Couples in enduring, happy, healthy, honest, monogamous unions?

Question

I am interested in hearing from couples ( married or simply coupled committed to each other without being formally, legally married ) who have been with each other for @ 10 years or longer, and are still happy, healthy and feel they made the right choice in being and staying together with each other as friends, lovers and spiritual / life companions.
* Both partners feel they are personally & spiritually ( this may or may not include religious beliefs, agnostic, spiritual, or other beliefs for people ) fulfilled and growing to be their best and highest selves while in a committed relationship with each other. And to be making a positive contribution to society as a whole.* Are also best friends with each other.* Believe in and relate with complete honesty and openness in their relationship and communication with themselves and each other.* Both partners choose, and feel honestly aligned for their future together, to be sexually, romantically monogamous with each other, while

...while feeling & sharing love universally with others & society as a whole.

* Both partners feel comfortable in their independence, ability to express & choose to be, feel and do whatever is in their deepest, truest interest and holistic best interest, and that such is also in alignment with, supported by and supportive of each others committed relationships with each other.

At some point, I may collect the stories I receive into a book about what truly healthy, happy, holistically fulfilling, honest and sexually monogamous relationships can look like, and how various people have navigated their inner and unitive individual and collective life & growth together. If / when I do this, those who ask to remain anonymous or to not have their story omitted or edited will of course have their wishes fully honored.

Essentially, the questions I am interested in hearing involve the "how" of nurturing ones independence, universal Love for all beings, healthy contributions to society while choosing to being in and committed to a loving, affectionate, healthy, growth nurturing & monogamous union with one specific other individual.

Anything about this that people wish to share is of interest. How you do it. How you nurture your independent selves, giving to others, intimate relationships with others, attraction with others while still being healthier for choosing to be committed and lovingly sexually monogamous with your specific companion.
Etc...

Answer 1

my answer to your question is good luck in finidng people who are enduring happy healthy and in a happy monogamous marriage. i think today its very rare especially with how women are becoming more independent and with how marriages are portrayed in our society. its sad but its true, couple years ago it was 50% of married people ended up in a divorce, now its about 75%. what the hell....anyways good luck to all the lovers and wanted to be loved people out there because everyone deserves to find their true love.

Answer 2

My husband and I are not your average couple. We have been in a loving relationship for 14 years now. What makes us unique from most of the population is that we are truck drivers. We are literally with each other 24 hours a day 5 to 6 days at a time. On the 7th day we are usually apart for only an hour or two when I go to get my nails done. It takes a very strong committment to be able to be with anyone this amount of time. We are completly lost when we are not together,. and are constantly on the phone with one another. if we have to be apart for some reason. He is not only my husband but he is my best friend, my sounding board, my personal cheerleader, and my life. He is sitting next to me right now and he says he feels the same, After 14 years together it still feels like we are on our honeymoon and he still makes me weak in the knees

Answer 3

It will be ten years next week for my wife and I. It is centered around Christian beliefs, including the concept of an eternal progression as a family. Goals and beliefs need to be similar in general terms. That gives some space for flexibility in retaining some of your individual likes (i.e. sports). My wife and I don't share the same checking account, but trust each other in being fiscally responsible. We work with our children in their education (dropoff/pickup from school, parent meetings, homework help). An effort has to be made for continual courtship (a weekly date night for example) and that one is supportive, affectionate, and empathetic of the other. Spouse comes before children, parents, and anyone else. "Clean your rags in your own house"--in other words, handle your disagreements amongst yourselves. Don't include parents, friends, etc. in this. Strive to make the other happy, and that in turn brings joy to you.

Answer 4

Is this some kind of roll call or is there an actual question here to be answered?

I've been married to my husband for going on 13 years and every day I fall more in love with him.

Edit: Ah, that's something I can work with.

Well, I love my husband so I want him to be healthy and happy. That means that I want him to have a fulfilling life. I support him when he is feeling a lot of stress at work and I encourage him when he undertakes some project. Like when he goes off to a tournament, I encourage him to have fun. I don't make him feel guilty about leaving me all day with the kids by myself. I understand that he works hard all week and needs some time to have fun and it's healthy for him to have friends of his own.

I build him up and I build up his image of himself. He is wonderful and I tell him that. He is sexy and I tell him that. I love him and I tell him that too, every single day. I tell him he is brilliant and handsome. And he is all of these things.

These things aren't just to build him up but also to remind myself of these things. I think sometimes, and this is just my own personal theory based upon what I've seen in other peoples lives that I've known, that people fall out of love because they let themselves forget why they fell in love in the first place; or that they are in love at all.

My husband feels the same way about me and he treats me in the same manner. He encourages me when I want to do something. He respects me. He wants me to be happy Not because he has to but because he loves me.

Just like when I slip little love notes into his lunch. I don't have to. I want to, I want him to know that I love him and I think about him. When I get groceries I sometimes pick up a brownie from the bakery to slip into his lunch too as a special treat. Why? Because I know he loves them and I want him to have special treats. They make him happy and that makes me happy.

Answer 5

I have been married for 14 years. Be real,nobody feels the same as they did when they first met their spouse, how could you, it is impossible. People change, feelings change too, but you just accept it . I love my husband soooooooo sooooo much.

Answer 6

my honey and i have been together for 25 years. you forgot to mention "diplomacy" in a relationship. there are two commitments: first is to each other and second is commitment to the relationship.

Answer 7

My husband and I fit that except we have only been together 5 years.