And he was so shy and stuff. And he really likes me, but I don't like him. I rejected him. I think I hurt his feelings.
What should I do?
2007-10-01 14:26:16 · 50 answers · asked by Sucre Noir 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I wasn't exactly rude.
He just asked me out and I said, with no sorry or sympathetic looks or anything, "No thanks."
Then, I smiled at him and left.
And I'm in a Gifted Program, but he's not, and so we're not even that similar.
2007-10-01 14:31:22 · update #1
No, I rejected him because I really just don't like him and dating him just doesn't sound like any fun.
2007-10-01 14:38:01 · update #2
Just forget about it. This is life.
2007-10-01 17:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, but only as a friend then just keep being friendly with him. Let him get over it in his own time. You might to take some time to kind about why you like the guy but aren't willing to go out with him. If you take sometime to think about you might realize that maybe he is the kind of guy you should go out with.
I married a guy who was terminally shy, and did show interest in even though I wanted more than friends. We're for bestfriends and did everything together, but just friends.
Then I had a family emergency and had to move 600 miles away. After a week he was missing me so much he realized his feelings went a lot deeper that he thought. That was April 2000, we got married Nov 2000. Just something to think about.
All you can do is give him time and be friendly to him. Be careful not to lead him on if you only want to be friends.
2007-10-01 14:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mitzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should book check him in the hallways and start laughing.
Just kidding! Don't do it!
Try talking to him! Why did you reject him? You probably did it b/c he's shy, and shy guys aren't your "type" ...right?
Seriously! Give him a chance! Don't go out with him, but try going somewhere with him and some other friends of yours, maybe bowling or a movie with a few friends (And him) and that way you can get to know him without actually "dating."
Maybe after you get to know him you'll change your mind.
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"I wasn't exactly rude.
He just asked me out and I said, with no sorry or sympathetic looks or anything, "No thanks."
Then, I smiled at him and left.
And I'm in a Gifted Program, but he's not, and so we're not even that similar."
*AHEM* "No thanks" indicates that you might've but won't go out with him, just because. It's very rude. You should've said something like "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm not aloud to date"
AND
You are seriously full of yourself. "And I'm in a Gifted Program, but he's not, and so we're not even that similar." --Just because he isn't in a "Gifted" program doesn't mean he isn't as smart as you, in fact, he could be smarter. I met a young girl who was in one of those programs, and she was a complete idiot!!! And HOW do you know that you aren't simular!? Just b/c he isn't in your "I'm perfect, bow down to me" class??? Pfft, no offense, but seriously, grow up!!
2007-10-01 14:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's in all probability shy and affraid of rejection. He for sure likes you in the different case he wouldnt have invited you to visual demonstrate unit a action picture with him. He might even basically decide to take it slow and easily get to appreciate you greater perfect before he ask you out. Take a while and don't rush in the different case you will possibly scare him off and he might think of you're desperate or in a hurry!
2016-10-10 03:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you wanted to be nice and not scar the poor guy for life then maybe you should have just gone on one date with him and made sure that he knew that even though you think he's a nice guy, and you're impressed that he had the guts to ask you out but you're just not attracted to him at this time and that you hope you can be friends.
He's never gonna get the nerve to ask anyone out again if you shoot him down completely on his first try. Besides it won't kill you.
2007-10-01 14:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by akire74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you dont like him, just ignore him.
Now, if you think youre guilty of hurting his feelings, talk to him and make him smile at once.
Make him realize that sometimes you need to know the truth at once even though it hurts rather than telling lies and end up w/ more troubles.
2007-10-01 14:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel bad. You should. He will probably one day ask out someone else. He will treat her like a queen and give her the world. He will be successful and loving.
You will wait for prince valium to come to you and might be unhappy all because you didnt give this shy guy a chance. Shame on you
2007-10-01 14:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be friendly to him, just like you would be to anyone else. Don't feel bad. You don't have to date everyone who asks you out. He is a guy, and he is going to be rejected a time or two (at least) during his lifetime. It's part of the dating game.
2007-10-01 14:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he is a really shy guy, you have to give him credit for trying and if you really hurt him, you need to make sure you talk to him so that he doesnt stay shy forever. You dont have to like him but you shouldnt ruin his confidence either
2007-10-01 14:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Wiseman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him tomorrow...if you really shot him down hard, try talking with him tomorrow, so he doesn't feel like a complete fool...
I'm somewhat shy, when i asked a girl out she didn't have the chance to shoot me down to my face (school does that), but when she did tell me no, she did it somewhat gently, like a "I know what you feel, i'm sorry i just don't feel the same way, but i'm flattered that you like me so much..."-type of thing...
2007-10-01 14:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens to me all the time. The easiest way is too look sorry and say I'm not really looking for a boyfriend right now.
So they think its your fault and not theirs.
2007-10-01 14:31:54 · answer #11 · answered by P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋