i AM PREGNANT!! i am only 13?

Question

I JUST WROTE A FORUM FINDING OUT WHAT PEOPLE THOUGHT ABOUT IT AND NOW I WANT TO SAY I AM PREGNANT AND I NEED HELP SO HELP!!

i already told my parents and they are the ones that bought me the test i kind of wanted to get pregnant but i dont know how i am going to raise it

i am not lying i took the test and i am pregnant. i told my parents i did start my menstral a year a go and i have not have it for two months now and i had sex

Answer 1

Read the answers you got on the last question.

Answer 2

If that's true, then you need to get an abortion NOW. Keeping and trying to raise this baby is just about the best way to ruin your life, short of maybe taking drugs or something. You say you kind of wanted a baby anyway? No, you do NOT. For anyone, taking care of a baby is an ENORMOUS drain on time, money and just about everything else you can think of. Having a child essentially sacrifices the next 20 or so years of your life. Just imagine, do you want to be 33 and look back and realize that over 60% of your life has been spent taking care of this kid? Do you really think that at your age you even CAN take care of a kid properly? What is the KID going to think when they're 20 and you're only 33? Just NO. Get an abortion immediately, regardless of what your parents or the baby's father say, because the alternative is basically to ruin your life. Get the idea?

Answer 3

Well let's start with the fact that half an hour ago you were saying that you really dream of being pregnant and would love to have a baby and now you are sure you are pregnant.
Secondly, people on a forum saying you are pregnant does not make you pregnant.
Have you actually even had sex?? Have you even started menstruating??
Have you taken a pregnancy test, and it has come back positive... once you can answer yes to these... then come back asking for advice about being a pregnant teenager.

Answer 4

I just read your problem-question. I hope that this question is legitimate, that you are a girl, and that the age listed above is true. If you are positively pregnant, please do not abort the unborn child, a mother thirteen years older can make quite a friend to the child, especially if it turns out to be a little girl. Second, you shouldn't be advertising that you are 13 and pregnant because you need to show responsibility and not expect sympathy. Furthermore, having a child at 13 is a fragile situation, and you don't want the wrong people involved, they only hinder, not HELP! Lastly, I know a girl who became a mother at 15 (concieved at 14) and it has been a long enduring trial of hospitals, checkups, travels, talking with social workers, nightmare of external influences, etc -- She now has four children and is happily married to the father of these 4 babies. This is only scratching the surface of the journey that began when she was 14 -- but she is so happy to be 25 and already have her family established, and have the energy to take care of them. If you didn't get pregnant at 13, chances are being sexually active like I assume you are, it would have happened within a year or so, which wouldn't have made to much a difference. Focus now on getting prenatal care, purchasing infant clothes, eating healthy (absolutely no drugs or alcohol during pregnancy), and get the support of your parents, and I am sure everything will be fine. In less than a year, you will have a new little boy or girl -- so smile and keep anxiety at bay!

UPDATE: I just wanted to add some extra opinions as I read through other readers suggestions and comments; comments of "getting a licensed Abortioner to cut a baby out of your womb (abortion)" Comments that your too young and should have waited to you "pursued your career" "stockpiled your bank accounts" etc.
Listen, I cannot be a shallow, judgemental person, and advise you to wait till your a wrinkly 35 year old woman with 100,000 dollars in your bank account and 6 years of college education till you start think about having a child: Had you done this hears what would have been the actuality of the situation. As Follows.

Lets say you graduated high school - (4-5 monogomous partners)
College Education (drinking, partying, drugs, another 10 sex partners, maybe more)
Now 25 (the perfect age to have a baby, but you still need that diploma) So you wait till around 30 years old
You are now 30 years old, you have aquired your degree but you don't feel "financially stable"
Don't forget you now have to sleep around to get the position at that perfect job.
Now you are finally 35 years old, ready and comfortable to start a family, but there's a problem.
You cannot find any man who wants to commit and even if they do, divorce is likely when he finds out of all the past sexual partners before he met you.
Or, you meet someone who will look past those tremendous flaws of sleeping with over 20 men, but you have cervical cancer as a result of multiple mens DNA in your body. Possible HPV (genital warts, AIDS, Hepatitus B (drug use), on and on.
This is the life of a typical Career Minded Women that is usually a Feminist, in America. They frown upon lower segments of Society girls who have babies young, steal their children, Because they are bitter they put their careers before their Families and Children. I know I am going to get bad reviews for this, but it is TRUE. And they know it.

Answer 5

YOU WANTED TO GET PREGNANT!?!?
are you a crazy lady?!!?

your screwed really. kiss your teen years goodbye, they are out the window. you will now have a child to raise... and think when all your friends are like 20 and out partying and having a good time your gonna have to be stuck with a 7 year old!! Wow, the baby will be young enough to be your little brother/sister!!!! How are you gonna pay for someone to watch it while you go to school?? you're not even old enough to have a job yet!! Your mom is gonna get stuck raising that baby.

i'm not trying to be completely negative, it can be done, but rarely does a 13 year old make a good parent, they are still children. i guess all you can really do is wait and see.... what is the baby's father gonna think of this? how old is he?? what will his parents think?!?!


edited to add*
okay, you don't HAVE to get an abortion, don't listen to people when they tell you that. it is your choice, your parents CAN legally put the baby up for adoption if a girl is under 16 (thats how it is in most states)....
i know a girl, when i was in 7 grade, she was in 6 grade, she had a son and i know it was really hard for her, she got made fun of alot... she did it though. she is still in school and going to college and everything. it can be done!! you just need to grow up, FAST. People are going to look down on you, that is just what comes with it. You wanted this, you decided this for yourself, now you have to take responsibility and do what needs to be done for you!

Answer 6

No condoms, no pills, no sex. You shouldn't be having sex at this age you, which means you shouldn't be pregnant. You had your whole life in front of you plenty of time to have sex when you got your education and a career. Now you have someone else to take care of. I don't think you should have an abortion. You will regret it in the end, and there are physical and mental complications. God's strength and peace be with you. I do hope you have all the support you need. Secure your health and never let the same mistake happen twice.

Answer 7

Oh honey, you are so young. You have a whole life ahead of you. I hope you will continue to go to school and I hope your family is very supportive. Your parents insurance should cover you and your pregnancy. You will need to go to school and study very hard because your child will be counting on you to raise him or her and to be setting a good example. Your church will help you too I am sure. You may want to take some parenting classes. A baby takes up a lot of time, hopefully your parents and family will help out so you can do your homework and go to school. You CAN do this with support, it will not be easy but you can do it. Good Luck. You can start by shopping at clearance racks and yard sales and maybe baby setting for neighbors.

Answer 8

What sort of help do you need? You need to go to your doctor who should be able to discuss what options you have and refer you to support groups. There are usually young mothers programs available should you decide to have the baby and there should be plenty of counselling services should you choose to terminate or place the baby out for adoption. What ever you decide make sure it's right for you and don't allow yourself to be bullied into making a decision because it's what everyone else thinks is best. Raising a child is difficult even for an adult with a supportive partner so think carefully. Maybe go and talk to some other young mothers before you make your decision. Good luck.

Answer 9

Firslty, If you are as you say preg or maybe you just want to be preg. I dont know but at this point you are saying you are preg. All the comments about uyou being a $lut or from the hood, thats irrelevant due to there are many people that get preg as a teen from lack of info or just planly wanting to experiment and this could be the first time for them. $luts are not the only people who get preg.. Nor are peole from the hood, there are more girls (teenagers) in high surburban areas that are having more intercourse than most they just dont get caught or they have the means (money) to hide it.. The only responses I think you should actually listen to are the ones telling you to talk to your parents and the father and his parents considering their advise is really the only ones that matter in this situation. I would like to add I know seeing babies and smelling them and playing with them and dressing them seems like its all fun and play But believe me raising kids is hard and something you need to really consider before you make that final decision about giving your body to motherhood at this early age. Pregnancy is hard on a fully grown body and your body is not mature yet and will hard on you.

My advise is not on how to raise the baby cause your parents seem like very involved parents that you were able to go to them and they are participating in this as they have. But my advise is if you are not pregnant to get your education and let a baby and pregnancy wait.. sex will always be there its not going anywhere but the chance to get your education and live your life and enjoy your teenage years are only here for a short time. enjoy it while you have it...

Good luck...

Answer 10

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Megan S
0 Ok i am 13 and i keep having dreams about getting pregnant and i really what to get pregnant. Is it normal?
i really want to get pregnant so much and i dont really know why but i want to know what it is like to be pregnant and i want to have a baby because i am positive i am mature enogh to raise a kid

^ That's what you wrote in your last question....i'm not trying to judge you or put you down but you said you are mature enough to raise a kid but in this post/question you said you don't know how you will raise IT. Sweetie, a baby isn't a doll. If you want to play house get youself some real like dolls because a baby is a commitment...This baby will need you for the next 18 years + some (if you decide to keep the baby) You need to sit down and talk to your bf and his parents and figure this mess out....GOOD LUCK!

Answer 11

If you are telling the truth, you need to be talking to your parents, not a bunch of people on a informal forum. Girl, whoever is your parent or guardian is the one you should be asking these questions to. You definitely need to think about what this will do to your future. At 13, you cannot be an effective parent to anyone, you are a baby yourself. Get a grip and do the right thing!