My sons pediatrician and I have discussed our decision not to vaccinate and she has agreed to our decision. So everything is clear on her end. The problem is the nurses. Our insurance is with Kaiser Permanente, so I never know what nurse I am going to get as they pretty much are never the same. So each well-baby visit I get the same 20 questions about his vaccine records. So far I have just smiled and nodded my head when they go into what vaccines he needs to get "caught up on". Should I continue to just play along with them just to get them to stop talking about it or should I just tell them the pediatrician and I have discussed it? I really do not know how to deal with them.
2007-10-01 05:08:20 · 18 answers · asked by iamhis0 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I do not want to go into why we made this decision as it has been a long and hard road, and getting into an argumeny with the nurses is the last thing I need.
2007-10-01 05:12:40 · update #1
Lol, my decision I am very confident about, and unashamed. What I do not like is the nurses taking up my time by arguing with me while I stand in the room with a fussy infant.
2007-10-01 05:17:45 · update #2
I know what you mean. I wasn't lucky enough to find a doctor that accepts my decision. He kept trying to tell me about vaccines at every visit, and I just kept saying, "yes I'm still thinking about". Finally he realized I wasn't planning to vaccinate her, so he gave up.
Unfortunately in your case you have to deal with a different person everytime. It's hard having to defend your choices over and over again, to people that will never understand. I used to avoid the conversation all together.
I guess if you're tired of hearing the list of vaccines everytime, just tell them straight out. "The doctor and I have discussed this already, and she knows I will not be vaccinating my child".
They have no right to try and get into any conversation with you, if you've already disscussed it with the doctor. If they try to, just say firmly and politely, "like I said, I already discussed it with the doctor." They may not think very highly of you, but that's not your problem. And if anything, maybe it'll make them wonder why you came to this decision, and do some research on their own. Maybe not, but all we can do is hope, that everyone will realize soon...
2007-10-01 05:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by chloe 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I had to deal with the same thing a few times until I complained to the doctor. The doctor is the employer and the nurses the employees. If they are giving the customer a hard time, the boss usually wants to know about it.
When I complained to the doc, she was very receptive and since then, the nurses leave me alone about it. They do sometimes forget and all I have to say is "we're not vaccinating today" and it ends at that. Anything beyond that is harassment, they have no business questioning your decisions.
What you decide for your children has nothing to do with them, and if they have a problem, complain to the boss. If things don't change, then your ped has a problem with it too and is allowing them to harass you.
Personally, I found much better luck with family practice doctors when it comes to the vaccination issue.
2007-10-01 07:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anne 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I just want to say that you should be proud of decision that you have made no matter which way you go with this. It is extremely common not to vaccinate. I am on a homeschool list and more than half I would say have chosen not to. I was amazed. I am 24 weeks pregnant and this baby will not be getting the shots. Look around at all the children with ADD, ADHD, autism. There is a link somewhere and we should be trying to figure that out.
Did you see the special Oprah did just two weeks ago. There were two very famous women on there talking about there sons who have autism and they do feel it had everything to do with the shots. Go to Oprah.com and check into it. There are books and all kinds of information out there.
I wish you the best of luck! Tell them it is a personal decision and you are well informed of the pros and cons, Thank you!
2007-10-01 05:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by copswife93 4 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I'd just tell them flat out "My pediatrician and I have come to an agreement on this issue. I am fully aware the risks and benefits of non vaccination. Thank you"
You don't need to be rude, but don't let them push you over either. Stand your ground.
They should have you sign a form stating that you are refusing vaccinations. I refused to sign mine (the form was more or less saying "Yes I know I'm putting my child in danger and I don't care") Of course I refused to sign something like that. I simply stated in writing that my hubby and I are fully educated on the risks and benefits of non vaccination.
Once this form is in your file, they should stop bringing it up.
2007-10-01 05:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Green Is Sexxxy 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
My coworker does not believe in Vaccins neither. His daughter didn't get any shot at all. She is 10 months old and she is healthy. So, it's not that uncommon.
I suggest you to be honest with the nurse. Cause you want them to have the actuate record for your son's health. This may help them to diagnose any illness quicker if need.
It's your decision to have shot or not, they can't force you to do something against your will. Best wishes!
2007-10-01 05:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Iris 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You should have your pedi put a note you your sons files that you have choseing not to vaccinate then if the nurses ask anything tell them your choice and that there is a note about it in his file
but i really hope you have made a will iinformed decision on this it seems to me you are still not sure you made the right choice if you cant speek up and tell the nurses you are not vaccnating.
really though you should get our the pedis case about why there is not a note in his file
2007-10-01 05:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by iamhuntersmommy 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
that information should be loaded in your childs file already. Its odd that you keep getting "hounded" about it, so to speak. I would most definitely speak up though.
Its a personal decision that you and your ped. have agreed on, and the nurses need to respect that.
You are your childs parent, not the nurses.
2007-10-01 05:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Halo Rayn 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That's weird.
Why don't the nurses look into the patient's chart? I would smile and say: "This decision has been discussed with my doctor, please refer to the chart."
What a pain in the butt-if anything, perhaps your doctor can specify on the chart and leave a special note not to hassel you.
2007-10-01 05:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Edith 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its your decision whether to vaccinate or not but honey I've seen someone with polio and I have seen Hepatitis B and I have had the Mumps there real and I hope you are doing the right thing My children Got vaccinated and so are my grandchildren there was no doubt in my childrens mind whether to do it or not. GOOD LUCK TO YOU and your child.
2007-10-01 06:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by twister 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I'd work on a brief answer and repeat it to them ad nauseum. Perhaps "The doctor and I will be discussing that." If you repeat that often enough, they might get the clue that you won't be discussing it with them.
2007-10-01 05:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by GranolaMom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋