i just found out a couple of days ago that i was 4 months pregnant and im scared to tell my parents because they are going to make me get an abortion and i know it but i dont want that to happen because i don't believe in abortions i believe that once you concieve it it is considered a living thing and if you get an abortion its basically murder so what do i do.
2007-10-01 06:22:24 · 56 answers · asked by Mommy 2 B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No-body can make you have an abortion...besides...its too late to have one...just go to them and tell them...tehy are going to find out sooner or later.
2007-10-01 06:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
4 months? That would make you AT LEAST 12 weeks along. You can't have an abortion at this stage I dont think. After a certain point it's considered illegal or a partial birth abortion and in those cases I believe they are extremely rare if done anymore at all. If I were you I'd tell your parents you're pregnant and then tell them what you're telling us. You need prenatal care and don't wait!! I'm 15 weeks along and a lot of problems can crop up - I'm dealing with an extremely high risk pregnancy myself. Don't wait!
I dont think your parents can MAKE you do anything you dont want to - and if they do, then something is terribly wrong with this picture. However don't be surprised if they try to talk you into giving the baby up for adoption. Good Luck.
2007-10-01 06:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I know what its like to have strict parents. One good thing for you, is that there is no way your parents can make you have an abortion no matter how old you are. In most states you can only have an abortion through the 17th week, which means if you wait another week to tell them you will be in the clear. I would also put a plan together so that when you tell them and they start coming at you with questions regarding your course of action you have a clear and thought out plan. Planned parenthood has great staff that can help you through this time, and can provide you with great resources for planning for the future.
2007-10-01 06:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Nadia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? They cannot make you get an abortion. I am so thankful that you will not be getting an abortion. If you are really long, many adoption would be an option for you- I am adopted and have 2 adopted kids. You can get help from pregnancy help clinic/centers in your area. I used to counsel women/girl's like you and it is very hard to tell parents however, they most of the time come around. Hang in there, and know that there are people out there praying for you = and by the way, congratulations!
2007-10-01 07:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody not even your parents can make you get an abortion, the worst possible thing they could do is kick you out of the house but i'm sure they have places for unwed mothers to go. Besides it is already too late for an abortion so i suggest you tell them as soon as possible befor they find out through either your poochin belly or another source, i'm sure they would be even more upset if they had to find out those ways.
Sit them down and just say i am pregnant, let them no that more now than ever you need them to be there for you because you are scared and can't do this alone. I'm sure they will be very mad, upset but they will get over it.
Hope i helped!
2007-10-01 06:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, remind them that children are a gift, not a burden. There’s so many misconceptions about giving birth at a young age. Having a child will NOT “destroy” your future. You can still go to school and even attend college. The only difference is that you have to try harder! And after all, nothing in life that is worth living for is easy, right?
Examine yourself and write down your game plan. Do you work? If so how much money can you put away before the baby is born? Showing your parent(s) a game plan will show that you are responsible – and that’s what they really want to see. Even take trips to the store and record costs of baby needs like diapers, formula, etc. See if there’s classes in your area on parenting.
Try and pick a time that they are most relaxed and the easiest to talk to. Begin your conversation by reminding them of your accomplishments and your goals. Always start off on a positive note. Good luck hun, Hope this helps.
2007-10-01 06:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jes 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you get an abortion... even if you are young your parents do not have that right with your body.
Since you are convinced that they are going to try to make you have an abortion it means they're not going to be happy about this pregnancy so before you tell them, make some plans about what you are going to do. Are you prepared if they kick you out of the house? Are there any young mothers homes that you can go to? It's time to find a job, if you don't have one already, and save all the money you make. Babies are expensive. Get informed. There are many groups that cater to teen parents. Find out your choices, your responsibilities and the best way to have a safe and healthy pregnancy. They also often offer maternity clothes, baby clothes and baby gear to get started. Find out what resources are available in your area to help you out.
Now, tell your parents. When they get angry, start yelling and threaten to kick you out tell them about everything that you have researched. You doing the work to find out all this information is going to help them realise that you are not a baby anymore and that you have accepted your situation and are going to grow up and accept the consequences.
Good Luck!
2007-10-01 06:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by ChefMel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you are not yet 18, no one can "make" you have an abortion. Talk to a school councilor, minister, or an adult you feel can work as a medium between you and your parents. Also, get prenatal care as soon as possible. If you just found out at 4 months, you need to see a doctor asap. And you don't have to decide to keep the baby, you can always put him/her up for adoption. There are thousands of people just waiting to adopt a newborn that could give your child an amazingly wonderful loving home!
2007-10-01 06:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by leletanner 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No parents in their right mind would tell you to get an abortion at 4 months pregnant.. It is too late now.. I'm glad you didn't in the first... You are very respectful in my book... I think that you just need to sit them down and tell them that you are pregnant and they will be mad, hurt and sad at the same time. At least they will know what is going on with you and you can have some support and not be so stressed out about it... Think about adoption if that is something that you would consider and tell your parents that too... If you want to talk you can email me.... go to my profile.. Thanks. Best of luck to you...
2007-10-01 10:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are , or where you live, but as far as I know, NO PARENT can MAKE you get an abortion. It is your body, and it is your right to do what you please w/ it.
Your parents can, however, be very upset with you and not talk to you and try to kick you out. they cannot do that either, as you are a minor and you are not emancipated (r u?), they are legally responsible for you until you are 18. (or 17, not sure)
Please go to your school counselor or Planned Parenthood or some other charitable organization, and discuss what can be done. BY LAW no one can tell your parents you are pg.
Please do the best you can to ensure your child has a good and healthy future, and that starts by finishing school, no matter how hard it is.
Good luck to you and your baby.
2007-10-01 06:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Fallen_Anjel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact your nearest crisis pregnancy center. They have counselors who can help you talk to your parents. They are also pro-life and can discuss all of your options so you can make the best decision for you. If you want to keep your baby -- they have resources that can help you. There are lots of them all over the country. I included a site that should be able to help - no matter where you live.
Don't assume your parents are going to push for abortion either until you talk to them, they might surprise you! Good Luck!
Do tell someone soon because you need to have medical care from here on out - for your health and your baby's. I wish you the very best!
2007-10-01 06:28:47 · answer #11 · answered by Lamont 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋