or doesn't it matter ?honest answers please
thanx xx
2007-10-01 12:25:45 · 40 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maber0107 it may have crossed your mind but its 2007 not everyone is married lol
2007-10-01 12:46:17 · update #1
levi/ its not about if i like it , i'm talking about could someone handle not being intimate for a long period of time , i am currently single (with two children ) i just want to know other peoples opinion thats all lol xxx
2007-10-01 12:57:09 · update #2
I have personally been in relationships with regular sexual intimacy and without. I would say it is a pretty important aspect of a relationship. Of course there will be times when one or both partners have things going on making them feel distant intimately and patients is required. Sometimes depression, meds, self esteem, demands at work or home or the usual will cause this. But the reason I think it is important is for both partners to feel desired, close, and sexy. If people go a while with out these feelings for whatever reason they might start noticing sexual attention elsewhere, partake in porn (leading to the other partner feeling undesired) and the likes. Before you know it you will be looking at every other couple who seems they just can't get their hands off of each other and start wondering why that isn't you. Its normal to get distracted for a while but after months you should start wondering why your partner isn't feeling it. Sometimes people are so hypersexual and free before a commitment that when they are in a steady relationship they think things are becoming routine and need extra stimuli to be interested. Things like this and depression can be worked on with counseling, reading about the issue, cutting out the porn or exercising. But remember, witholding sex too often can become a form of control. Especially if it is paired with bribes or him/her saying things like, don't worry. later! Making you feel like you are begging for it and the only one wanting it. I mean come on! Unfair :). Either way, sex is important to feeling wanted, it's natural and an important thing in relationship to share with as close to equal interest as possible.
But, hands down it is always a problem when two people share very different views of sex and frequency. That problem will not just go away without some form of hurt or resentment. very serious in my opinion.
2007-10-01 21:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kmae 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I did for 41 years! Not 100%, but close. We would go as long as 3 years. (Even Santa comes more often than that!) With new girlfriend, sex is an everyday thing. Intimacy creates a "team" approach to life that I never had before. Can't/won't ever live without it again.
2007-10-01 14:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you mean by sex Bex! There is a difference between full on intercourse and other satisfying sexual behaviour! It is a very difficult one to answer because if you love someone and there was a reason they couldn't have sex, then you wouldn't just stop loving them because of it. Sex is important in a relationship because it creates that closeness and intimacy which can be easily lost without it. That said I do know people in relationships who don't have sex yet they seem happy. (No, not me!!!)
2007-10-01 21:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't stay in one unless there were some medical reason why she couldn't do anything.Yes sex is important and so is the closeness that comes from being with someone.I am single and have been celibate for over 4 years but I have nothing to offer a woman anymore.Good luck.
2007-10-01 12:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by notagain49 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bex, Yes, l could, there's much more to a relationship than Sex, l would place Honesty and trust in front of sex- any day of the week. Love Jo xx
2007-10-02 03:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes good question not married so if I wasn't getting my needs met i'm outta there.
If I was with a man for a long time and still wasn't married and He was in an accident and it didn't work any more If I really loved him I would find different ways to pleasure both of us.
2007-10-01 19:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by CLOSED SITE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as my sex organ demands that I attend it's needs, I'll be slave to it, not that I use it much anymore but it does dictate to me that it has it's needs and that I will suffer if it doesnt get the attention it so desreves,..on the oither hand, sex was nice when I was younger, but I'm not younger anymore........which is a real shame. It could be worse I suppose but I sure dont wanna know what "worse" is.
2007-10-01 12:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by theoregonartist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm single and have been for a number of years and I don't do the casual sex thing and I think if you don't have it for a while you don't want it but if your in a relationship you do unless your unhappy within that relationship then that makes a difference.
2007-10-01 19:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on why there was no sex. If you are just dating and you want to wait or if there is a medical reason then this would be understandable. If there has been intimacy before and now there is just no desire; then that sends up a big red flag that something is wrong.
2007-10-01 12:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by littleone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, I have a friend that is married to a man that was in a car wreck he has no feeling from waist down . so no sex for them but they are very much still in love and there for each other. relationships are not just the sex , its emotional connetion. as long as you can talk to each other have fun together .these two are what real love is about. oh and yes she is faithful to him.
2007-10-01 12:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋