Mature 13 Year Old and Pregnancy?

Question

A little background - Cherryxxxxxx blasted me 2 months ago because I answered another question stating that I believe a 13 year old girl is not mature enough to handle pregnancy and caring for a newborn baby.

Does anybody really believe a 13 year old girl is mature enough to handle pregnancy and then care for a baby? Keep in mind this 13 year old is growing physically and mentally, herself.

After thinking about how I responded, I believe I would still respond the way I previously did; a 13 year old girl is NOT MATURE ENOUGH to handle pregnancy and a newborn baby.

Well-thought answers would be appreciated.

For Crystal94040 - I am very definite on my "stance" concerning teenage pregnancy.

You say something like I need to "rethink" my opinion?

Basically, I'm tired of my Tax Dollars supporting welfare for unwed, experimental, teenage mothers with no way to support the life they bring into the world.

So, basically, I don't need to "rethink." It's already been thought of.

Answer 1

I absolutely agree. At 13, you don't understand the concept of the real world. You are still under your parents roof, everything is paid for by your parents (or guardian), also mst (if not all) 13 year olds think the world revolves around them. When you have a child, this can NOT be the case. Most 13 year olds can't even properly take care of the small responsibilities they have (i.e. cleaning their room, homework, etc.) much less care for another living human being. I mean, (and this is a funny example) have you seen those episodes of Maury Povich with the young girls who are trying to get pregnant? They are all delusional....They have two onesies, a pack of diapers, and think that they are ready! They don't understand that you can't talk on the phone all day, or chat online, or go to the skating rink when you have a baby. You can't sleep in all day on the weekends, and most of your friends...you lose. Then, at that age, they are unable to get jobs, so their parents (the grandparents of the baby) are now supporting them both or (even better) they are using every government program and draining our tax dollars. (I do understand that there are people who genuinely need assitance. However, I do not think a child who chooses to sleep around qualifies). It is a disgrace, an absolute disgrace. I was 18 years old, on my own, with my own place to live and a car when I had my first daughter, and it was still extremely hard. I was still wanting to be selfish and realized quickly...I couldn't. I sacrificed everything for my daughter. While I don't regret it for a minute, I also don't recommend it. These kids, regardless of how "mature" they are, need to go play with their baby dolls, and wait to have babies until they are older, stable, and in a loving relationship (preferably marriage)

Answer 2

I agree that a 13 year old should not get pregnant nor should she be having sex. It is completely too much for her emotional feelings. I know that 13 year olds are very emotional anyway and I bet with being pregnant that wont help any. I am 15 and still get emotional over the stupidest things! And I am not gonna get pregnant for a LONG time. So I am not saying that she won`t care for the baby I am just saying that it might be too much on her and trying to keep up with homework and friends. and goodluck to her if her bf stays around to help her with the baby.

Answer 3

I agree with you, I'm 13, and I don't believe that it would be possible for me to handle pregnancy and a baby. I can barely handle life as it is right now. School, friends, family, etc. We still have a lot to learn, and a lot to teach. The cravings and the morning sickness, the kicks, and the how irresponsibility of being pregnant is just too much. There's probably very few, less than 10 girls, probably, that would ever be able to cope with this. Like you said, a girl would be growing physically and mentally; no, they wouldn't be ready, it's just too much.

Answer 4

I agree that a 13 year old is not mature enough to handle this. I know that as a 20 year old mother of two and one on the way, I think that it's been harder than anything. Even though she might live through it, it would be more difficult than anything she ever did.

Answer 5

I absolutely agree with you. A thirteen year old is still a child herself. She is most likely still relying on her own mother I mean Im almost sixteen but I still rely on my own parents a lot and i know that even at this age I wouldn't be mature enough to have a baby. Honestly if you just look at the way that even seniors in high school behave it will become quite clear that even then they couldnt take care of another life. So yes you were right in making your comment.

Answer 6

I was mature for a 13 year old growing up, but in no way was I mature enough to take care of a kid of my own. 13 year olds have sex because of peer pressure. They don't think of the concequences of having sex. It's fun, it's exciting, but when they find out they're pregnant, well... that just spoils all the fun. I think that teens should at least wait until they're done with school and have a steady job before getting pregnant.

Answer 7

well by today's "standards" the answer is no...but from an evolutional point of view yes. 13 year old girls who are physically capable of conception CAN do everything it takes to raise a normal healthy child IF society would only allow it. A normal healthy 13 year old who has concieved can have a normal healthy birth, can breastfeed, and can nurture and raise a child if she has been raised right and taught how to do so.
However with they way children are raised today, the selfishness, poor diet, lack of maternal figures...it's highly unlikely that the average 13 year old will be an ideal parent....But it still sickens me that people feel the need to assume this and there for degrade young mothers.
If your so concerned about young teen mom's not "being good enough" then maybe you should offer to help them out, not add to the problem with rants about teens not being "mature enough" aka "not good enough in your eyes"
We need to get back to the basics of family, children, role models, and helping eachother.
I'd highly sugest re-thinking your stance since it does nothing productive and only spreads narrow minded thinking.
We need to spend more time thinking about how to help teen mothers, how to prevent teen pregnancy, how to create better morals and values, how to ensure not only the sucess of our children, but their happiness in their choices as well. Not sit around polling to see who agree's that some 13 year old is not "mature enough" to raise a baby. Obviously you are unsure of your own stance on the subject, if not, why do you feel the need for so much reassurence?

Answer 8

13 year old girls are not old enough to handle a pregnancy. First of all emotionally and physically her body cant handle it. But also she wouldn't be able to enjoy the rest of her childhood she probably couldnt go to college or get a good job... and after shes had her kid shesstuck with it and boys would seem way off limits because she would be scared that the same thing might happen.

Answer 9

I completely agree.
There is an epidemic of children that aren't properly cared for in the USA alone. There is no 13 yr old child mature enough to handle pregnancy and raising a child. End of story.

Answer 10

Its like 13 year olds are still developing! How could they possibly think of having BABIES! they are babies themselves... babies taking care of babies... correct... Not mature enough... 18 year olds... above aged are not even mature enough much less a 13 year old... If I am going to get thumbs down.. so be it.. but 13 year olds cannot have babies... they are still developing... I have nothing against young moms... most are responsible for they're children but I think other children can't have children...