How do we know when something is not suitable for us when we pursue it with our Heart and not our mind ?

Question

Has your mind ever said no but your heart has said yes and which won the battle in the end your heart or your mind???

Answer 1

I used to think I must always listen to my mind (my logic) and not listen to my heart (my emotion). When I look back at the results, I always regretted just listening to my mind. Because it was always an expected answer but a heartless one. I try to listen to my heart more often these days. Sometimes it is 'heart-breaking' but nonetheless full of emotion. I rather be rich with emotion rather than rich with cold hard facts. We are humans with great emotion, why not use more of it.
I think the answer is never one or the other, it is always balance.

Thanks for an interesting Q

Answer 2

You will never know if something isn't suitable for you if you never "go" for it in the first place... its better to "go for it" and try.

All life is an experience, there isn't anything "right" or "wrong" if you can learn something from the experience. Life is not a destination its the journey.....

Nothing should be a battle between head and heart! Go for it, follow your heart, but do so using your head! Do it with wisdom, for thought and mindfulness.

Answer 3

sometimes for example such as when it comes to relationship you think that the person is right for you even though you are blinded. i have been there and done that and thought that a person could changed in 12 months or 24 months only to realize that we are not right for each other after all that time and that i deserve someone better. i guess that you are used to the idea every day and that you try not to see what is there by hiding those ideas with perfections vs. reality and imperfections. in the end my mind has won the battle. because the heart is about feeling and the mind about being rational and making rational decisions. i guess that with age you mature.

Answer 4

When you write Heart I take it that you mean the Heart that is all, The Heart we never left, the home of God.
If one has come to know this, then for me the Heart is all, it is my guide, my God, my way through.

By mind, I wonder if you mean the chattering one in the head, this I will never follow, it is only a membrane reiterating old tapes, regurgitating stuff, again and again, always trying. No that is not for me.

I follow my Heart,

which is not the emotional heart that some answerers talk of.

Rena, this is a huge subject, which has many many levels, and you will I trust get many levels of answer.

Answer 5

I think women in particular have a keen sense of intuition, at least I do, and I know if I am going into a relationship that isn't right for me. My heart always leads me astray, but since I have been around for a few years, I think I finally "get it". There were years where I was almost desperate trying to find someone to take care of me and love me forever. When you want something like this so much that your heart aches, it usually doesn't work out. I was forcing my soul to accept anyone that I thought was perfect, as long as they fit the requirements in my mind. It turned out wrong. I should have accepted someone that loved me for me, unconditionally, and did not have all the pedigree that came with them. I was looking for love, money, stability, social standing and good looks. Again, wrong, loving for the wrong reasons. I have finally let my heart chose someone that has more love for me than Grand Canyon and my soul is at peace, finally.

Answer 6

I think our 'hearts' comprise a system of reward whenever we do something good or punishement whenever we do something bad. We cannot rely on it for guidance, although it is possible to do so and benefit from it from time to time.

When your rule your heart with your head, the reward may take longer to come, but it should be longer lasting, even during times when the fruit of your decisions are not so apparent.

I have often done let both mind and heart make the decision and both have at times won over, but mainly I've regretted it when the heart came out on top and rarely have I regretted it when my mind came out on top

Answer 7

Hi Rena,I personally follow my heart in these matters.I think if there is any possible confusion there,then your better of leaving it alone.We must be strong and decide the best options that suit our self in these love issues.The most important thing is to have a clear mind.Love is a gamble, trail and error battle of wits.At the end of the day you either go for it, or avoid like the plague.Unfortunately we have to make the choices Good luck in your love wars.Think it through carefully..

Answer 8

How do we know by using our minds that something is suitable for us?

What you call your heart is a part of your understanding of something or someone. It's the passion, the feeling, the gut instinct that sometimes goes beyond the reasoning centres of our brains and can often envision the truth that our 'higher' selves can't see.

To live without passion is to live a life so small. Find your raison d'etre and temper your passion with reason. But don't live the life of quiet desperation because your 'better self' preferred not to risk, not to bruise, not to fail. Through our risks we gain wisdom, through our bruising we gain strength, and through our failures we learn how to be victorious.

Peace

Answer 9

I'm going through this now. My mind tells me no most of the time, but when I talk with this person she wins me over again. So, it's like a yo yo with most of the time spinning in the down position. As to how we know if something is not suitable for us, I don't know, maybe we gain clarity somewhere along the way.

(So far, my heart has been winning. lol)

Answer 10

The heart never makes mistakes. The mind does.