My roommate told me that she thought I was snobbish just because I am shy, until she started talking to me then she thought TOTALLY OPPOSITE.
Why do people assume this. I've always wondered why when people see me they automatically assume I'm a snob? My co-worker told me that people where telling her that they think I'm stuck up, WHY? Is there like a certain look or something, I don't know.
It's funny how people are surprised when I tell people off to their face or anything, if they are mistreating me, I will not hesitate to tell you in your face, I'm quiet but blunt.
2007-10-01 14:38:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
No Elise I wouldn't tell you to shut up, I'm not mean LOL!! In fact I think I'm more of a listener.
2007-10-01 14:52:35 · update #1
Tinman12
That's just it I AM OUTSPOKEN when it comes to business at work and trying to get ahead in college. In fact I've done public speeches. but when it comes to being social just for the heck of it, I'M NOT, I get REALLY SHY.
2007-10-01 14:55:52 · update #2
psychmaj323
You ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!! THAT IS WHAT I AM!! but still people should not assume I'm a snob.
2007-10-01 15:29:56 · update #3
WHAT YOU ARE LINA is an introvert, just like me.We always get screwed over, raked over because people lack knowledge and they don't understand our quiet nature. Introverts are VERY observant and we gain energy or we recharge our batteries so to speak by being alone. read up on it more, I think you'd be interested. We have more frontal lobe activity, therefore too much external stimuli DRAINS us. That's why we aren't peppy as much and that's why we aren't party people. YOU ARE CORRECT they shouldn't but they will; I've gotten it plenty of times.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=377839&in_page_id=1770&in_a_source=&ct=5
2007-10-01 15:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm the exact same way. I wonder if you are a Cancer(zodiac). But people assume that if your not talking to them. That you are quiet because your judging them. But don't change, you weed out the dummies. Because anyone stupid enough to judge you without taking the time to get to know you. Is not really worth your time. I have dealt with the same problem my whole life. I'm quiet and observational, it's not out of judgment. I just pay attention to people's mannerisms and facial expressions. They tell you, what the person doesn't say with words. You can weed out all the phonies. People are also intimidated by quiet personalities because, they fear the unknown. People who talk to much, and tell all their business. Leave nothing to the imagination. But a quiet person is mysterious and confident. There isn't a need for acceptance, your more of a loner. Your good either way, with or without friends.
2007-10-01 14:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tarrimarie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, a lot is also broadcast in our body language, and I'm guessing you do many things with your body language that promote the idea of the snobbishness. Just being quiet alone is not the only signal people are picking up on. Perhaps you don't smile or look them in the eye? I had a friend who was in la la land half the time, and I didn't think she was a snob at all, but many people who didn't know her well thought she was.
2007-10-01 14:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young people because they are still learning, do not know how to read behavior accordingly. They will assume that quietness is a form of behavior of "I'm better then you." They still don't understand that human behavior is multifaceted. They don't understand that shyness is a human characteristic. They don't seem to understand the shyness is normal. I was in your shoes when I went through school. Being outspoken is fine for some people but not for all. Just like shyness is fine for some people but not for all.Be patient.
2007-10-01 14:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tinman12 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you may learn and see for yourself. That most of the worldly and intelligent aristocrats are confident people that can be also mistakenly perceived as snobbish. It happens to be that showing real confidence may give the impression of vainess and prideful. If not arrogant and snobbish. But then they're just merely the aspects of showing confidence, along with their style and ways of expressions. Aristocrats can have an attitude too. But because they are potentially capable of..: ) My observations: Have a wonderful moment..!
2016-04-06 23:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
psych nailed it. I go through this ALL the time, I even lost my chance of having a job because a few morons thought I was "too quiet". I guess forgot to bring my clown shoes to work. The kicker is, his office was upstairs. Some people want massive attention, it is ridiculous.
Just be sure not to change for anyone.
2007-10-02 03:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got that, too. I was very shy in middle and high school (maybe because people were arseholes?) and people thought I was stuck up. It wasn't that I was stuck-up. I just had nothing interesting to say. They didn't read very much, nor did they watch the movies I was interested in, so we didn't have much in common. People are judgemental. Now people can't shut me up, though. I think my parents wish I was as quiet as I used to be...
2007-10-01 14:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Megan2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
same things happen to me, every person who is closed to me today tells me that when they met me first they thought i was a proudy! but later they realized im not. i dont talk much either and only open up after sometime , i believe talking just for the sake of being friendly and laud shows lack of education, i tried alot to change and act "in your face" friendly but couldn't, so if u know that ur not being talkative is not becouse of ur lack of self confedance then i think its alright and people will realise soon that this is how u r altogether and except u for that! if they dont it means they din't try to know u and were not intrested so why bother thinking about them!
2007-10-01 14:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by sab 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because in the US, those who talk are the ones who get ahead and are seen as more friendly. If you want to get ahead in US society, being quiet isn't the way to do it.
2007-10-01 14:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people think you are being snobbish when you don't talk much because they think that you think you are above the conversation and wouldn't lower yourself to their level and talk about the things they like to talk about. its all just a matter of people wanting to be appreciated and know you are interested in what they have to say, so they like it when you have a good conversation with me. if you dont, they chose to believe you are just some snob who could care less.
2007-10-01 14:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋