I am a 23 year old guy, and I still live with my parents. I've tried going to college so many times in the past but I just can't seem to concentrate on the work. I think I have ADHD or something. I feel so hopeless now. My parents are sick and tired of having to provide for me. The only jobs that I can get are minimum wage jobs. The cost of living is relatively high where I live so there's no way I'd ever be able to afford my own place. I just feel like giving up. I would never actually attempt suicide, but I have been finding myself thinking more and more about how I might "accidentally be killed". Why should some drunk driver hit and kill some innocent person filled with life, when they can hit me instead. I just don't know what to do anymore. My parents hate me and I know I just can't live with them for much longer. I'm ready to die. My time is running short. Hopeless, and seeking an answer.
2007-10-01 09:49:22 · 15 answers · asked by The cool dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-10-01 13:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking like this! You do NOT want to die. I know you have probably heard this many times before, but life is a gift. You should treasure it. It's not something to be wasted, and it can only be controlled by the person living it, YOU!!! So, start having a more positive attitude! I am sure you are a great guy. You seem smart and sweet, and you should get to know people! There are few things greater than the instant confidence boost you can get from great friends. Go to the doctor's and get tested for ADHD. There might be some medication to improve your symptoms. Then, go back to college. Try again, and don't give up. Find a friend in a lot of your classes (or one in each) who won't let you give up. Just have confidence in yourself. If you want it badly enough, you will finish. Just don't give up! It will be worth it IMMENSELY in the end. In college make some friends. Join clubs, groups, study with friends, go to concerts with your roommate, but please, don't do anything you will regret. Focus on your studies, and have some down-to-earth friends. You can do it. Think of all the great things that lay ahead. You will find friends, and someone you love a lot, and even if the first few relationships don't work out, one is bound to. The key is to have a positive attitude, and just keep trying. You will also graduate college with the knowledge and degree(s) to have a great job you love. Life is a wonderful thing, so make the most of it. I just prayed that you will find your way. You can do it! GOOD LUCK!!! :-)
2007-10-01 17:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by sunshiney 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that I do not have a clear cut solution or answer for you. But please believe me when I say that I have been in a similar situation and desired to take my life. I will tell you what I did which is one suggestion and I will give you other options.
I actually went to the ER and check my self in because of suicidal thoughts and I went though a week long program that helped me get back on my feet. I did have to take meds for a short time too, but it was only temporary.
You can also surf the net for sites that offer help. I do not know if you are of any particular religious persuasion, but I would seek help with a religious professional too. Do what ever it takes to preserve yourself. If college hasn't worked try a trade school or adult ed. which will help you get a better job and help with job placement too. Don't feel bad, College isn't for everyone. I sincerely hope this helps guide you in a positive direction.
2007-10-01 18:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Yehudah S 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Having carefully planned my own demise this Saturday for the past 3 months, I must say I find it amusing still to read responses to questions such as this. In every list of answers to questions regarding suicide there are always 3 generic responses:
1) Its a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Ok, well what if the problem is permanent? Permanent solution to a permanent problem. Makes sense to me.
2) Then there are those who ask you to look to God for support. If there was a God, you wouldn't be in the damn situation you're in anyway.
3) And finally there are those who suggest seeing your doctor. The medical profession is a front for pharmaceutical companies and they will try to shove every overpriced pill they can down your throat. I've been on that rollercoaster for over 10 years and I've had enough.
If you wish to end your life, that is your choice and your choice alone to make. But do some prep work beforehand. Have some courtesy for those who have to clean up the aftermath.
For example, I have cleared all my debts, packed all my belongings in the garage, put my house into a sellable state. I phoned my work and told them I would not be returning, no need to tell them why, just tell them you're gone.
The power over ones life is the greatest power one can wield. If you choose to end your life, that is your choice. Don't let anyone tell you its the easy way out. The easy way is to keep living in unbearable circumstances in order to prevent others pain. Suicide is the hard way out and the power to finish the final act will take the greatest amount of courage one can muster. I myself have always dreamed of just no longer waking up.
2007-10-03 19:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dale M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the parent of a drug addict, same age as you and he has put me through hell, but from the bottom of my heart I love him. He is in rehab 1 year now and ready to make a move in a few months back home. He is still not thinking right and I pray about how it will go. Your parents don't hate you, they are just exasperated that you continue to fail and they don't know how to help you any longer because at the end of the day its up to you. What's the problem? Is it you just prefer to hang and play video games? Can't get up in the morning? Refuse to help around the house? Whatever it is you have the power in yourself to do whatever you are not but should and not do whatever you are. You should have a local suicide hotline. Call them and get yourself some help, then move your feet. Move them to work, to the trash can, to trade school, where ever. Think about what good you have, be grateful and celebrate teh goodness around you. You may not be a doctor or lawyer, but God put you here to do something special. Don't blow it, and know He and your parents do love you. You are in my prayers.
2007-10-02 05:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by LINDA G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to call your local 911 hotline & talk with someone. Nothing we say will change your mind.
But, you do need to know that these feelings are normal for a young person. You are not hopeless. You have reached out to us. You have TRIED school. You may need to get 2 minimum-paying jobs. This is actually normal for young people. It was for me! If you knew how many jobs I went through before I found my "niche"; you'd be amazed. I not only tried different jobs, I moved over 13 times in 10 years...trying to find where I belonged.
You have potential. You are of value...simply by virtue of being human. You are thoughtful & considerate; you are able to express yourself eloquently; you are aware of your emotions.
These are all admirable traits. Now; try reaching out to another, local person. Do some volunteer work. Smile to people. Befriend a neighbor. Help your parents around the house. Compliment folks. Ask where you can be of service.
And, plug ahead. Life IS tough...but you are a survivor.
2007-10-01 17:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I wish i had an answer that could help but i dont really. If your anything like a 23 yr old that i know your parents more then likely dont hate you, you more then likely misunderstand each other. A minimum wage job is not that bad its just something to get you on your feet. have you tried applying to city job???
and try getting getting into a housing program or getting room mates that might help but hang in there....
2007-10-01 17:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by ME 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right now school mite not be for you with other things going on in your life now,take the time out and pray death should not be the end,what is it you like to do,find a roommate someone you can trust,i leave like that sometime you have to stand up and be a man and say am going to make it if you have too work to jobs,eventually you get where all you need is one stay strong my brother
2007-10-01 17:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by 360 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is not an answer to anything.
Just think about what you're good at and what you enjoy. Can you think of any careers that sound appealing to you?
Just keep thinking about that and keep your eyes on the prize, and you should be able to make it.
As for somewhere to live, maybe you could rent a place and work more than one job until you can make ends meet.
Good luck!
2007-10-01 16:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by carver n 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Brother, I want you to know that I completely sympathize with you in this situation. But please never, ever give up for suicide is truly not the so called "way out". Cast all of your cares upon Him who cares for you, and trust Him to supply all of your needs. The others here have given excellent advice, and thus, there is not much I can add. But I will say this, you are definately within our thoughts and prayers. If you ever want to talk, please feel free to contact me through my Yahoo360 page. My inbox is always open, bro. Keep your chin up and be positive-minded, for you have incredible potential by His amazing grace. His precious Holy Spirit is ALWAYS with you, and as you look above the negatives and remain focused on Him, He shall see you through this into the Light on the other side of this circumstance. I have gone through many things myself over the years, and also tried to commit suicide a few times, a long time ago. But He stopped me, and many years later,...I see that He was with me all along. If He did this for me,..He will do it for you also. Trust Him and dont be in despair, for He loves you MUCH more than you'll ever fully understand, and likewise,..there are many of us who truly care. Never forget that, okay?
May the peace of Yahweh which surpasses all understanding keep and guard your heart and mind through Messiah Yeshua.
In Him,
Yahonatan
2007-10-02 06:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by jonny_bones_7x3 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to die. You just need some ambition. I am 23, have a full time job, go to college fulltime and have a 5 yr old kid. You have what I like to call a "Lazy streaK" - get up and pound the pavement for a job. Without a degree, you better be looking into manual labor, carpentry painting or landscaping. Good luck.
2007-10-01 16:59:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋