we've been together seven years in total. He is a good father but not a great husband. he patronises me, he doesn't show any interest in what I do and he rarely ( almost never ) does things that he knows would make me happy. and i am not talking about big things here. Simple stuff, like taking a vacation together ( we've never been on holiday). I feel I am not appreciated and counted upon and I don't deserve that. I really want to be in a relationship that would have more ups than downs ( not that i am in search for a romantic relationship- far from that).
2007-10-01 10:37:00 · 5 answers · asked by eleyteria k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before you take such a big leap, and for the sake of your child, please try counselling. TALK to your husband so that he knows it is a big issue for you - maybe he will get a big wake up shock. Good luck..
2007-10-03 11:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is a fine time for you to decide that you are though after you have chosen to have a child with this man now theres a problem you should have known all about him before you married him. Are you in love with your husband still because if you are you can make it work sit down and let him know how you feel communication is everything in a relationship. This choice is yours not mines
best of luck
2007-10-01 18:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys gone to marriage counseling??
I would try that first because it really does help get issues out and in the open and most counselers give great activities for each situation for you guys to try out.. If it doesnt seem to work.. talk about divorce in counseling and go ahead and get the process started..
if you feel like you or your child will be harmed during all of this go get that restraining order and do go somewhere where you know you will be safe.. and never meet up with him by yourself or in a non public place.
2007-10-01 17:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest asking him to go to marriage counseling with you and even attend counseling on your own separately in addition to that. If he refuses to attend counseling, attend by yourself and work through your next step with a therapist. If you do decide to leave him, first make sure you can financially support yourself and your child first, if you don't have a job, get one, etc. Start looking for somewhere to live, get those kinds of things figured out, then see a lawyer. Good luck to you!
2007-10-01 19:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for better for worse,for richer for poorer...!!!did you listen to the vows?it didn't say until I'm bored
2007-10-01 17:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by cpttuttle2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋