He talked to me about it recently and now that he feels like I know too much he has kind of shut me away too because I called him on his patterns.
He gets in relationships, moves in with the person, lasts about 1-2 years, then he decides it's over but he doesn't tell the other person. He just looks for a job in a new state and moves away and in the process breaks up with the person.
Then he shacks up again, gets a new job, one or two years later moves again, etc.
He also can't handle feeling bad. If someone says something to him that makes him feel bad (because he really did something wrong he should feel bad about) he gets very angry with the person and cuts them out of his life forever.
I have never met anyone like this before, and I am kind of feeling like trying to stay friends after these years is too hard. But I don't know what I should do.
2007-10-01 11:35:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did the right thing by telling him your perceptions and he is basically shocked that someone called him out on it. There is nothing more you can do. He needs to look in the mirror if he wants to take steps to settle down. He probably won't, but he certainly will avoid you because you know his "secret."
2007-10-01 11:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
man, what a friend you've got there, huh?
yeah, that is okay, you told him what was wrong about him. if you told him gently and nicely, he should respond positively. if i'm not wrong, you wanna help the guy right? coz u know something's wrong with him.
well maybe he had bad experiences before, or maybe hurts (perhaps rejection or anything, i don't know) coz i believe we are a product of are experiences. and how your friend acts was and is a result of his experiences. try understanding his background, then you'll understand why.
the question regarding to keep the friendship or not, if he cut you down already, i think you have to focus more on other people, less on him. dont waste your efforts on sumone hu wont appreciate them. some people out there will be more responsive probably in need of your friendship.
no need to feel guilt, each of us make our choices, he made his. maybe you could just say, i am here if you need me. but dont focus on hm that much. God bless
2007-10-01 18:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by lex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a female friend of mine. She has been driving me crazy for years, but every year or so I have someplace new to visit.
I think she will eventually find the one to keep her for a while I'm sure your friend will too.
There is nothing you can do it's his life and his choice
2007-10-01 18:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by beachlivin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its best just to walk away from friends like this...ask your friend, he seems to be the expert.
2007-10-01 18:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS HE BIPOLAR? OR MAYBE HE HAS SOME SORT OF BEHAVIORAL DISORDER?
2007-10-01 18:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋