Im 1/2 mexican and white. Alot of people can tell I have any hispanic and to top things off I dont KNOW any spanish.
My husband and his friend would make alot of racial jokes about hispanic people, mostly Mexicans and it made me uncomfortable but shy me never said anything.
He asked me one time what my background was and it totally caught me off guard so i just said, to see his reaction, that said I was 1/2 Cuban and white. He said that was okay, and went on about how Mexican people were different than other hispanics and no one wants to be Mexican or somethin along those lines. I planned to tell him I was actually 1/2 Mexican but that freaked me out a bit so I just left it at that.
Im not denying my hispanic side, my friends know what I am, its just since that stupid lie I dont want to go back and say "oh that was a lie"...what should I do??? Im a little afraid of his reaction...though I know he loves me more than anything.
2007-10-01 04:36:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
My story is real, thank you very much.
And TO THOSE OF YOU THAT THINK I AM DENYING MY RACE, please take the time and read the post. That is not the case. My friends know what I am.
I have grown up basically "white", my mother is all white and has raised me, I have had NO interaction with my Mexican father's side of the family (parents divorced when I was young). So no, my husband has never met my hispanic side of the famil
My husband I have a perfect relationship besides this one problem. No, I am NOT a liar either this is the only thing I have kept from him. Geez am I a horrible person for being confused? I should have never asked for any advice I should have just kept on with my mouth shut I guess.
I picked Cuban because I have been told I look like I have a bit of Columbian or Cuban blood a couple of times that is why I just said that.
I live where people make a huge deal if you are hispanic and dont speak a word of Spanish, come on people, take a walk in my shoes.
2007-10-01 10:13:08 · update #1
And thanks for referring to me as a *****
thats real nice.
So what it was bad judgement on my part thats why I am here asking for advice to make a change. geez
2007-10-01 10:16:06 · update #2
Wow. I'm half Mexican, too, from my mother. I don't understand how or why you kept it secret. And, respectfully, you are denying your Hispanic side if you've never told your own husband about your ethnicity. Why are you so afraid to let him know? Do you think he'll divorce you or what? If he loves you, he will accept you as you are.
My husband loves my mother, and he is a white boy, white boy from North Carolina who had never been around Hispanics before. I think you're assuming that it will be worse than what it is. And like Barbara, I wonder why he's never met your family. If he truly loves you more than anything, nothing will change. He is attracted to your Hispanic side, also, because that's what makes you "you."
2007-10-01 04:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia H 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well you may not be denying your hispanic background but you are denying your mexican ethnicity, which is wrong. You really need to ask yourself if you want to be married to a bigot, which you are. Why would you deny your heritage, is your husband more important than who you are? NO! I am personally offended because I am 25% cuban, what if you said you were mexican? Then he would be belittling cubans. How horrible. Personally I think you need to come clean, and tell your husband that you are mexican and that he is racist. If he really does love you then it should not matter who you are or where you come from. I just don't know how you could fall for someone who said or felt any negativity for any race as if that whole race did something to him.
P.S. I don't speak spanish either, no biggie!
2007-10-01 05:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's going to find out eventually if you don't tell him. Don't you think he'll see your parents sometime? Or he may bring up your nationality to somebody and the person corrects him. I think next time he makes fun of mexicans you should tell him that you really are. If he asks why you lied tell him that you were afraid of what he would say. Even if you did lie to him you are not in the wrong. He is making fun of mexicans. He's clearly racist. If you tell him maybe he'll stop being racist. Maybe he will break up with you. Either way will be better then where you are now. If he breaks up with you over this then you know he was not a good husband and you should be glad to be rid of him. If he changes his way you should be glad he is not longer mean to mexicans.
2007-10-01 04:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it rather is a mix. it rather is like African-American or jap-American. you're one area one race and one area american, (being american would not propose inevitably being a legal citizen of the U.S. If the two father and mom have been born in Mexico, then the baby is Mexican. A peach tree remains a peach tree no count if its' planted in Texas or in China, ideal?) in an attempt to respond to your question, whilst somebody says they are Mexican-American, it skill they seem to be a mix of the two nationalities. One determine is from Mexico and the different determine is American (in maximum situations, the different determine is Mexican-American as properly). A slang, extra technical term is chicano. even nevertheless it in basic terms APPLIES TO MEXICANS, no longer puerto ricans, brazilians, columbians, etc. in basic terms via fact they talk the comparable language would not propose they are the comparable united states of america. (Britian isn't called u.s.....)
2016-12-28 08:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by salome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married this guy and he never met your parents?
Why did you pick Cuban?
Your friends know more about you than your husband?
You have one messed up relationship. It never came up that you were half Mexican, how long did you date?
Might as well tell him. Any thing else you want to let him know while you're confessing? Were you once a man? Any outstanding warrants? Any children he doesn't know about? I suppose there is that whole "Satanic worship" thing you ought to let him know about.
Jeez
2007-10-01 04:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ay dios, this completely floored me when I read this.
So how the f*ck can you knowingly deny your roots in front of him?
Better question, why the hell would you get with him in the first place knowing he's a straight up racist to your own damn people?!?!
You are going to let him insult you, your family right in front of you and not say a damn thing! Has he even met your family? Have you no pride!?
WTF, this makes me soo f*cking pissed off, I'm Latina and I would never deny myself in front of anyone!
It's almost like you are ashamed to tell him "Yea I'm Mexicana y orgullo, so what!". You say you don't deny your "hispanic side" b/c your friends know....ha! Almost sounds like you were forced to tell them or something. Come on get real about it!
And about the situation, well......tell him! If he "really loves you" then he will accept you no matter what. Yea you lied but I don't think that hardly comes close to him denigrating your own people in front of you.
BTW, why did you say Cuban??
2007-10-01 08:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by mezclachika 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you not tell him before you were married? You married a guy you know doesn't like mexicans? So you have lied about it this whole time, and listened to his crap about your people. Bizzarre. Just tell him now. He will either leave you or stay. This is major. Be prepared for many problems because of your lie.
2007-10-01 04:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Pickles the lunch lady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the truth was known, he is part Mexican. What he needs to be taught is that the Lord said we are all equal in the sight of the Lord. God shows no partiality. He is making fun of the poor people from Mexico who cross the border to get a better life. Our forefathers said, "send me your poor." I don't think any of our forefathers who came to America would be looking at their neighbor and calling him ugly names. They needed every man back then to survive.
2007-10-01 04:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him...easy as that. And you are denying your hispanic side if you cant even tell your husband. Look we are all mixed with some other race. Are their really any pure races left? I dont know.....hummm tell him
2007-10-01 04:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Dave W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are books written about people who have come to find out they had different kinds of ethnic blood in them
maybe your grandchildren will find this out
who knows?
anyway, i could pass for filipina but i really am proud of being black
so this is a real strange thing to me
maybe you could tell him and explain to him that Mexican people are white Spanish mixed with some native tribespeople of mexico (mestizo) and that you are racially white, but ethnically Mexican
maybe hearing that it still makes you white will make it better for him
good luck
2007-10-01 04:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by soulflower 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋