly weds on our honeymoon the whole time. I'm not saying we didn't disagree on certain issues, but we promised each other that we would go in different rooms until we cooled off, then we would sit and discuss the issue. screaming, cursing or name calling is the worse thing to do because you might say things that you didn't mean and you can't take it back once it's been said.
keep the lines of communication opened
be spontaneous and creative to keep the spark going
NEVER go to sleep angry at each other
Live, Laugh & Love Much
2007-10-01 17:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by chercinbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For openers, love isn't something that you're 'in', it's something that you both 'do'. And you work real hard at it. You both have to grow together and in the same directions. The more things you have in common, the more things you have that hold you together. And, as life goes on, some of those things become less interesting and you -both- need to find things to replace them. But they have to be things that you are both interested in. If not, you just grow apart and end up coexisting.
Doug
2007-10-01 17:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by doug_donaghue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not possible chemistry wise. the love chemical lasts for 3 years after that they become like family. or you can try to work really hard paying good attention to each other and keep up the romance.
2007-10-01 17:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have outgrown each other, perhaps it is time to move on??
2007-10-01 17:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by aisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋