Recently, my fiances friend moved in with us. I was completely against the idea, except we can use the extra money. It is not like we need it to get by, but it is helping because we are saving it up.
THe roommate is driving me NUTS. Everything he does annoys me. It has been 4 months, and I really put in an effort to get along, but I just cant.
I dont think its natural for a couple (who are getting married next year) to be living with a bachelor. I hate it, and there's nothing I can do. Asking him to move out would cause a riff between him and us, and what else can I do but suck it up and deal with it? We are moving to a new place this spring so I just have to hang in there til then...
It is causing problems between my fiancee and I. I am trying so hard to live with his guy but he is just extremely annoying. I don't want to go into too much detail, but there is just a huge long list of things he does that drive me batty.
How can I deal with this better?
2007-10-01 06:54:59 · 7 answers · asked by LifeLove 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ETA he has no social life, has no desire to have one. He has not left the house once since he moved in except to get groceries or go to work.
2007-10-01 07:02:11 · update #1
the roommate HAS gotten better after my fiance talked to him, but he just has annoying habits you can never get anyone to change. At least now he walks around the house with pants on.... *barf*
2007-10-01 07:03:25 · update #2
You have a right to an opinion, and seeing as how you are his fiancee, he should of taken your opinion into account when allowing the friend to move in. It should of been a mutual decision. If you are not happy with the friend, you need to voice it, and say something. Your fiancee should respect your point and try to figure out how to deal with it, without anyone getting hurt feelings.
2007-10-01 07:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your fiance about it and ask him to talk to his friend. If he cared about you, he would try to accommodate both of you. This is also a good time to see what the relationship will be after marriage. Maybe you guys should get a roommate contract to set some things straight. Other than that, just wait until you move.
2007-10-01 14:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not stand for it...it is your fiances friend and not yours. you need to have your privacy at this time. Tell your fiance that you are a woman and really feel uncomfortable living with another man in the house, you want your privacy and to be able to spend more time alone with your fiance.
You shouldn't have to explain your self too much, if he isn't selfesh he will understand what you are going through
2007-10-01 14:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by RatHouseCafe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant ask him to move and you cant talk to your fiance then just be greatful that there is an end in sight and stick it out! just ignor him as much as possible, maybe try to hook him up with a girlfriend so he can be out of the house more, spending time with her you know?
2007-10-01 14:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I have the sneaky feeling that fiance feels that his friendship for Home-boy is more important than his relationship with you.
With that in mind, I would look for a new place by myself - plus call off the wedding - and find a new boyfriend.
2007-10-01 14:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TEll ur fiance how you feel.
Have him ask his friend too leave.
Tell ur lover u love him but 4 now u are going to a friends house or his friend is to go.
Tell him u 'd rather have his friend go.
If that don't work let me talk with them both.
2007-10-01 14:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by A K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a dog and teach him to bite your roomate in the nuggets
2007-10-01 13:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋