Why do weak winded people always hide behind the "verbal abuse" excuse?

Question

I am so sick of seeing people here claiming that they are being "abused" because someone says something mean to them! Unless it is a threat of some kind, there is NO SUCH THING AS VERBAL ABUSE! Why don't you weak minded fools learn to stand up for yourselves and say something back instead of crying verbal abuse?

I'm not talking about children you dope! That would be called CHILD abuse! I'm talking about grown adults who say that are being "abused" just because someone jokes about them, says something mean, or just doesn't agree with them!

Jennifer R - Isn't teliing me to go f u c k myself abuse? So I just you consider YOURSELF an abuser right?

Thanks for proving my point exactly!

Just Wondering - I'm "just wondering" how I am "bullying" anyone by asking a question and having an opinion? It appears that YOU are the one who likes to "bully" anyone who doesn't agree with you!

Answer 1

words obviously spoken by someone who has never been part of it.

verbal abuse is about more than just someone saying something mean to you - it's a form of brainwashing someone into believing what you tell them. it's about control. it's about manipulation. it's about making someone truly believe that they are not worthy of good treatment.

i have taken in dozens of foster kids who were the very product of such abuse (many of them never having been hit or sexually assaulted, just verbally abused), some of them to the point of being non-functional and suicidal. these kids grow up to be adults who go thru the same thing. they don't know how to change their pattern of thinking unless the've been taught by someone kind. maybe if you had been around some of these poor children, you'd change your tune. that, however, is irrelevant - just because YOU don't believe it exists, does not negate that it does. (people can fake back pain, too, but it doesn't mean it's not real.) until you've walked a mile in someone else's shoes, it's best not to judge them. all it does is make you look boorish and uneducated.

Answer 2

Even though this really seems to be a personal arrgument of some sort, I have to give you some hard learned experience on this.

Being told to F off or piss off or being insulted is simply a show of extremely bad manners. Being verbally abused is a whole different thing. And yes the accusations about it are ridiculously overused for things that are not even close. But it most assuredly does exist!!!

It starts out insidiously, dinner isn't cooked right the house is a mess, then gets a little a little deeper, dinner isn't right, geez you are a bad cook, the house is a mess can't you keep clean? then dinner isn't right, you are too stupid to be able cook anything, the house is a mess because you are so lazy and worthless.

After a while the excuses don't need to be there, you are just a worthless, lazy, stupid, fat idiot who can't do anything right who shouldn't be on the face of the earth.

And believe after hearing this long enough you believe it! You believe to the point that you really do think it is true and you cease having any confidence, initiative or ambition. At that point is is safe to start hitting you because you actually believe you deserve it.

Oh and by the way, I lived this way for 14 years, and buddy you remind me a lot of my ex-husband!

Answer 3

Wow! Sounds like you got off the wrong side off the bed this afternoon. Maybe you need some medication... they have stuff for people like you. Oh, wait, there's no medication for STUPIDITY! Ever think of a 4 year old child be emotionally abused, and then saying that child has no backbone? A woman emotionally abused by her husband as she tries to hold her family together? An elder person in the nursing home being emotionally abused while they wait to die alone? You think these people have no backbone? Yeah, I read your post. You have no backbone. LOL... emotionally scared? You should be....

Answer 4

Actually your post is verbal abuse. Ranting for no reason, name calling, putting people down, and screaming in all caps. Bullying comes in many forms, and you are a bully. I hate bullies. You know why bullies bully people? Because they know deep down that they are nothing and they have to taunt others to make themselves feel good. How pathetic. If you were here I'd show you what's what.

Answer 5

You know what it is people like you that enable abusers!

YES it was abuse that my ex told me numerous times EVERYDAY that I was fat, stupid, ugly, a horrible mother and wife, my cooking was the worst he ever had, etc.
By the way the courts found me a very good mother after he had me investigated, I was over weight because I was depressed (I lost over 30lbs after we separated), I am not stupid (I have a 3.8 average in college), I am not ugly (I am concidered very cute), and everyone else has always loved my cooking.

Answer 6

You again...trying to start crap.....there is such a thing as verbal abuse.....how do you expect a child to stand up to a parent that is verbally abusing them????

Answer 7

I have to agree that people "Verbal Abuse" has become quite the buzz word recently, uttered mostly by insecure women who are getting the bad end of a divorce or trying to justify their poor behavior. I noticed that all of the posts saying you are a bad person for saying this are from women. Hmm.....

Answer 8

I agree with "Don't Worry About It" posted above.

Answer 9

yes they can't take it. it's probebly not thier fault..some people r just crazy or sensitive..