I understand why I miss my kids but its her I miss and she has made it perfectly clear that we will never be together even though it was an eighteen yr relationship, married almost 14! I don't care about any of the things that were done I just want her back? Why can't I get over her? I mean we had a break-up that I can only describe as hell which has ended with me in jail for sending emails and texts! I did send them but they were not threatening, we used to have something special and it ended so quickly.. we both were not in our right minds for lack of a better term...
2007-10-01 13:01:25 · 24 answers · asked by AzNative89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she is familiar. its hard moveing on getting to know new people, you never know what to expect all their little quirks finding someone compatable. When your alone its easy to only remember the good but you got to remember an ex is an ex for a reason. There is life out thare its just hard to find the way. Dont let lonely push you back into a unhappy situation. Good luck.
2007-10-01 14:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by sweetcavebaby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-08 04:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Glayds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u miss her cuz u were 2gether 4 so long, and not having her there probably has u a little freaked! just let her have her own space, and try 2 figure out why ur relationship ended. was it something u did? something u said? try 2 get 2 the real problem, and then make corrections in future relationships
also, if u still love her, don't u want what's best 4 her? if she wants 2 c other ppl, then shouldn't u b the bigger person, and not hold her back? i know it's tough, but in the end, u just have 2 let her go...yes, what u had may have been special, but could u go on living 2gether knowing she's miserable? how is that special? if u love her, u'll let her go...
i'm sorry about ur divorce, and good luck!
2007-10-01 13:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Caity 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time changes everything...you NEED to try and stay away from her and get over this or you will end up back in jail again. NO girl is worth that much when you know she wont be with you anyway. Keep your pride...if you have to go out find a couple girls to hang around with. You'll be amazed at how soon you start to feel better. I'm sure you'll always have some feelings about her but it will fade and you will get over her. Just be smart about it and don't do anything stupid again. Time to move on man...learn from your past and make the next one better. And take care of your kids! Good luck with everything.
2007-10-01 13:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by aero 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. Eighteen years with someone is a very long time. If you have not divorced yet you might try getting marriage counseling. My husband and I have been married 29 years but we might not have been if we hadn't gotten marriage counseling. All couples go through rough times here and there it is just normal. I'm sorry that you couldn't work things out with her. You could still use some counseling to help you get over her. You might not be ready to date yet but that would help too. You were together a long time so it's going to take some time to get her off your mind. I'm sure you are still in love with her and of course you are remembering the good feeling more than the bad. Find a good counselor to talk to and let your friends know that you would love to meet some available women. It does get better in time. Good luck.
2007-10-01 13:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by sunny 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well love you never got in death on what the break up was over? I guess you told us about as much as you wanted us to know! From the sounds of it your beginning to sound like you need professional help with this one because anytime you have ended up in jail for sending e-mails and text messages! Your right for lack of a better term the break up had to be the worst! But I would like you to think of this as well maybe this can help you: "Why would you want her back after all that and she embarrassed you by placing the police involved about freaking text messages and e-mails?" What kind of woman is that, darn was it that darn deep? I mean you have children together, and that alone not unless she was getting beat should have soften her heart a little! But I'm going to leave you with that to think about! No woman should put her kids father in that position for something so trivial not unless he was abusive!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep in mind with a record, how she expect you to get a job or moreless keep one! Was police and jail, that deep for a text message or a e-mail? That should help you getting over her real quick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean really quick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-01 13:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheer up and get it through your head that you need to move on. If it was such a wonderful relationship, you would still be married. Divorce happens to the best of us. When I met my now husband, he had only been divorced for a few years, after 18 years of marriage and he thought he was going to spend the rest of his life alone until I popped up. We have been married for 2 years now and this is the marriage people talk about when it will be till death do us part. Way better then either of our first marriages. It will get better, you just need to find a special person to spend your time with.
2007-10-01 13:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What you can expect depends on your course of action. I myself had a similar situation. Except I found out from one of her former friends that it was also of a sexual nature prior to our marriage. When I got home, I nicely told her that we needed to talk and that it was imperative to be honest. I asked her and she did confirm that she had been in contact with him but they were just friends and that prior to marriage they did have occasional sex. She assured me it was nothing more than that now. I politely asked her to break off the contact right then in front of me. She did again behind my back again a year later. This time I told her not to again and this time I called the guy explaining that were married, to please quit with the contact. Third time I caught her, I simply filed divorce papers, and we divorced. I guess the lesson here is, you can't make someone change unless they want to, but you also don't have to live your life wondering if she's betraying your trust.
2016-03-13 06:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-30 23:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by minda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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She's planning on meeting him or has already. I'd find out and ask her to come clean on what is going on. There should be no secrets between you guys - even on FB. I can read any of my husband's postings, and he can read any of mine. The fact she is hiding this from you is not a good sign.
2016-04-11 00:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋