Ok, here's the dilemma. I have been married for a little over three years. My husband throughout our hx has been abusive, negative, complaining, temper tantrum throwing when he doesn't get his way. I have Lupus and the stress from him is causing it to go haywire. To save myself, I told him to move out and that I don't want to be with him anymore. He then starts acting very nice and caring. It's a cycle! All weekend all he did was try to upset me and I would see him grinning when I would get upset. He would start cursing, complaining, etc to get to me. When I told him to get out, he simply stated that that's what I want and that he doesn't. It is very uncomfortable in my house. Nobody here likes him. (we live with my mother and grandmother) He won't leave. What do I have to do to make him leave without resorting to restraining orders because we have kids? Is there anything I should do? Being cold doesn't work, he just comes up and tries to give me hugs. Help!
2007-10-01 14:34:16 · 4 answers · asked by Mestiza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. He sounds like a real jerk!
He is really a control freak too. I tend to think that you might benefit from going to a professional just to talk to someone who knows how to deal with this sort of person. Clinical psychologists who offer cognitive therapy are great! They can let you know what you might be up against...because I would hate to see you do something drastic and something awful happen to you or those kids..your mom or grandmother. Yeah, you might think he would never go that far, but so did a lot of the other women who wound up dead...sorry for being so graphic. I just think this requires someone who really knows his or her stuff. If you are like me, you are probably thinking...and with what money? Call them on the phone and tell them your situation if you are low on money..they might be able to work out something. Wow, I hope this helps. Keep your chin up...okay? Good for you for kicking him to the curb.
2007-10-01 15:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not on the lease, mortgage, deed - get the police to carry him off. If you are serious, let him know you are. If he refuses to leave, then call the police, calmly tell them your situation (out of earshot of your husband). If he comes back and continues to harass - then go through the process of a restraining order. It's going to be hard for you, but stay calm. just relax. You need to take care of your health. Doing this in a planned, plotted out way will save you grief and excessive fighting. good luck!
2007-10-01 21:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfornuately, restraining order sounds like the only way of getting him out, reading your situation. if you have children in school, have him served while they are at school or have him served while he is at work to try to keep the kids out of this. good luck to you and your family
2007-10-01 21:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by lynnette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack his bags and put them outside, change all the locks on the doors. Don't feed him, or do anything else for him. If all that fails move out yourself and don't tell him where you moved.
2007-10-01 21:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋