Okay so when I touch myself, I feel nothing.
It doesn't tingle or feel pleasurable or ANYTHING. Just like it's any other part of my body like my arm or something.
Why is that? Because people say everyone does it and trust me I probably would IF IT WORKED!
And I've tried everything. I've read what other girls do but still I feel nothing.
And plus I don't ever have the urge to touch myself down there.
Also if I touch the most sensitive part down there (I don't know if I'm allowed to say it), it hurts. It doesn't feel nice it actually HURTS.
Am I normal and why doesn't anything work?
2007-10-01 05:58:13 · 17 answers · asked by lemonsaresourlikehell 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
laffytaffy I'm nearly 17
2007-10-01 06:08:45 · update #1
You should go to the doctors , if it hurts then there must be something wrong. And not every girl is the same, some like it and some don't. There is nothing wrong with you
2007-10-01 06:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Olive_kittykat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's the same to me. I'm 15. And I always wonder why. If I smile, I'm not happy, if I cry I'm just tired and want to go to bed... I'm always angry, even without reason, anger is the only emotion I can feel. People around me are annoyed about my behaviour and they often avoid me or get angry to me, but I don't care. I really don't know why we don't feel anything... I went to a psychologist (forced by my mom) a month ago and I don't remember anything of what he said, I just remember that he made me very pissed off with his speeches. So I can't give any advice to you, I'm sorry (well, not really).
2016-04-06 22:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried about the pain then see a doctor but I think you are perfectly normal. At your age I too felt the same way & thought something was wrong with me. It wasn't until my late 20's when I met my husband that I started enjoying sex. Relax! Don't put so much pressure on yourself & everything will come (pardon the puns!) together on it's own. In the mean time educate yourself & get to know your own body. Some books that I found really helpful: The Hite Report, by Shere Hite - The Happy Hooker, by Xaviera Hollander - The Kinsey Report, by Alfred Kinsey - Any book by Masters & Johnson (William H. Masters & Virginia E. Johnson) All are available from Amazon. Hope this helps.
2007-10-01 08:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by cycl_oops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just be very sensitive, and that's why it hurts. Or it could feel uncomfortable because there is no lubrication. You could try using some KY Jelly or other personal lubricant. You can try imagining pleasurable things/fantasies while you do it, or watch a sexy video to get you going. Sometimes, too, if you are stressed out or anxious you can have problems achieving climax or pleasure. If this is the case, then make sure you are relaxed when you try it. Clear your mind of anything that is bothering you, and take deep breaths. If these things still don't work, or if you are experienceing vaginal dryness, discharge, or a rash of some kind, see your doctor. You may also want to consider counseling if you are having issues handling stress/depression/anxiety. If you are having none of these things and still want to be able to pleasure yourself, you can see a sex therapist. If you don't care about not being able to pleasure yourself, then don't worry about it.
2007-10-01 06:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by bflokitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've found that trying to force yourself to get "turned on" doesn't usually work. You have to naturally be turned on by someone or something and then your imagination gets carried away and you can develop that feeling your looking for. Also, just a suggestion, but try touching yourself in other ways/places if you're not sure what exactly to do. Also, if you are a young teen, I've heard that many young woman don't become as sexually excited as male teens until past the age of 18
2007-10-01 06:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bryant H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine hurts when i touch it as well... its really sensitive, and so touching it isn't really that pleasurable unless its done in exactly the right way- so you're not alone there. Go to the doctor if you're worried about this. Are you depressed or stressed? These things can contribute to a lack of sexual interest. However i think most likely its just that you are so young. Once you mature a little and find a guy you're interested in... you may find it all just sorts itself out.
2007-10-01 07:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by MiniMed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all NOT EVERYONE DOES IT, they probably say they do but dont really. If you are going to experiment with touching yourself, you have to feel really comfortable and relaxed with your own body. Yes you ARE normal, and maybe your body isnt quite ready for this sort of experience. All bodies are different and grow at various stages. Maybe your friends who say they do it are giving you a load of crap, they may have read about it somewhere or seen it on a programme and brag about how great it is, even though they havent tried it themselves. Your body will get there eventually, you DO need the hormones to be fully formed to feel anything sexually within your body. If you havent quite reached puberty you wont feel anything. Also, as a 43 year old woman i can tell you that there are times when my body doesnt appear to feel anything, so dont expect to feel something ALL the time. Maybe you arent ready for experimenting with your body just yet. It will all happen naturally at the right time for your body. Be patient, relax and it will all kick in at the right times. Dont be in a hurry to experiment with any sexual feelings, it will happen.
2007-10-01 09:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I know what you mean about it doing nothing for you, Ive been the same all my life. Luckily my hubby knows which buttons to press lol! However the fact it hurts isnt good. Either youre pressing too hard, or wearing too tight trousers, or theres actually something not quite right. You may want to consult a GP. BUt as for not actually getting something out of touching yourself, I hear ya sister lol xx
2007-10-01 06:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are younger than 21 or 22 you are completely normal, the female body doesn't mature to the enjoyment of sexual stimulation until then. Just because you may have your period, doesn't mean that your body is finished maturing, it just means you can be impregnated, you still have some physical and emotional maturation to complete before you can enjoy sexual stimulation, so don't be in any hurry.
2007-10-01 06:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same.
I sometimes wonder if there is a part of me missing, as I don't find myself ever 'turned on', so to speak. Believe me I have tried, but I just can't feel anything.
So I don't actually have an answer for you, but I just wanted you to know you aren't alone.
2007-10-01 06:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by itskungfu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋