My boyfriend deleted pictures of me and my exhusband off my computer without my knowledge. He didn't mention anything to me about them offending him. He still had pictures of his ex on his computer before he transferred them to discs.
I found out when I was looking for a picture of my boyfriend. I found out he deleted that one too. Would you be mad? Why would he do this instead of talking to me about it?
2007-10-01 11:17:04 · 13 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I deleted my exes pictures from my computer without my man asking me to, as I would erase my past if I could.
But he has pictures of his ex on his computer, I've seen them, or more like he's shown them to me, and I do admit I felt a stab of jealousy. But his past is his own, I can erase pictures, but I can't erase his mind. I know he keeps his pictures because he has fond memories of everything at the time, not just her, but the group of friends he had and the places he visited with them, but even though the pictures are there, he is next to me everytime I wake up, and that counts for a lot more than some pics.
I think you have every right to be angry, and don't delete his pictures without him knowing, demand that he do the same. Not only from his computer, but from his CDs. If he doesn't, then you know the type of man you're with, he wants to control you, but refuses to compromise.
2007-10-01 12:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do take her to small claims court, and even if you do win, that does not mean you will ever see that money necessarily. The court only decides whether or not the money is owed to you, they do not actually do anything to enforce the payment. You would still have to hire a third party afterwards to garnish her wages or harass her for the money, and those businesses take almost 50% of the money for themselves. PLUS they won't even take the case if it's under $2000. The one upside (for you) is that IF you did win your case against her, that debt would then show up on her credit report and she will never be able to buy a car, or a house, or take out a loan of any type again.
2016-04-06 23:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a touchy subject. Everyone knows that exes are part of who a person is today, yet it's also human nature to feel jealousy and envy if the person they love still has reminders of the past.
If you don't want him doing that again, password protect your computer and store other photos in a locked place where he can't access them.
EDIT: Come on now. Admit it. Most of you would tear up a photo of your honey's ex if you found it stashed somewhere and didn't think you would get caught! I can't believe anyone who says they would not or never have ripped up a phone number, picture, letter, or some other item that did not belong to them!
2007-10-01 11:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Because he's not the important man in your life (your ex) now. Compromise, have him delete his ex's pictures off the discs and all it all "Even Steven."
Why do either of you need pictures of your ex's in the first place? They are no longer in your lives for a good reason right? The person in front of you is the important ones.
What ever you do don't try and conceal them from him. Hiding things always results in the cover up being exposed at the most embarrassing times. That will end your relationship quick fast and in a hurry.
2007-10-01 11:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Not only would I be "mad", but I would be packing my stuff and leaving his controlling a$s right then and there. Of course I would never delete ANYTHING off my partner's computer. Both my husband and I kept all of our pictures on our computers and in shoeboxes, that includes pictures of our ex's. Neither of us has a problem with it. I'm willing to bet that this is not the first or the last time your b/f disrespects you this way; usually such episodes form a pattern.
P.S. There's nothing "touchy" about it. No one has any right at all to snoop through your stuff and throw away things that belong to you. No one at all.
2007-10-01 11:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
kitty and aromatica are both right. this kind of behavior is not acceptable. those pictures were your private possessions and he had no right to dispose of them. if it really bothered him that much he should have come to you and discussed it like an adult, not erased it behind your back like a child. on the other hand, you never know, it could have happened by accident. i would ask him about it and see what he says. his reaction and response will tell you what you need to know.
2007-10-01 11:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Whipping 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all he had no right to remove your pictures without your consent, he still has picture of his ex transfered to dics,
i would be up set because he had know right to do it without your permission and it is a bit childess.
best of luck
2007-10-01 11:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The fact the he removed them shows he is insecure or controlling. Either way it was not right without asking you first especially if he still had some of his ex.
2007-10-01 11:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
He should have talked to you first, but not a good idea to have ex's pics around either..
2007-10-01 11:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He had no right and this should be your red flag. He keeps his but made sure you have nothing he doesn't want you to have. The fact that he did as he pleased instead of talking with you is a big red flag in my book. Rethink this relationship.
2007-10-01 11:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋