I've fallen out with one of my best friends over eating problems [which I've got help for] and we've had a huge argument in which she's really upset me to the point of self harming, told me I'm attention seeking and to piss off. I told her I wouldn't speak to her again. I really don't wanna lose her, she's a fantastic friend and I just wish my problems would stop getting in the way of my friendships. Do I deserve friends? Should I just give up and hide away from the world? I don't know what to do. I feel so bad for everything I've put my friends through, but, at the same time, I need my friends, they've helped me through everything so much. Without my friends, I'm nothing. At all.
But.. Also without friends, I'll just give up on myself. Let my eating problems spiral. It won't matter if no one cares.
Someone, please, what should I do? Try and resolve the friendship or leave it and let her have her life back.
If the person this is about sees this, I'm sorry.
2007-10-01 11:24:40 · 9 answers · asked by .x*Emma*x. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend will still be there for you, because she obviously cares. It is fustrating for anyone to see someone they care about ruining their health. That is why she is angry. You need to try harder to get over this or you will be lonely and lose everything, except your parents and the hospice nurses.
Sorry to be so blunt, but your friend must really care. Good luck.
2007-10-01 11:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be the bigger person here and speak to your friend first and appologise - It must be really frustrating for your friends for them to see you do this to yourself - thats why they are cross with you. They are also ignorant in the way that they dont understand what you are going through too. They may also have problems that they are trying to deal with and cant understand why you cant get over yours.
Have you see your GP about your problem or joined an eating disorder group - I really think joining the group would help as you would be with people who understand and then it would leave you free to have fun and enjoy spending time with your friends, but remember - self harming solves no problems.
Good luck and get in touch with your friend now!! xxx
2007-10-01 18:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was just a falling out, and if you give yourself some time to get your feet under you (psychiatrist, therapist), maybe the relationship can still be repaired, but not right now.
Of course you deserve friends. Everyone who's not evil deserves friends. Just try to be there for them like they are for you. Listen to their problems, and help them out. That way when you're really down, they won't mind coming to your rescue.
Get that eating disorder under control, young lady.
Take care,
TX Mom
2007-10-01 18:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you deserve friends! Just because you have problems, it doesnt make you less worthy.
you do need to find your self confidence a bit more without the need to depend on friends, otherwise you will keep going round in this vicous circle.
Have you tried talking to your friend about how you feel ?
2007-10-01 18:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by ξήĢŁĭŞĦ ŗǾşξ ©® ღஐღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try and resolve the friendship with your friend! When you try to make up you'll probably argue with your friend, but keep trying! If she's as great a friend as you say she is then you probably don't want to lose her, and she probably doesn't want to lose you either!
2007-10-01 18:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY ARE YOU SORRY!!!?????
dont be! try make some new friends tho and maybe one day when shes grown up shell apoligise
i no LOADS of people that hav had eating disorders, theyre totally normal people. your friend is the one with the problem
dont become a recluse either tho, k?
2007-10-01 18:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by time2dance! 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Probably your friend is being the way she is because she is concerned about you
2007-10-02 05:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by emma l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a doctor and wen u are better smash tha friend out
2007-10-01 18:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by The Creator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the friend.tell her you really need her right now and miss her and that your sorry for what u said
2007-10-01 18:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋