hi everyone, i am a gal who is going nuts and doesn't know what to do... i have been with a guy for 5 months & we were sailing smoothly until NOW! me and him we love each other alot and he recently started and managing "businesses" in manhattan 2 wks ago and told me where he works and i went to go surprise him n dint find him there. also he told me he's a "floateR" and doesnt stick in one place. AND WHEN HES WORKING I KID U NOT HE WILL NEVER CALL OR TXT ME OR MAKE TIME TO CALL ME! n e ways i went to the same place 2x supposedly where he wrks n didnt find him there, and he told me i caused trouble 2x cuz i asked other ppl bout him 2. now i asked him clearly again where he works n he doesnt want 2 tel me n told me straight up he's not gonna tell me even though im his gf..i mean i feel sumthin is very sneaky cuz hes acting like a a$$hole. i dont wana stick with sum1 who wont even reveal where he wrks n is actin like a complete idiot.. wat should i do?''he wont tell me where he wrks!!!
2007-10-01 04:35:53 · 7 answers · asked by EpicFail 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
everyone says trust is a key factor in a relationship.. and it is true.. if he cant even tell you where he works then dont continue down this path.. next thing you know he sleeping with someone else and saying he has a late meeting or something
2007-10-01 04:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jimbo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, honey, let me tell you one thing. I am nobody to tell you to break up with him, but I think that it would be best. It's obvious he's hiding something from you. Whether it's a past he doesn't want you to find out about or whether he has someone else. Also, he could just be embarrassed about what he does for a living, so try to understand him. But that's where the problem comes in.
A relationship is based around trust. If he loves you as much as he says he does, he shouldn't hide things from you. And it's pretty clear he doesn't trust you, as you don't trust him either. You can't tell me that you trust him, because you yourself know that you don't. If you trusted him, you wouldn't be going all over the place looking for him. If you don't trust him, how do you expect him to trust you?
Think about that for a while. And whether you still want to keep him, keep him. If you don't, don't. It's all up to you now. Remember though, a relationship is based on trust and honesty.
2007-10-01 04:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Eloisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, learn to spell if you want to be taken seriously.
Second, from the way you said "businesses" I'm guessing this is only marginally legal at best. If that's the case he certainly doesn't want his girlfriend poking around causing trouble.
But even if it's completely legitimate, do you really trust a guy that can't tell you where he works?
2007-10-01 04:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't even get the truth outta him about where he works, how can you believe anything else he says? Something is definitely going on. Whatever it is it's something he knows you wouldn't approve of or he'd have told you already. I wouldn't waste my time with him. Life is too short.
2007-10-01 04:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by shellshell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not love. Maybe you love him but he doesn't love you or respect you for that matter. This is what I call a one sided relationship. Trust me, it just gets worse so dump him and run because he's playing you.
2007-10-01 04:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oooooooh ya, somethings not right. Get out now. If he hides something like where he works, what else could he be hiding? BIG red flag!!!
2007-10-01 04:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Paula D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him!! either he has another girl on the side where he does work or perhaps even doing something illegal but you don't need to get involved with someone that secretive!!!!!
2007-10-01 04:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋