I love my husband, but I think I'm having trouble adjusting to marriage...is this normal? We've only been married 6 months.....I was single for a long time, so I think that might be the problem.
2007-10-01 12:56:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bringing two lives together and adjusting to the day-to-day practical implications of accommodating each others needs takes time..........It's normal.......and you WILL adapt!
2007-10-01 13:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal. Friends lose friends when they become roommates sometimes, and marriage is even more intimate. Six months is absolutely not enough to adjust. Have fun with this. Do an inventory game w/your husband to review both your likes and dislikes for the last six months. Sometimes one just doesn't realize that he is doing something to annoy you. Men are not good with hints. Paint the picture large and loud and clear, but with love.
2007-10-01 20:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by RickNY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! it's one of the biggest adjustments you will ever make. learning to take someone else's consideration in all regards when you were so used ot making all the decisions on your own is the hardest thing you will ever do. i have been married over a year and i still am learning to respect my husband's space. i'm used to having my own place, paying my own bills, spending my own money for my kids. to go from working full time and spending my time with my children, i had to learn to not spend a dime that isn't mine on my kids. and when you are a stay at home mom, it's the hardest thing to not spend the only $10.00 you'll ever see that month on them. learning that you are of no financial value unless you are paying all the bills, it still is a hard adjustment. i always thought in marriage, what's your is mine and what is mine is yours. turns out, it's not that way.
2007-10-01 21:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY normal! Two people coming together is tough, that's why many divorces occur within the first 2 years of marriage. Go to marriage counseling.
2007-10-05 19:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by MBA-MsBadAss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure does take a while, 4 me it was a couple of years,(2nd wife), I'd been a single dad 4 16 years, and was use to caring the load, cooking,cleaning,laundry,shopping etc..etc.. I just couldn't get use to having someone that would help,love,enjoy life the way we do!!! Just relax&let it all sink in, IT IS REALLY GOOD!! 15 YEARS NOW!!
2007-10-01 21:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course! You have to find who you both are as each other's spouse, even if you and your husband lived together before you got married. Trust me, if you love,honor,respect and cherish him enough, and he feels the same about you, you'll get the hang of it. Plus, remember to pick your fights and be careful not to let it turn into some screaming match. Also, don't let your love life get as cold as the north pole, keep it spicy and sensual and be open to one another's fantasies. Hang in there!
2007-10-01 20:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by carlyn b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah reaching six months is like getting to the top of that first big hill on any roller coaster.
Prepare yourself for the fastest drop of your life.
You'll be fine. Perfectly normal, even if you've lived together for a couple of years.
2007-10-01 20:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure is! I had never lived with a guy, so after we were married, it was really strange for me to have 'a man in my bed'!!! That took quite a while (and an elbow in the eye giving me a bruised eye which was really hard to explain to my mom!).
However, with compromise and understanding, everything just gets worked out.
2007-10-02 08:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its actualy a continuing adjustment. Both people must learn to give in @ times.
Neither should be mistreated of course.
2007-10-01 20:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by hotvw1914cc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marrage is a two way deal. one you have to learn to give alot. recieve little. i have been married for 15yrs. at first it was hard we had to get our lives put together. we had to go out together eat together watch tv ect. it will come together if you and your husband works on this talk to each other. communicate every day and be open to new ideas. on both sides not just your side or just you husbands. hope this helps
2007-10-01 20:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by VERNON C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋