i dont know what to do?

Question

i think i may be pregnant but im not 100%. i havent done a test yet as i dont think i can handle what the answer may be! ive got a lot of the signs, including putting on weight, but that could be down to the fact that my job has changed from running around all day to sitting down at a desk, and im driving now so i walk less! but i also feel tired a lot and get irritated quickly!
if i was pregnant, i dont know if i could keep it. i dont know if im ready. thing is, my sister is so desperate for a baby and she cant have them due to polysistic ovaries, so i cant exactly get rid of it willy nilly! im going to do a test later this week as its closer to my period due date, but what do i do if its positive?! i dont think my boyfriend and i are financially stable just yet, but i dont think i could get rid of it :o(

Answer 1

first, calm down, untill you know for sure, Just so you know, at first no one think they are compleatly ready. And the truth is, your not, its a learning experiance.
Two, if you really are not able to take care of this child, and your sister cant have one, you might want to think about adobtion, giving the baby to your sister, vs getting rid of it. =(

I wont get into that much, i personaly feel you shouldnt abort unless there is health problems. thats just me, when it boils down to it, its your choice. Just think of this, You couldnt give a better gift then the gift of life to your son /daughter, and two the gift of motherhood for your sister. I think thats beautiful. if you chose to do so.

Answer 2

Do a test now....
No 1 is really financially stable money doesnt matter its about love n affection n being there,
Im 22wks gone & my bf at college im working i got most stuff al ready in sales saved so much money n put money away im okay n will be okay it doesnt have 2 be the most expensive things ITS DO-ABLE.
If ur not ready could u not think about ur sister maybe she would be willing 2 help or even if u could handle it LEGAL SURROGACY/Adoption.. then u can still see the wee one n ur giving ur sister the best ever present posssible...Think about options u have 2 want a baby not just keep it as u feel u shud ITS A LIFE LONG COMMITMENT

Answer 3

If you think you might be pregnant I would not wait to test. You need to put your mind at ease and know the truth, and if you are pregnant start getting good prenatal care right away.

If you and your boyfriend aren't ready for a baby then adoption is the best choice. I'm glad you don't want to "get rid of it." Abortion is very hard on women physically and emotionally, and it's always fatal for the baby.

Remember that even if you have some pregnancy symptoms that's not a guarantee you are pregnant. Women feel tired and irritable for many reasons, and stress can delay a period.

Finally, since you and your boyfriend aren't ready to handle the consequences of sex (i.e. possible pregnancy) then the most mature thing for you to do is start abstaining until you marry (if you plan to).

Answer 4

My best advice would be to keep calm until you positively know the answer. Gaining weight and being tired & irritated are symptoms of many things, including changing your job. I had the same thing happen to me when I changed jobs, so unless there are other signs, I wouldn't worry yet. If it turns out you are pregnant, maybe you could think about giving the baby to your sister. While it might be hard, it would also be very courageous and responsible. I hope everything turns out the way you would like :)

Answer 5

yuo could be do a test. but weight gain could be explained by changes in job etc so could your mood i sometimes turn venomously evil for no apparent reason. if you do find out you are make sure you tell your boyfriend he has a right to know and make desicions together about what to do, at the end of th day it is both your desicions and don't let anyone else tell you what to do you may regret taking their advice and come to hate them. i have a baby and just before i found out i was i was ready to tell my husband i didn't want a baby as i was scared, (we were trying) and i was scared all the way through being pregnant but when i gave birth it was the most amazing thing ever and i do not regret it ever, yes he can be a pain in the neck but i love him and thats all there is to it.

just talk to your fella, be honest and good luck you will be fine x

Answer 6

Yes you are correct about waiting until closer when your period is due. I am currently doing the same thing.

Here is just something I have been told by many people about being financilly ready....

No one is realistlicly financially ready. There are always bills that need to paid, but you find a way to get by.

If you and your boyfriend really don't want the baby, maybe you sis could adopt it. Don't stress about it until you know for sure.

Answer 7

Hey dont wait for the weekend. Just do the test as soon as possible. As you are not planning for an abortion, you need to start the prenatal vitamins soon. As you mentioned your sister is very desperate to have a baby but she cant. So after the baby is born and then you & your partner still feel that you cant afford a baby, give your sister the baby for adoption. That way you won't give the baby to someone totally strange and see your baby all the time.

Answer 8

Oh sweetheart....delete this question or you're going to get a whole lot of judgmental answers which will confuse and scare you. If the only sign is weight gain, then that's nothing - you tend not to gain weight until a couple of months into your pregnancy. Take a test as soon as possible - you really need to know one way or the other, and then you need to get some proper advice - your doctor will be able to put you onto the right people to discuss all of your options.

Answer 9

Okay dont worry to much. You dont gain weight that early. But if you are preg you have months to figure out what you will do. Find out ways to bew okay financially ready. You just might have to work a bit harder and spend a bit less. Or adoption. Maybe even you sister if you think you could do that. But abortion will not make it easier believe me that can cause damage to where you may not have kids later on plus believe me the guilt and all isn't worth it! But good luck on what ever happens and what ever you deside!

Answer 10

If people waited until they could afford kids, not many people would have them.
It's natural to be scared. With my first I was in denial for 3 months. I wouldn't take a test because I knew what it would say. It took me forever to get used to the idea of being a mom, but now I wouldn't trade it for anything.
As my grandmother always tells me..."where there's a will, there's a way." If you want to have this baby, you can and will do it. Nature will kick in and you'll do what's right without even knowing it.
Good luck with everything!