getting into a fight during pregnancy?

Question

today i went to visit my mother, well she wasnt having a very good day,and took it out on me. we ended up fighting, i walked away trying to keep cool,but she walked up to me and said something very hurtful,so i of course not thinking just flipped out on her, but after that i realized i needed to leave in best intrest for my child...but of course i am worried about my babys health,he was active today,and then it all stopped when i fought with my mother..
i know its bad,but i do know other women get stressed during pregnancy, i just would like to know how concerned i should be..
im 22 weeks and 1 day

i never said it was physical. it was not.

Answer 1

That is pretty late into pregnancy to be doing things like that. Getting into fights orally will increase stress and maybe damage your babies health. If this is the only time don't worry about it, but the higher your stress the worse it will be. Once it reaches a constant level then it can lead up to a miscarriage. You should try to rest as much as you can. Stay away from your mother at least until you give birth and stay inside because a smoggy environment can also do damage to you babies health. Also don't forget work is usually the most stressful environment so...

Answer 2

The yelling and screaming would have startled the baby, im sure he is fine so long as there was no physical violence between you and your mother.

Just see how you go for the rest of today and if you do not feel any movement by tomorrow morning you will need to go to the hospital and get it check to make sure bub is ok but he or she proberly just got a bit scared from the yelling! Just keep a close eye on it and try to avoid altercations even if you do fire up over something that is said, you just need to leave and get out of there cause you need to think of the stress that gets put on the baby when it happens.
Congrats on your baby and just take it easy and AVOID the stress!!

Answer 3

I'm 38 wks pregnant, and my mom and I got into a physical fight yesterday. I lived with her (obviously I don't anymore), and it started out as a verbal confrontation, then she lunged at me, choking, slapping, scratching, and pulling my hair (she pulled some of it out actually), I did defend myself because I couldn't just let her hit me and possibly hurt my daughter. After it was over, I noticed my daughter wasn't moving, and I was in alot of back and abdominal pain, so I went to the emergency room to get checked out and my baby's doing great! I said all this to say, that I understand your situation, even though your fight wasn't physical. If you are concerned about your baby not moving, then you should immediately go to the hospital or doctors office to make sure the baby is okay. Even though you're not in early pregnancy, it's still a wise thing to make sure that you and your baby are okay if you have a concern. It is normal to be stressed out during pregnancy, especially depending on your environment and your circumstances. Go get checked out immediately!! Good luck!!

Answer 4

I had the same thing happen to me while I was pregnant-i had gotten into a fight with my mother and got really stressed out and later worried about how my baby was doing, was worrying if she was ok and all...its never good when ur pregnant to get stressed out like that or let other people try to make u mad, but i think that ur baby is ok, just avoid ur mom if she likes to fight,

Answer 5

Outside influences can have effects on your baby, this one incident should not concern you much though. Just try and keep your cool and you did do the right thing for you and the baby. The best thing you can do is keep yourself at peace and that way the baby will be also. Pampers.com has good information on babys devopment also nih.gov for expectant mothers. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

Did you know that at 22 weeks a baby can hear everything .... I mean everything outside of the womb?

Your baby was probably startled and distressed and therefore did not move. Babies do tense up in a time of stress.

And by the way, a baby in her mother's womb can feel everything the mother feels.

Read this article, "Mother's Stress May Affect Fetus" here's the link http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/09/25/AR2006092500962.html

Please stay calm, and have a PEACEFUL pregnancy!!!

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Answer 7

You did the right thing to walk away. The baby hears and feels you mom. Stress will effect the baby, and you. You need to stay away from people that cause you to stress or fight. Including your own mother.

Answer 8

good grief.

Having a rough day is different from being stressed out 24/7 and causing a miscarriage.

Obviously you need to avoid these situations, but its not like you're going to lose a baby or anything. Worse case scenario you BP rises and restricts oxygen exchange a little for a while.

You're fine.

Answer 9

Oh I had a similar situation. My sister came to visit me when I was five months pregnant, and we got into a huge fight. She got in my face and wouldn't let me up off the couch. She was pointing her finger in my face, and I wanted so badly to kick her across the room. My stress level was very high and so was my anxiety, and adrenaline. I felt sick afterwards, and my sister, having two kids of her own should have known better than to pick a fight with me. But she did. I got into a fight with my mother as well when I was 7 months pregnant and she told me that no one wants to be around me when I'm moody. Good Lord I was pregnant and hormonal, and she had the nerve to tell me that "Well I was never like that with you girls). She had three kids. I had to remind her that she wasn't "allowed" to be like that by my father. Anyway, she stressed me out, and got after me because I was moody. NO ONE understood the hormonal imbalance that you get when you're pregnant. Some women may not get like that, but it is common, and I got upset because I had to defend myself. I really didn't notice a difference with my son when I got stressed like that other than I felt sick to my stomach and I was mentally tired from it all. I cried for the longest time because I felt like I had no support from family, and felt like they didn't want to understand about hormonal ups and downs and I resented them for putting me through that while being pregnant. Next time I'm pregnant, I'm not inviting any family over. (they're all out of state). I'm not going to subject myself to that next time. May be you should consider that as well. Since your mother isn't sensitive to your pregnancy, then you should stay away from her for the rest of the term. Don't allow anyone to stress you out like that. I can harm the baby.
How are you doing right now? Tap your belly, or put some music to your belly and see if you feel the baby move. You can also call your OB/GYN and talk to them about it too. I hope you're feeling better. Take care.

Answer 10

There is no major effect on you babies health unless you get hit basically. i do believe that the stress levels that you subject yourself to may have an effect on your health which in turn have an effect on the baby. take it easy mama, the last thing you need is to be stressed out while your pregnant because i think babies feel what you feel so always try to feel good for yourself and you baby. ne happy with what God has blessed you with and put the stress to rest.