Ok so I'm going to college next year. I'm really considering UT or other good universities in Tennessee. The problem is, I live way far from there...In Miami. I have to start looking at colleges now since I'm a junior already and the whole college thing starts at around this time. The problem is, is that I don't know what to tell my parents. They want me to go to college in Miami, and they will be devestated and think I just want to get away from them if I try to go to a school far from here. I don't have anything against my parents and I do NOT want to get away from them, but I hate Miami, and I'm originally from Chicago and I am just not used to it down here...it's so different! Anyways, I love tennesse, the mountains there, just the whole package is really nice. But my parents won't see a reason why I should pick a school in Tennesse far away from home, over one right there or in west palm beach or something. I don't know what to do and I do NOT know how to tell my parents.
2007-10-01 05:17:46 · 17 answers · asked by GJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok i'm a parent and would also love for my child to go to an instate school because of the tuition is so much less. My son who is only 13 (we live in ohio) would also like to go to school somewhere in Tennessee because of his love for the area. He wishs to study Artitecture enginneering in the future. So we have told him he needs to check out the school there that have that program. Research the school that will be best in the field you choose to study. Ask your parents questions to on why they want you to stay close to home. If it is because they want you near them. That's not good enough but if it is because of financing start saving for some of your school cost.
2007-10-01 05:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by halfptnohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go to University of Utah and it's a really nice school. I'm sure your parents will get over it, but it is your future. You can always try out a semester at another university and if you don't like it you can go back to Miami. It will be good for you and your parents to get away for a while.
Whichever you decide just sit them down and tell them your plans. It doesn't have to be long and sentimental, but sweet and to the point. If your mom freaks out, she'll get over it. However, if you're depending on them to fund college, you might have to listen to their advice, however unfair it may seem. If you have stern logic behind your decisions, explain and it will be acknowledged. Your parents care just as much about your future, possibly even more so, than you do.
2007-10-01 12:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lollipop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with your parents, strong and steady and firm, but also gentle and kind. Tell them you feel its time to grow up a bit and being in Tennessee is not that far away anyway. You'll have lots of time off for holidays and such to visit. You'll have a phone and you'll be in touch. If it is too much money, promise you'll get a part-time job to help pay. or check out scholarships and grants. Make sure the study courses offered are what you are interested in pursuing in college, come up with reasons why it is better academically as well as giving you a chance to be out on your own. Tell them you desire their blessings and trust, that you need to hear them say, son, we have faith in you.
UT Knoxville is a beautiful school, and it is reputable. But I have to tell you it is VERY different from Chicago anything! I've been there and live not too far from there. If you go to school there, you might turn orange. They have a very, very dedicated sports crowd, in my opinion sometimes very obnoxious... get ready! and Good luck! :)
2007-10-01 12:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Holly Carmichael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them exactly what you told us. How you miss being where you are from. That you really aren't happy in Miami. And the reasons why you would be happier in Tennessee. Parents love their children and want them to be happy. I'm sure that they don't want to make you miserable to make them happy. You have to come up with a plan of when they will be able to see you. That way they won't feel like they'll never get to see you.
2007-10-01 12:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a lot of lead time to get them used to the idea, so start doing it in little ways. Confrontation never works with parents.
Talk about how much you love to travel. Try to get them to take you to visit different colleges all over the country, going to local ones on weekends, then venturing further out by car, etc. With two years to make all three of you experts in colleges all over the place, you may decide on a school anywhere from Texas to Topeka to Toronto, and they'll be all for it as somewhere they can visit, too.
Within a few months, they will be as excited as you are about your newly-found ability and desire to go and test your mettle in the big wide world.
Good luck!
2007-10-01 12:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honesty in what you wrote in your question would work. It sounds like they wouldn't be that shocked since you moved awhile ago. The good news is that they have awhile to get used to the idea. Ask if you can apply to one or two out of state... and then possibly as a backup something closer to Miami. Good luck... and give your parents some credit... you sound very thoughtful so I know they raised you to make your own decisions... they will respect yours too.
2007-10-01 12:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by crissygirly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all boils down to money!
They either can afford to send you to UT or Tenn. or they don't see any advantages by sending you there. If you get a scholarship they will have no reason to deny you a free education! Start applying. If you can't get a scholarship and won't get accepted in anything more than a community college, then I don't see any possible way you can go out of state let alone out of the city you live in.
2007-10-01 12:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have one thing going for you right now...you are very articulate. My advise....do your research. Whatever your major will be you need to have all the info on that colleges program. Make your points clearly and concisely. No whining....don't be agressive...don't get defensive. They still have some time to get used to the idea of you being farther away. As a last resort threaten them with the military...ha ha just kidding. Good Luck.
2007-10-01 12:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to pay for it all yourself?
Can they afford to come see you and can you afford travel expenses?
If not, you may have to compromise. Maybe do your first year or two near home and then transfer.
My son chose a college far from home and didn't count on the loneliness of weekends stuck on campus with few people around and missing his family. he has managed and will graduate this year, but is telling his sister not to go so far away.
Good Luck.
2007-10-01 12:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a stress case..Dang, I would say take a chill pill but then you might just do that and I am not sure if thats some good advice.. I would read what you just wrote about five hundred times until you realize that it's all in your head because your parents put it there. YOu should do what you want or let everyone else tell you what to do...
2007-10-01 12:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋